kissing each other.... kissing around....
Marissa what are you thinking about Indonesian men?
one thing I enjoy about being a content creator is the people I meet along the
way, I learn about the culture and differences from my own.... I am Marissa
Iskandar and today I will be sharing some culture differences between Germany,
America, and Indonesia
okay so I am here with Eike
hi guys..... yes.....
and we are gonna have a little casual conversation..... yes.....
and we are gonna be talking about like our
experiences in Indonesia...... yep....
we're gonna be comparing a little bit today about where
you're from Germany
and then where I'm from America
we're going to be talking
about the differences...... yes......
I think there are a lot..... there is a lot of differences.....
what are some things when you moved to Indonesia like culture shock?
anything different that you would
describe as different then Germany? where you're from..... that's a great question.....
yes....and there are many many answers actually for it
wow... I didn't have a culture shock
I had one as I was first time in Indonesia but that was.... I was a tourist
at that time... but after I moved.... that was 2009
so already ten years ago.... shit we're getting older....
shit...
but ummm yeah.... as I moved here I didn't have a
culture shock but there are many things.... I mean you have in every country
something that is good... and always something that is not so good.... yeah...
and okay here the
air is really not good... ugh? the air.... yes...
and yeah other things....
of course I love some people here.... I love the people... so yeah... but how about you?
okay
so I wouldn't say it's culture shock but just a couple things that were different
than U.S. was definitely the traffic here.... ooo yes... you know Indonesia traffic is like on another level here
right?
and you're from the countryside in Texas.... yeah Texas is completely different
yea that's quite funny....
it's a it's called the culture map it's a yellow book you can buy it at the most
book shops here... it's really interesting because many of you saying yeah a foreigner is
the same as a foreigner ugh...yea..but every foreigner is different... we all have different cultures
it's like we all have different cultures and it's like like you Americans as example... yes...
you are always saying everything is super great and super
super big....
and super wow.... for you every things wow.... it's overexaggerating.... yeah....
how do you say? ov-ver-ex-aggerating.... we say
overexaggerating...
overexaggerating....yes.. it's your I think it's a harmony way of
American.... yeah we like to be... or at least I do... but we're very expressive
people.... yeah.... and in my culture so maybe it's.. that's maybe where it comes
from.... yeah.... but I thought... I just thought it was
really funny that they have it in the book... yeah ummm they also compared with other
cultures in the book... so and honestly you should read the book to understand your
own culture..
yeah because Germans like we say this is
great or it's ok or something but for Americans almost everything is really
really good or really really bad so but it is really really really its really really
really important.....
is there any title in Germany what you call people? like in Indonesia
if you don't know them... we call them automatically Mrs. or Mr.
what do you call people in Germany if you don't know them? is there a specific word or do
y'all have that there? if you don't know them huh you probably don't talk to them
what if you like passing by and you just want to say hi... do German people do that?
no German don't do that....that's a big difference between America and Germany I think
yes... we don't like
to get to know people pass but you like it ugh? yea we like small talk and saying hi....
like we'll say hi ma'am.... hello sir.... that's what we call each
other... that's what we call people if we don't know them...like hello ma'am ... hello sir...
how are you doing sir ? yea and we really don't do that maybe we say good morning
good morning or something like that if you're in a village but in a city you
say nothing... yea you just don't look at other people otherwise they will think your maybe weird ... your crazy?
so if I went to Germany they would probably think I'm weird for saying hello to everybody
maybe yea...
maybe...
so but I'm wondering Marissa what are you thinking about Indonesian men?
Indonesian men....
how's it different then American men or maybe just the same men is men because
girls are always saying men are always asshole
I do think Indonesia men are more caring and I think they're a little bit
more polite and more respectful
Oh okay... I think they're smart... woaaa.... I think they're... sshhh... hahaha....
I think they're good looking... and they're hardworking and I like that a lot of them are family men
umm but my... well I am married to an Indonesian
so he always makes sure if like I ate
did you eat for breakfast? did you eat for lunch? did you eat for dinner? you see it's the same... yes....
and then if I'm sick he's very caring he'll actually serve me and make
sure I'm eating even thou.. thats really cute.... cute? ya...
what about you? what do you like about Indonesian
girls here? of course.... Indonesian girls our exotic for us.... of course you always
want ummm... something you're not or something.... like in Germany we used to hug
not we but there are many people which use a browning cream ugh...yes..
yeah but here in Indonesia
they use the whitening cream .... yes....
are you using it? I don't use whitening cream... ummm... yea... but in U.S. we
like to tan our skin... yea the same... so it's a little different....
