so there's a lot that Shane Dawson is going to be able to learn from Jeffree
star throughout this series so in this video
we're gonna talk about the importance of mentors and also well Jeffree star turn
Shane Dawson into a psychopath what is up everybody this is Chris from the
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alright but yeah anyways in this first episode of the beautiful world of
Jeffrey star there were something really interesting that popped up and I'm like
this is a great great great topic when Shane was talking with Ryland about
things that he'll learn from Jeffrey star
okay but a lot of people think that you are doing well and you are doing what
you're just not doing jeopardy well I am in my merchandise company and current
manufacture everything myself so I have about ten businesses though that I'm
currently running besides my brand which is the giant cosmetics company so I'm
constantly doing shit and people don't really know about it I don't talk about
it because I don't think it's exciting I don't think people are gonna want to
watch your seat I do bad you want to like try I want this series but also
this year like I want to be smarter like this is one of the most important things
that I I just wish everybody would understand and that is find yourself a
mentor alright if you like reading Russell Brand came out with an amazing
book earlier this year called Mentors and he talks about the importance of
mentors and I can really relate to Russell Brand because I too am a
recovering addict I've been clean for seven years and we're taught that in
various recovery programs and things like that but Shane Dawson talking about
you know not being that great with money and you know Shane Dawson hasn't really
ran a business before he's written books and you know he sells merchants things
like that but there's a lot that he can learn from Jeffrey star and just here is
just one of the one of the most important things that I learned like if
there's somewhere that you want to be like you want to go learn from someone
who's already there or who has been there like no matter what it is in your
life like for example me like I have a variety of mentors I have mentors who
helped me with YouTube and I get to talk with them about that stuff I have
mentors who are writers and have written books so I could talk to them about
those things I have you know mentors you know for my recovery for my mental
health and just everything that you can think of also I'm terrible with money
too so I have mentors who have helped me
become a little bit more financially responsible alright and part of this
requires like humility and recognizing like we don't know everything and the
best thing that we could do is find somebody who does understand this all
right one of the best things about mentors that I learned when I first
asked sober is they are free alright so anyways um therapy is a great option
like I have a therapist as well but there's much so much a therapist can
help me with so if you can afford therapy get therapy alright but that
doesn't mean that you shouldn't have mentors as well because a major part of
improving our mental and emotional well-being is having a support group but
a great example of this is when I first got sober I had no money no health
insurance nothing I didn't get sober through a rehab like many people are
able to do so I had to find a lot of mentors in my recovery programs who knew
how to stay sober knew how to be happy and get their life back together I had
to learn from those people so like I I know I get a lot of messages dm's
comments and things like that like but Chris I can't afford therapy find people
who are where you want to be and start talking to them like sometimes you
literally just ask them like will you be my mentor you know what I mean and like
it doesn't have to be like on a career path like if there's somebody who is
just happier than you are and you're trying to figure that out like how is
this person so happy so serene so tranquil like reach out to them and
talk to them and say how do you do this another great option too if you're low
on money is something that I've been really diving into the past few years
which is books right like some of the greatest wisdom throughout the history
of mankind is documented in books alright so if you have that kind of like
social anxiety and you're not you know up to like reaching out to people you
just don't know anybody who might make a good mentor like pick up some books now
some of you are probably wondering about the title of this video so yeah well
Jeffrey star turn Shane Dawson into a psychopath so another one of the great
books I just finished reading was the psychopathy test by Jon Ronson
alright and he's an amazing author I love that dude the first book of his I
read was so you've been publicly shamed those of you who know me
that was very relatable but anyways the psychopathy test is a great book but it
has these kind of twists and turns like first he goes in just kind of try to
learn more about Psychopaths but then he starts to figure out that you know
there's a difference between like being a pure psychopath and having
psychopathic tendencies alright so before anybody jumps down my throat and
says oh you're diagnosing Jeffrey's are no there are things like tendencies
Logan Polly we talked about it during a Shane Dawson series with Jay Paul but a
lot of us have tendencies right a lot of us have psychopathic tendencies or
narcissistic tendencies and all these other things and sometimes there are
