- Hey, what's up, it's me, Jessica J,
and I was just wondering if you've ever sat
and thought to yourself,
Jessica, how do I get a woman who is not interested in me,
interested in me?
Well, if so, I'm glad you asked,
because this is one question I get a lot at the times
from men who write in and it also happens to be
the exact step-by-step sequence I lay out
in my Friend Zone Escape Hatch program,
which is an added bonus to my Speak to Spark Arousal system.
So if you haven't gone on board yet,
don't forget to check it out at speaktosparkarousal.com.
Okay, so there's exactly four steps you need to be taking
when it comes to getting a woman to looking at you
differently because currently,
she's not looking at you at all.
So I'm gonna tell you right now,
the title is how to attract a woman
who is not interested in you, so at the very least,
this woman will be attracted to you.
However, it's up to you to have what it takes
to make her yours, in whatever way you want.
So the very first step is change her perception of you.
Whether she already knows you and already knows
that she's not interested in you,
or she just doesn't notice you at all,
you need to get her to see you in a different light.
Getting her to change her perception of you
at the very least piques her interest in thinking,
wait a minute, this is new,
because I promise you right now,
especially if you've already tried to attract her
and have failed, chances are,
you've become the toaster in her life
where you become nothing more than something
that fades into the background that she only thinks about
if she needs you.
For the toaster analogy,
don't forget to check out this video right here,
where I explain why women start chasing you
when you stop caring.
So the second step is create a connection.
What you're doing is you're snowballing
and building upon her interest.
So now you've got her interested in you,
you've gotta reel her in and make her feel
like she actually has a connection to you.
This is actually the very first step
in my Speak to Spark Arousal system,
and one thing I'm just commonly teaching guys how to do
first and foremost, because it is the most important step.
If a woman doesn't feel connected to you in any way,
there is nothing that is pulling her toward you
and thinking about you when you're not in front of her,
and that is the key to getting a woman attracted to you
is getting her to think about you
when you're not even there.
I talk about this concept of cognitive dissonance
all the time.
It's when we instinctively knee-jerk our way
into doing some things, and then afterwards, we're like, oh,
I must've done that thing because it meant something to me.
So if you create a connection with a woman,
you are therefore getting her to think about you
when you're not there,
and if she is naturally thinking about you
when you're not there, she will tell herself,
oh my God, I must like him, right?
So, because we're talking about building upon each step,
the third step is now make her feel good about you.
So going back, you have to make her feel interested
at the very least, then with that interest,
you have to create a connection specifically to you
so that she's tethered to you and only you,
and then you have to use that connection
to make her feel good about ya,
'cause what good is the connection
if she doesn't feel good about you?
I can connect very well with somebody ordering
the same exact thing at the Starbucks as me,
and I'll probably tell somebody about it later.
Oh my God, the guy in line at the same exact
skinny vanilla latte with almond milk as me,
and that'll be it.
I won't probably ever think about that guy ever again.
However, if you make her feel good,
now you are inciting emotion within her,
and any woman that feels emotionally enticed by you
is a woman who can easily be enticed into pound down.
When I say make her feel good,
I mean you have to make her laugh, at the very least.
And now the third step, the most important step,
which I talked about in my Instagram today
as to why my one cousin is obsessed with this ugly ass dude
is make her feel wanted.
If you could get a woman to feel
like she's a sexy ass bitch,
like you will want to be a part of her life
and you would wanna open up your life to her,
we are going to become very attracted to you,
no matter what you actually look like,
and no matter how much money you make, because again,
it's when you can entice emotions within women,
and when you can separate yourself
from all the other people out there
by making her feel wanted,
that's the shit that's gonna make us chase after you.
Because I'll tell you right now,
you are the only one capable of making a woman feel wanted,
which is different from all the other relationships she has.
She doesn't get that in her friendships.
She doesn't get that in her co-working relationships.
She doesn't get that in her family.
She doesn't get that from strangers,
but with men that could possibly be our partners
in partnership town or pound town,
that is the thing that makes all the difference.
So if you're having any trouble with these steps so far,
or if you know that you want to commit them
to your body habitually so that it's happening on autopilot,
don't forget to check out my Speak to Spark Arousal system,
which is going to show you how to do each step
without having to change anything
about who you are, right now.
I said it a few videos ago.
You don't have to change who you are,
but you do have to change how you are,
'cause most guys are out there just operating on autopilot,
just being polite, saying the standard shit,
but we need you.
No one else can give us you,
and that is the only way to set yourself apart
from all the other dogs out there, by being the wolf.
So check it out again at speedtosparkarousal.com.
Commit these steps to memory and watch that girl go
from one cold hearted bitch to one super hot mama for you.
And thanks for watching as always.
I'll see you guys next time.