the girls here they really like the white skin... yeah...
but I'm still on the tan skin... ya...
it's okay.... but what else do you like about
Indonesian girls? well I know you're taken... but... you said they're like exotic
but what else?
yeah I think that... whats something that attracted you to.. you have a girlfriend now?
yes.... yeah not just recently...she is Indonesian... already seven years if I'm not wrong but
I think yeah... I think Indonesian girls are exotic is the first point... some of
them are really smart.... ugh sorry I mean...
yeah no they are... not everyone but some of them are
really smart.... ya.... and they're really feminine as it
Indonesian girls are really feminine like different to German girls.... German girls
are sometimes like a guy with long hair.... something like that... really?
really masculine like you drink beer with
like your best friend and like.... ooo okay... okay I get it... Indonesian girls are
more feminine and they're more caring
like much more caring... much more caring....
and....
hahaha.....
yeah I think.... okay like carrying in what way? like an example...
ummm...wow thats hard to give an example...
no in which way ya... I mean Indonesians you know... there always... like the way they show you...
ya there always asking
have you eaten already? or no? ya.....
have you eaten already? or no?
in Germany no one will ask you... I mean also its not really important to us... ya...
of course you eat
but ugh... yea...
yea...I have a lot of subscribers they're always asking me what are some tips to like get a foreigner?
ugh....yeah..... I had some too... what about you?
so if you had any tips what would they be?
wow...I think for things like that.... it's it's just the same as if you.... just another
person there's no special tip to get to know a foreigner.... right.... I mean also to marry a foreigner or
not.... it depends on the person or the character... yea it depends because everyone is different....
yea you have to like him he has to
like you... just be yourself and just be yourself...
I can't say any more about that....
just be yourself and don't pretend to be someone else and do something strange just
because you want to get to know this foreigner
if you think hey you want to get to know this
person in a restaurant or something just talk to them.... maybe it's working.... maybe not
with Germans maybe not because they're not open to talk to people you don't know....
but with Americans maybe easier...
so ya just
talk to them.... just get to know.. but don't get weird because
I also have sometimes on Instagram that people are getting very weird I guess
you also know too... yeah ...
ya...so but what do you think? do you have any tips for them? so I
would definitely have to agree with you to be yourself but I also think that you
should not be too aggressive.... oh yeah thats right....
yes... and not psycho
definitely.... and the best way for me how I built a relationship with my husband
we started out as friends....ya...
usually any relationship whether you're dating an Indonesian or
any kind of race you start out as friends and you can build a nice healthy
relationship out of that... it's more natural.... yep....
I think.... you know?? that's completely wise....
I mean you really get to know the person for who they are and its just natural...
yep...... and honestly ... yea...
to be yourself
be yourself...don't be over aggressive and be who you are
I fully agree with you.... I can't say more too it
I mean there's not.... I mean for us it's not like we're searching for the specific race....
you're searching for Indonesians.....
yea its not like that
it's just like who you're
compatible with... yep...
who you have chemistry with.... yep...
I mean who you connect with
yep....
and that's also the way we met our partners... ya....
thats how we met... thats how I met my husband... that's how you met your girlfriend....
its just like that..... I mean that's a tip for everybody that
is... wants to know... it just happens naturally
you don't choose and pick what you want.... you want a European... you want a Australian....
you want a New Zealander
it just happens naturally who you fall in love with
or who you like... yep...
the most important thing for me... I like....
this is my opinion personally... I like confident people...
I like
confident people and also passionate people that have something
that they are passionate about in life
oh.... there's one secret tip.. what? go study abroad....
so what I'm still wondering Marissa how was the first time that you
came to Indonesia? how was it with the food?
I mean I know you're from a culture with a lot
of different foods
from everywhere in the world... yes...
but how was your first time in
Indonesia? with Indonesian food?
okay.... so I was a very picky
eater when I moved to Indonesia... I believe so...
so the first time I ate Indonesian food it was really hard for me to get adjusted to the different seasonings, spices, and
then the texture.... yeah...
it took me a while because I was a really picky eater but
once I started to make youtube videos I really started to appreciate all the food and
just everything.... and then I really became an Indonesian food lover
and really appreciate food
whats your favorite food?
ooo I have way
too many..... I can't say favorite but I do have
favorites.... what's yours? my favorite food... there is too many because Indonesian food
is great..... yea...
so how was your time when you moved to Indonesia? what did you think about Indonesian food?
when you first came here? was it easy for you to eat Indonesian food?
