All right. So what do you do if your ex tries to keep in contact with you after
a breakup? That's what we're gonna be talking about in this video.
If your ex keeps in contact with you, it could be difficult for a lot of reasons.
Like if you're trying to get back together, it could be difficult because you're maybe trying
to get it out of damage control mode. Maybe you've heard about this, no contact thing. Maybe you're
trying to do that. Or if you're just trying to move on, obviously if they keep contacting you,
it's gonna be difficult for you to, you know, get yourself in an emotional place
where you're able to move forward. This, this can be difficult in a lot of reasons,
but the first thing you want to do is ask yourself like, okay, do you actually want to be in contact
with your ex? I know there's a lot of people out there that say, Hey, just do no contact. You gotta
do no contact. Everyone should do no contact. And maybe you should too. I don't know. But I'm,
I'm not one of these people that just puts out a blanket statement that says, Hey, do no contact,
turn your brain off. Just do no contact. No contact is gonna somehow make everything
better through some magical process. I don't know. Some people benefit from that. Some people don't,
it depends on the circumstance. And the first thing you should do is check in with yourself.
Do you want to be in contact with your ex beyond that? I want you to also ask yourself, um, is this
idea of doing no contact, actually beneficial? Like, do you actually understand why you're doing
it? If you're thinking of doing it or whatever. So many people out there so many other people on
YouTube will say that you just need to do it, that you, everyone should do it, all that.
And my thing is that not everyone needs to do it. No contact should not be your only tool in this
process. It is a tool and there is a time and place for it. But it's not the only tool that
you should have at your disposal. If it is the only tool that you have at your disposal might be
time to reconsider a few things. What I would have you really look at and consider though, is,
is being in contact, allowing you to embody the person that you want to be and experience what
you want to experience in life. As you're being in contact with your ex, if you are able to do this,
then okay, fine. And you want to stay in contact with them then. Okay, fine. Uh, go ahead and stay
in contact with them. If you're not able to do that because you keep getting pulled
into these emotions of insecurity, jealousy, scarcity, anxiety, something like that.
Then you know, it, it might be worth saying like, okay, maybe I need to take a step back. I pull
myself out of this particular way of being, and then consider whether or not it makes sense to
be in contact, but we want to say, okay, how am I showing up? Like again, so many times people
are just gonna focus in on their X and what are they doing? Who are they doing it with? What does
it mean when they do this? What does it mean when they do that, that they lose track of themselves,
but you of course are an important factor in this whole experience. And I want you
to never forget that. So ask yourself, am I able to show up as the person that I want to
be? If I'm in contact with them, am I not able to show up as the person that I want to be?
Am I able to experience love, connection, peace of mind, groundedness, calmness,
love for life, et cetera. Or am I not able to do that while I'm in contact with them? This of
course is going to inform your next choice. And so if you're not able to do that, then you know,
like you don't have to play mind games or anything like that. Like a lot of people say with no
contact where they say, you know, just disappear are off the face of the earth. Pretend as if you
just got busy with something and make them guess instead, just ask them for space. You can just
say, Hey, like right now, I'm in a place where it's not good for me to be in contact with you.
It's it's not about you. It's just, just where I'm at. I just need to focus on my healing.
So, um, I'm just gonna do that. Don't take it the wrong way again. If you, if you wanna have a good
relationship, you with them, just say, Hey, don't take it the wrong way. I'll get back in touch with
you when I'm ready. That's, that's a good way to do it. If you want some more tips on like no
contact where you have this whole no contact, uh, playlist up there, check it out. It's helpful for
a lot of people. If you are actually able to be the, the version of yourself that you want to be,
be the best version of yourself, embody the right emotions that you want to experience
and all of that stuff. Um, you know, regardless of whether you want to get back together
or just move on with your life or whatever, if you're able to do that, then Hey, no worries.
Just go ahead and be in contact with your ex. We don't have to set up these hard line. Things like
always do no contact, you know, make them suffer, um, play these mind games, use reverse psychology
or anything like that. You don't have to do that. You really don't. You just have to ask yourself,
Hey, am I able to move forward with my life being the best version of myself? If I am awesome, if
I'm not okay, maybe it's time to talk about what I might do instead. Anyway, if you are interested
in working on your way of being that's to say how you embody the, the relationship and the emotional
experience that you are looking for through all of this, then what I'd really recommend you
do is go ahead and check out our Facebook group called embodied love. You can find it down in the
description box below. It's a great place to get started working with us. And it's a good way to
learn more about this way of being stuff. Anyway, take care. And I'll talk to you next time.