- Have you ever seen a message
from a girl pop up on your guy's phone
or do you think your guy is talking to other women?
Or are you scared to find out if he is?
We're going to be talking about this today.
Hello ladies, my name is Ieva.
I am Greta's sister and one of her High-Value Women coaches.
And in this video, I'm going to be sharing six reasons
on why you're guy is still talking to other women
and what you can do about it.
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Without further ado, let's jump into the first reason
on why he's talking to other women.
So the first thing that you have to ask yourself is
when is this actually going on?
This point is very important because we need to identify
when your guy is actually
potentially talking to other women.
If you guys or are for example, only dating
and you're not official yet,
then he is allowed to talk to other women
and date other women and you are as well,
and that is simply because you guys are still dating.
So that's very clear and simple.
However, when you do get into a relationship with your guy,
he should not be talking to other women in a sexual manner
or flirting with them behind your back
or hiding it from you.
If he does do that,
then I actually consider this as a form of cheating
because his intentions are sexual towards those women
and he is actually hiding it from you.
If he is, however, simply talking to his work colleague
about work after hours
because there is a project that's going on
and you guys are in a relationship for example,
I think that is totally okay.
The second reason that we're gonna get into
is why does he actually do it?
For one, there can be many reasons
why a guy talks to other women.
Again, like I mentioned in the first point,
you have to understand or identify what type of conversation
is actually going on.
For example, is he DMing women on Instagram?
Does he send sexy pictures of himself to other women
or is he talking about the latest work project
and is simply texting with his coworker about it
in a very neutral manner?
These are completely different scenarios,
so you have to identify for yourself
which scenario your guy fits into.
The number one reason why your guy
might be talking to other women in a sexual manner
or have that intention is most likely
because you have been acting low value.
There can of course be other reasons involved.
However, the one thing that we as women can do
is reflect on our own behavior
and that is the most effective thing that we can do
because the only person that we can change
is ourselves, right?
And we should reflect on our own behavior,
and I know this can sometimes sound harsh,
but I really do think it's the truth.
This is also a way of how we as humans can immensely grow,
when we look and analyze our own behavior.
I don't want you to understand this differently
that I'm actually trying to get it out there.
I don't think there's anything that justifies cheating.
It is the cruelest thing
that has ever been done in a relationship.
But the one thing that we can look at is men psychology
and why men actually do this,
and analyze our own behavior as well.
So you have to ask yourself some of the following questions.
Have I been acting low value?
Have I been mothering him?
Have you been overgiving him attention and validation?
Or maybe you've been nagging at him consistently
for a longer period of time.
If that has been the case
or if you can identify with any of the low value behaviors
that I have mentioned,
then these behaviors really do push men away.
This can be one of the reasons why he is doing these things
especially if he's sending flirty
or sexual messages to other women
or is hiding things like that from you.
If you have not been acting low value,
but you have been high value most of the part,
then maybe he is simply like that.
The third reason or the third thing
that you have to ask yourself is, do you trust him?
You have to remember
that there is no relationship without trust.
You have to be able to trust a man.
If you are in a relationship with a man
but you are not able to trust him for whatever reason,
it's going to be really hard for you
and you actually might react to things
that you shouldn't be reacting to
or you might get paranoid if you do see a text,
for example from his coworker.
Being scared that he might talk to other women
or having the need to check his phone
or ask him where is he going?
Who is he talking to?
Who is he going out with?
Who he's texting.
Or acting suspiciously all the time
literally breaks up relationship.
A lot of the time, I honestly see a lot of women
worrying for no apparent reason,
and in most cases it is simply because past experiences,
past relationships and insecurities that women have.
So if you are feeling worried about your guy
that he might be doing something behind your back,
make sure that you are actually worried for a good reason,
that there is reason to worry
and not that it's just simply your insecurities
that are making you feel this way.
If he loves you and respects you
and you are acting high value
and he has good morals and good values,
then you are most likely just acting paranoid
and simply feeling insecure.
The fourth question or the fourth reason or the fourth thing
that we have to ask ourselves is
can we actually make it stop?
Can we make him stop texting other women?
Can we command him to not do that?
It's a very important rule of thumb
when it comes down to relationships,
and that is that you cannot control your man
and it's not your job to do so.
You should not under any circumstances reach out to the girl
that he is communicating with or has texted with.
That is simply marking your territory as a woman
and it is extremely unattractive
because it is pursuing the guy, right?
It's the desperate and it's very low value.
So whatever you do, do not reach out to the woman
even if you know who she is.
Don't stalk the woman
and don't communicate with her privately
under any circumstances
because doing so is simply low value.
He will think that you absolutely don't trust him,
and trust, respect and love
go completely hand in hand when it comes down to men.
So you don't want to give him the impression
that you don't trust him.
So we come to the fifth point
and that is what should you actually do.
For one, there are a couple of high value things
that you as a woman can do.
For one, you should and can adjust how you act.
Do not throw a tantrum about it.
Don't confront him about it.
Don't speak or start a conversation about it.
Instead, act high value or as high value as you can
and see if his attitude and most importantly his actions
are going to be changing.
If you however know that he has cheated on you
and he really did mess up in a way
whether that is literally physically cheated on you
or emotionally cheated on you
or has been extensively texting and talking
and reaching out to other women
and you are 100% sure that he is doing that,
then you do have some options.
For one, you can either walk away from the relationship
and move on,
or option two, you can remove yourself from him
for a certain amount of time,
until he essentially comes back to you
and starts trying his absolute best to get you back.
Whatever option you choose, you can't simply ignore cheating
or ignore really bad behavior
because if it's not gonna have a consequence,
it's not gonna be changing.
And the consequence has to be big,
and the consequence is very important.
So his behavior, his bad behavior has to have a consequence.
Only then will his behavior change.
If the consequence is not big enough,
then men or people in general
will simply repeat their pattern of bad behavior.
So if you find out that your guy is texting
or reaching out to women on social media
and you decide to not break up with him
but to really like pull away completely, right,
then that is gonna have to be the consequence, right?
And he will only get some of your attention
if he really steps up his game, okay?
So the consequence would be
to really, really, really, really, really pull away, okay,
or break up, right?
Either or, but there has to be a consequence,
that is extremely important.
For example, if you would just nagged him
and complain to him about it, nothing would change.
Maybe it would change for a couple of days
but his behavior of texting other women
would be back to normal.
In order to know what type of consequence
it should essentially be, we need to know your exact story
and everything that is happening.
That way we can give you one-on-one,
100% personalized advice,
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down below on Greta's website if you need help
or if you need help specifically in this direction.
The sixth thing I want to talk about
is how to actually go from here.
If you are upset that he texted another girl,
if you found out that he is cheating
or you are paranoid that he is not faithful,
but you don't really have real evidence to prove that,
there is one thing that you can for sure do,
and that is get busy with your life.
Pay more attention to yourself.
Be more caring towards yourself.
Start acting high value by not confronting him.
Having your standards and sticking to them,
mostly paying attention to his actions and not his words.
Looking at how he's treating you
and how he's acting around you,
but building a life for yourself
that really does bring you joy.
Make sure to not neglect yourself at hard times.
Support yourself instead.
That is the high value way.
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