benefits to turning them on and off so let's talk about this for example like
there are many you know entrepreneurs business owners CEOs who have
psychopathic tendencies and that's what's helped make them successful but
what I'll talk about in a second is about how it all comes down to balance
so when you're looking at people like Geoffrey star and Shane Dawson so Shane
Dawson is on this kind of journey to figure out how to start you know you
know working in the makeup business and you know there's kind of already bits of
talk about how ruthless it can be and like we've seen previous for the
upcoming episodes and everything like that and anybody who follows Shane
Dawson and this is something that came up when he was making videos with Kati
Morton is Shane Dawson is an empath he feels a lot of what the other people
feel right so what you're having with Geoffrey star is this kind of balance
because Geoffrey star in order to be successful he has to be able to detach
himself a little bit from those emotions and that does not make you a bad person
because there are many times where having psychopathic tendencies does
benefit you and it benefits others as well here's a great example
so something they talk about in the psychopathy test book is like a dentist
right a dentist who needs to disconnect himself emotionally right when he's like
doing dental procedures on people another
I'm example is my son was born via emergency c-section and now he's this
healthy young man of ten years old and like I think about this and professions
where you need to have psychopathic tendencies when you perform certain jobs
like think about if the doctor who performed the c-section to save my son's
life if he was like cutting into my son's mom just like oh my god I feel so
bad for cutting into her all right he has to be able to detach himself
emotionally from that so looking at Jeffrey star-like and just
businesspeople who have to do that I just finished this amazing book I've
been waiting four months for it to come out
it's called stillness is the key by Ryan holiday oh by the way I'll make all
these books out in the description below if you want to check them out but
anyways he talks about in this book like one of
the chapters is about learning to say no and not giving up too much of yourself
so the dude who started American Apparel like that whole company went out of
business because this guy gave too much of himself he wasn't able to detach
himself emotionally and say no in certain situations so something they
talked about in the book is that it gave everybody a cellphone number and
everything like that and when the company was smaller that was something
he could manage but as the company grew and grew and grew and grew and grew he
was giving way too much of himself and I can relate to that especially with being
too emotionally invested so like I said I'm a recovering drug addict and
alcoholic when my addiction first kicked off I was a service adviser at a car
dealership I was so emotionally attached to everything that I did that it led to
me being absolutely miserable and drinking myself into blackouts every
single night because customers who come in with their broken cars some of them
were traveling some of them didn't have the money to fix their cars sometimes
the technician would mess up they'll call it sometimes parts you would get
ordered incorrectly and everything like that and I felt so much and so bad that
I would go home and just drink myself stupid because I was so emotionally
invested in everything and again like I said this doesn't mean you have to just
stop but a skill that we can develop is
learning when to balance that emotion the last example I'll give you is after
I got sober I was working at a drug and alcohol treatment center for a little
over three years and I developed a lot of relationships you know just helping
clients on their path of recovery and you know while they were in treatment
because I was running groups and doing one-on-ones and everything like that and
I dealt with a lot of death there were over 70 deaths in the three years that I
worked there and sometimes I would get a call or a text or a message that someone
just died and it was like right before I had to go in and do a group in front of
50 60 clients right and if my emotions got the best of me I would not be able
to be a service to the clients I was about to go help you see what I mean so
I was able to learn how to detach myself from those emotions and kind of even
shift those into motivation to help people like anytime I got a call that
someone had relapsed or passed away and motivated me to do that next group even
better to try to help these people right and thank God for my support group
because I didn't just stuff those emotions down like we have to feel these
things it's just sometimes there's a time and a place for them you know what
I mean but thank God like after work and everything like that like I was able to
turn to my amazing support group my mentors and everything like that who had
been through this before and they were able to help me out emotionally so I
hope that makes sense and finding that balance so I hope we see during this
journey with Shane Dawson being mentored by Jeffery star-like I think we've
already seen it in some of the previews where Shane Dawson is gonna have to
learn to become a little bit a little bit more of a badass you know what I
mean in order to survive in this industry but anyways that's all I got
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