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CONNECT PEOPLE FOR MENTORSHIP. BUT FIRST UP THIS MORNING WHEN NEW YORK TIMES BEST SELLING
AUTHOR RACHEL HOLLIS STARTED
WRITING HER NEW BOOK, IT WAS
ABOUT HOW TO EMBRACE DIFFICULT
MOMENTS IN LIFE.
BUT GET THIS JUST A FEW DAYS
INTO EDITING HER BOOK, HER 16
YEAR MARRIAGE ENDED AND SHE
FOUND HERSELF APPROACHING A
BOOK IN A COMPLETELY DIFFERENT
WAY NO LONGER JUST A GUIDE
DIDN'T SEE THAT COMING.
THE NAME OF THE BOOK IS A RIDE
ALONG FOR THE AUTHOR AS SHE
NAVIGATES GRIEF WITH THE REST
OF US.
WERE YOU HOPING AND DID IT HELP
YOU HEAL AS WELL JUST TO WRITE
IT?
I MEAN I THINK IT'S ALWAYS
CATHARTIC TO PUT THE THINGS
THAT YOU'VE GONE THROUGH INTO
WHATEVER YOUR CREATIVE OUTLET
IS.
SO FOR ME THAT'S WRITING FOR
OTHER PEOPLE IT'S ART OR
PHOTOGRAPHY OR MAYBE MUSIC.
IT'S REALLY HARD TO DO THAT.
IT'S REALLY HARD TO SORT
OF LOOK AT THE PAIN THAT YOU'VE
GOT THERE AND TRY AND FIND A
WAY TO COMMUNICATE SO THAT
SOMEONE ELSE COULD FIND A STORY
IN IT.
BUT THERE IS INCREDIBLE POWER I
THINK IN TURNING OUR HARDSHIP
INTO SOMETHING LIGHT LIKE
HOLDING UP A LIGHT FOR OTHER
PEOPLE WHO ARE WALKING THROUGH
THE DARKNESS.
SO YEAH, THAT FELT REALLY
BEAUTIFUL AND KIND COMING FULL
CIRCLE FOR ME THAT IS SO KEY.
IT REALLY IS LIKE HOLDING UP A
LIGHT TO GET US OUT OF THESE
TUNNELS.
THERE'S A QUOTE IN THE BOOK I
BELIEVE WE ARE STRONG ENOUGH TO
DO THE WORK OF HEALING EVEN IF
AT TIMES THE EFFORT MAKES US
FEEL WEAKER THAN BEFORE WE
BEGAN.
IT'S TRUE IT IS POWERFUL ANYONE
WHO'S DEDICATED TO A JOURNEY
OF HEALING CAN IDENTIFY WITH
THAT.
IT SURPRISE YOU HOW HARD THE
HEALING WAS.
I MEAN I THINK THAT I'VE HAD TO
YOU KNOW, AS I WRITE IN THE
BOOK I'VE BEEN UNFORTUNATELY
DEALING WITH SOME HARD STUFF
SINCE I WAS A LITTLE GIRL.
SO TO BE TRUTHFUL I DON'T
REALLY KNOW LIFE DIFFERENT THAN
THIS ONE AND MAYBE THAT'S WHY
I'M ABLE TO TALK ABOUT IT NOW
IS BECAUSE PAIN AND LOSS AND
GRIEF HAVE ALWAYS BEEN A PART
OF MY STORY AND I THINK EVEN
THOUGH I DIDN'T HAVE THE
LANGUAGE FOR WHAT I WAS TRYING
TO DO AS A AS A YOUNG WOMAN, I
NOW UNDERSTAND THAT EVEN BACK
THEN I WAS TRYING TO FIND
MEANING IN THE THINGS THAT HAD
HAPPENED AND I FEEL LIKE IF
YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO WALK
THROUGH I GOD I HOPE YOU COME
OUT THE OTHER SIDE OF IT AND
YOU'VE LEARNED A LESSON OR
YOU'VE GROWN IN SOME WAY OR YOU
GAINED EMPATHY.
THERE IS STRENGTH FOR PEOPLE
WHO HAVE GONE THROUGH THESE
REALLY HARD SEASONS AND I HOPE
THAT THE BOOK GIVES PEOPLE FIND
SOLIDARITY AND MAYBE THEY HEAR
THEIR OWN STORIES REPEATED AND
MAYBE AND MAYBE MOST
IMPORTANTLY THEY THINK OH MY
GOSH, MAYBE I NEED TO TELL MY
STORY.
MAYBE I NEED TO TALK ABOUT THE
THINGS THAT I'VE GONE THROUGH
IN ORDER TO HELP OTHERS.
IT REALLY MAKES PEOPLE FEEL
LIKE THEY'RE NOT ALONE.
I MEAN ABSOLUTELY WHEN YOU GO
THROUGH TRAUMA WHEN YOU GO
THROUGH LOSS, YOU FEEL ISOLATED
AND ALONE AND THAT'S WHY IT IS
SO IMPORTANT FOR US TO SHARE
OUR EXPERIENCES.
YOU TALK ABOUT THE COVER UP
THAT WE DO AS WOMEN WITH OUR
FEELINGS.
WHY ARE WE SO GOOD AT THAT AND
WHY ISN'T SO DANGEROUS BECAUSE
I THINK THAT WE HAVE TO HAVE IT
ALL TOGETHER RIGHT.
LIKE MOST OF THE WOMEN I KNOW
AREN'T JUST SORT OF STEWARDS
OF THEIR OWN LIFE.
THEY'RE ALSO SHEPHERDING
CHILDREN, FRIENDS, COMMUNITY, A
PARTNER.
