Hey! Before i get started, let's do a quick test here.
Look at these two photos. So tell me what is your first reaction when you look
into those two photos? Do you find it funny? Did you laugh? I'll
be very honest with you, the first time i looked into that photo
i instantly burst out laughing.
But you really shouldn't. In fact you should feel sorry for that person
because that fall can cause severe injury.
This photo has been on the internet for decade
and i do hope now he is okay. I just want to share something personal with you,
many people see me as a generous and kind person
but from time to time i would have intrusive
thoughts, and have the urge to do something even i know
it is wrong. For instance i want to see someone
fail when they are trying hard. I feel jealous of
other people's success. I might have the urge to gossip.
I could be complaining and blaming other people when things
aren't going into my way. Hmm probably i can refer
that as the dark side of my heart. There's no way i'm going to follow these
ideas, but sometimes i feel ashamed and guilty just by having those
thoughts. I even doubt myself, well maybe i'm not
a kind person at all or maybe one day i'll just
voice out my thoughts which might end up hurting
other people. So i have a look on the internet it turns out everyone
will have intrusive thoughts. It's normal. It's just that if
you don't manage it well, either you're going to
give in and become a not-so-kind person, or become depressed
because you are so obsessed with it. So i have done my research and in this
video i'm going to share three tips that i find it very helpful
in dealing with these unpleasant ideas. Hello everyone my name
is Keith So, and i create content about career
empowerment for young professionals. If you find my video helpful be sure to
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means a lot to me. Okay first thing first you have to know
that nearly everyone will experience
intrusive thoughts at least once in their life.
It's backed up by research. That means you are not alone and it is
natural. Another myth is you might think these
thoughts pop up because your subconscious mind
wants to do that and you might not be as good as you think.
wrong, wrong, wrong. In fact it's quite the opposite.
As i said these thoughts are uncontrolled
so if you are worried, then doesn't that mean you have
self-awareness? Doesn't that mean you are a thoughtful person?
So you shouldn't beat yourself up, instead just ignore it,
and let it slip through. These thoughts don't have a meaning, so
it'll just be a waste of time thinking about it.
So as i said earlier it's best to laugh it off
but sometimes it's not as easy as you think.
We may still feel ashamed or guilty when there's an urge to say or do
something inappropriate, and if there's only one thing that i can
recommend you to do, that has to be meditation. I'm a big fan
of meditation, it comes with so many benefits
and many successful people practice meditation daily, so why not? When you
meditate, you focus on your mind and your breathing pattern and
eventually you get rid of those feelings that don't
belong to you. And did i mention there are different
types of meditation there's one type of meditation
called gratitude meditation? As the name suggests you will be
expressing gratitude for the things in your life
during the meditation process. So why being grateful matters? Because
that allows you to express compassion and kindness and also
gives you positive energy which prevents those
stupid thoughts invading your mind. It just makes you a
happier person in general. It's a life hacking technique and i
strongly recommend you to do so. Okay so the best way to prevent those
toxic emotions from arising is to develop a positive
attitude. Simply put if you are positive then you
are immune to negative thoughts. Apart from
meditation, there are plenty of ways to uplift your
mood. Well obviously the easiest way is to
smile more. Even you're sad or not in the mood, by
all means just smile anyway. Smiling can trick your
brain into believing that you are happy even
it might not be true, but that doesn't matter. It makes you happy anyway.
Another way is to help people out. Try volunteering.
When you get to help someone you know you are making an impact to other
people and that's so rewarding and so satisfying.
And of course it's totally fair that you could be too busy and don't have time to
help out. If that's the case then try donating. It
doesn't have to be a lot, by starting with donating ten dollars
every month, you can already see the difference. The
thing is when you are doing good deeds you'll satisfy your top level of the
hierarchy needs, you're just going to feel great about it.
And of course you are just not going to pay any more attention
to those negative thoughts. So the reason why i'm making this video
is negative thoughts comes into my mind more often than it used to be
and that really affect my mood. Well I guess
at uncertain time like this it's quite reasonable
that people are going to see things a lot more
pessimistically and that's why it's so important to look after our
mental wellness and come up with plans when you're feeling distracted
by those intrusive thoughts. Okay so as a recap
first of all it's natural to have intrusive thoughts
because we're human beings. We're not perfect. It's totally fine.
Don't bother and move on, and if you are concerned
try meditation and cleanse your mind. And lastly try to maintain a positive
vibe by appreciating things around you. You
can laugh more, you can exercise more, of course try to help other people out
when you have the capability. So that's my take on dealing with
intrusive thoughts. I hope you find this helpful, so comment
below and tell me what you're going to do.
I'll be very interested to know and again if you find this helpful be sure
to like and subscribe. I guess that's pretty much it and i'll
see you in the next video. Signing off.