Hi there, this is Clay and today I'm going to be answering the question of why your ex
might be so stubborn around you.
You know, why they just don't want to talk to you, open up to you or anything like that.
And oftentimes people will want to know how they can change their ex, how they can get
their ex to open up and you know, yeah, we do give you some tools for that as well.
But, oftentimes what this really boils down to is a simple case of cause and effect.
Really, and this is kind of interesting to me because I've noticed that a lot of people
don't really take the time to look within themselves.
They're just sort of caught up in the effect that they are having on the world around them.
You know, their ex wont open up to them, or whatever else might be going on in their life
with career health, whatever.
But when it comes to your ex not wanting to open up to when they're being stubborn, when
they're just doing whatever that might be considered stubborn, it really is due to how
you are bringing yourself to the interaction, the energy, the enthusiasm, the emotion, the
feelings that you're feeling yourself as you are bringing yourself to the interaction.
If you're anxious, if you're a uptight, high, strong, afraid that things might go wrong,
you know, maybe even angry or something like that, then yeah, your ex is going to be a
little bit standoffish and not wanting to open up to you.
They might come across as stubborn to you in certain ways and it's not necessarily because
of anything to do with them, although, you know, they do have their own part of that.
That's a topic for a different video.
But, the reason that they are often having that sort of effect on you is because you
are the cause of that effect.
The way that you are bringing yourself to the interaction is causing them to respond
by shutting down.
Okay?
So that is why you really have to take a look at how you're bringing yourself to the interaction
and you know, this doesn't have anything to do with like, you know, being the Alpha male
and pretending to be like this macho jerk or anything like that.
If you're a guy or if you're a woman, this has nothing to do with, you know, playing
hard to get and, you know, we all want, we can have and all that bs because, you know,
it's not really true.
We can talk about that time too, but I'm really right now what you need to be aware of is
you have to focus on how you are bringing yourself to the interaction.
You know, if there's a part of you that is sort of closed off emotionally that's holding
back, that's, that's worried about doing it right.
It's really about not making a mistake or whatever.
Then you know, yeah, you are going to have that sort of effect that on, on the people
around you.
They will be able to pick that up.
Especially if you know, you're sort of focused all this energy on like doing the riot gotta
got a when my ex pat gotta gotTa make sure that they love me and gotta make sure this
goes well.
I'm going to make sure that everything goes perfectly if that's like focused on one person
your ex and yeah, they're going to sense that there's all of that, a stakes writing on it
and they're going to really want to pull away from that because that doesn't feel good when
somebody is so, so focused on you in that sort of like clinging to a certain outcome,
like really attached to things going a certain way kind of way.
So really you want to start to open yourself up and really explore kind of where those
parts are in you that are closed off and try to open them up so you can have more of an
emotional capacity as you bring yourself to that relationship.
And you may find that suddenly your ex is no longer stubborn.
When you can start bringing more understanding, more openness, more transparency, more vulnerability,
etc.
To your relationships.
And you know, This is obviously something we can help you out with over at relationshipinnergame.com.
So, you know, if that is something that you'd like help with, please go over and sign up
at relationshipinnergame.com.
It's just down below and you know, we can get started helping you out today.
so I'm Clay and thank you very much.