WE JUST TEND TO BE MORE
COMMUNITY MINDED.
AND SO I THINK BECAUSE OF THAT
WE'RE TRYING TO STAY STRONG FOR
EVERYBODY ELSE AND CERTAINLY
YOU CAN I WOMEN ARE THE MOST
INCREDIBLE CREATURES ON THE
PLANET.
BUT IF YOU DON'T TAKE CARE
OF YOURSELF, IF YOU DON'T IF
YOU RUN YOURSELF DOWN TO EMPTY,
IF YOU DON'T SORT OF LOOK AT
WHAT'S GOING ON INSIDE YOUR OWN
HEART, YOUR OWN SPIRIT, THE
STUFF THAT YOU'RE STRUGGLING
WITH, THERE IS NO WAY THAT YOU
ARE GOING TO BE ABLE TO SHOW UP
WELL FOR THE PEOPLE THAT YOU
LOVE.
SO THERE IS INCREDIBLE STRENGTH
IN ADMITTING THAT YOU'RE
STRUGGLING.
YOU THERE IS INCREDIBLE
STRENGTH AND SAYING LIKE I
DON'T HAVE IT RIGHT NOW IF IF
HONESTLY FOR NO OTHER REASON
THEN I THINK THAT YOUR MODELING
BEHAVIOR FOR THE OTHER WOMEN
YOU KNOW AND POSSIBLY YOUR OWN
CHILDREN OF WHAT IT LOOKS LIKE
TO BE VULNERABLE IN A HARD
SEASON AND TO BE OK WITH
EXPRESSING IT.
I THINK THAT THE MORE AND MORE
AS A GROUP WE EXPRESS IT AND
SAY LIKE YOU SAID, I DON'T HAVE
IT RIGHT NOW.
I GOT THIS AND I NEED A MOMENT.
I THINK THE MORE NORMAL IT'S
GOING TO BE FOR US TO STOP WITH
THAT COVER UP NONSENSE.
YOU HAVE A REMINDER THAT I LOVE
WHAT WHAT GOOD WILL ALWAYS BE
GOOD.
TELL ME MORE ABOUT THAT.
I THINK THAT WAS MY BIG
DISCOVERY OF TWENTY TWENTY YOU
I I WROTE THIS BOOK I STARTED
WRITING IT IN MARCH OF TWENTY
TWENTY RIGHT AFTER WE HAD GONE
INTO QUARANTINE I WAS IN THE
MIDST OF EDITING A DIFFERENT
BOOK AND I JUST FELT LIKE THE
TONE WAS WRONG.
I TEND TO WRITE WITH A LOT
OF HUMOR AND IT JUST FELT WRONG
YOU KNOW WHEN WE WERE ALL SO
SCARED AND SO UNSURE AND SO
UNCERTAIN AND SO I STARTED
WORKING ON THIS IN MARCH.
I WAS JUST HONESTLY VERY DEEP
IN MY FEELINGS LIKE DOING ALL
THE THING AND I JUST I FELT
LIKE I REMEMBER OH THIS IS WHAT
I LOVE.
THIS IS WHAT I CARE ABOUT.
THIS IS WHAT MATTERS, YOU KNOW,
FOR SO MANY OF US WHO ARE
FORCED TO SLOW DOWN, WE WERE
FORCED TO DISTILL AND BE
PRESENT AND I MEAN THAT IS
OVERWHELMING IF YOU'RE SOMEONE
WHO HAS GOT I MEAN I'M A HIGH
ACHIEVER.
I'M DOING ALL THE THINGS AND SO
THAT PERSON WAS BIT YES.
BUT THEN I REALLY THERE WAS
BEAUTY IN IT AND I JUST
REMEMBERED LIKE ALL OF THE
THINGS YOU LOVED AS A CHILD ARE
STILL THE THINGS THAT MATTER
MOST RIGHT NOW AND WHEN WE
EVERYONE IS TALKING ABOUT OH,
WHEN IT GOES BACK TO NORMAL,
WHEN IT GOES BACK TO NORMAL AND
I THINK WE'VE UNDERSTOOD AS A
SOCIETY LIKE THERE IS NO NORMAL
THAT WE'RE GOING BACK TO BUT I
THINK THERE'S POWER AND ASKING
YOURSELF WHICH PARTS OF YOUR
PANDEMIC LIFE ARE WORTH
BRINGING WITH YOU INTO YOUR
FUTURE.
WHAT'S BEEN GOOD WILL ALWAYS BE
GOOD.
I LOVE THAT ADVICE.
HANG ON TO THE THINGS THAT MAKE
US HAPPY THAT'S SO IMPORTANT.
AND RACHEL ALSO SHARED A PRETTY
EPIC TIP TO HELP US FOCUS ON
WHAT'S IMPORTANT.
IT'S CALLED CALENDAR AUDIT AND
WE'RE GOING TO SHARE THAT LATER
IN THE SHOW.
BUT YOU'RE GOING TO LOVE THAT
SO STICK AROUND.
MEANTIME, HOMEGOODS AND
BUILDING SUPPLY STORES ARE
PACKED AS MANY OF US ARE TAKING
DIY PROJECTS TO THE NEXT LEVEL
AND MY HUSBAND IS A PERFECT
EXAMPLE OF THAT.
BUT COMING UP, WE'RE GOING TO
MEET A SEATTLE MAN WHO'S GONE
YOUTUBE FAMOUS AS HIS FOLLOWING
GROWS WITH HIS PHONE APPROACH
TO HOME MAKEOVERS AND LATER ON
IN