so that's a really good question and really funny one because the first
time as I went here it was as a tourist in 2009
I was one month in Indonesia and I had one
months diarrhea
hahhahahhaa....
because my stomach was really not use to it.... ooo....
this kind of food and I
also told my parents the food in this part of the world is so different to
what we know
is so completely different..... ya it is...
but there was a time after I tried
somewhere asian food and then more Indonesian food I realized.... oh my god it's so great ...
yes....
they have so many different types of foods here
and now I love it yeah.... and now I think
it's not so different to German food anymore as I saw that in the first
moment but umm of course its different...
like spicy and everything ... yes....
yes spice is on a whole another level here....right? it is.....
here like everything you eat here is spicy food
it is....everything that comes out majority of it
I would say 80% is all spicy food... yea...
you have to tell them to not cook your
dish spicy.... ya... most of the time not all the time....
that's right.... yeah....
in Germany the most spicy thing we know is the doner kebab
with some chili flakes on it....that's the most spicy thing and when you say to your
your friends like you're eating the spicy kebab today....there like oh.... come on..... after I had
real chili's here.... and a lot of
chili's..... this is spicy....
in Germany.... if Indonesians eat it with the chili flakes
on the dinner... oh it's like nothing for them..... ooo its really nothing...
so now you can eat spicy food?
yeah I got used to eat....unfortunately.... and I'm still getting used to it.....
yea... I am still learning....
but I'm not there...you can do it...
I hope the next time when we meet you can eat more spicy food
normally in Germany with people we don't know
normally we shake
hands but the shaking hands is different to the shaking hands in Indonesia
in Germany you make it quite... you show that you're strong... like really arrrghhh...
but here in Indonesia you do it really soft....ugh? or sometimes they kiss you
like one... two....
ya....like kisses on the cheek... like in Indonesia? ya... ok..... sometimes I notice
that they don't really say hi.... they'll be like ... ooo.... your so skinny... ooo your so fat now.... thats true....
instead of like ....how are you? it's like straight to the point real quick.... yep
and avoid the hi....the problem is as I went home for Christmas I also said to my mom ooo...
your gemuk... not gemuk in english your also bigger now ya....
ooo and she was inside and all my family was
just like really quiet.... like you know.... like in a horror movie...
it's not like.... it's not polite.... you
you don't do that in Germany... and in U.S. you don't that... you don't speak of it...
unless you really maybe know that
person really well... it's usually the mom maybe telling the kid or your grandma
but it's not a topic you talk about... ya completely not at all....
but here its normal ya? ooo its so normal
ooo and then they say your more fat or your getting more fat
I have one other problem and don't know
yeah... because you know this like shaking hands.... you shake hands really soft
in Indonesia... ya... and then you go to the heart
do you know that? no...
they're going to the heart like shaking more heartly or...
how do you say? more... there is a better way... not just shaking but then hand to the heart..ooo.... you never heard of that? no I have never heard of that..
ahhh ok.... that is interesting.....
I learned it from my teacher.... from my professor from Sumatra
so the problem is.... I mostly do it also in Germany and some people ask me
Eike why are you doing it? are you washing your hands? like is my hand not clean enough or why?
so they think it's an insult.... like actually in Germany.... yeah....
it can be to people there.... that is completely different.....
okay lets start... okay....
I want to know if a lot of German people know about Indonesia?
wow thats a really good question.... like do they know where its at?
or have any knowledge about Indonesia stuff? so I studied actually Indonesian the language...
as I told the people in my village... yeah.... they were like ooo thats nice....
so where can you use it in which country? in Indonesia..... where is Indonesia?
it's the one with bali?... ahh bali...
ooo its next to bali... oh no no Bali is a part of Indonesia.... yes...
yes a lot of people when I first
to Indonesia they were like where is Indonesia? wait is that
Bali right? that's Bali... I am like yes Bali is in Indonesia.... but I think in Germany
many things changed already in the last five years
but like the people that do know a little something
about Indonesia they know Bali
yea Bali is really known... because a lot of the celebrities that
are from America they come in vacation in Bali... so there like really...
starting the tourism for Indonesia but it's only in Bali... yeah but that's also
in Germany ...Bali is famous as Hawaii.... Hawaii and Bali there the most dream isalnds...
right? woaa...
okay so this is a wrap so thank you for
being my guest today and I had such a fun time converstating... it was good fun... about just
everything about the culture and the differences between Indonesia and
Germany and also be comparing it to America... it's very interesting right? yep....
it was... it was... thank you for inviting me today Marissa...
thank you ... I had a good time...
so I will see you all on the next video and until then
keep living, keep exploring, keep eating.....