This is relationships with anybody.
Your husband, your wife, your boss, your parents, your children, anybody.
Over in Greece, and it’s a tradition, tradition with the Greek people on, in Greece, a lot
of them over here in the United States don’t do it, ’cause they’ve left the traditional
area.
But when the older folks are talking about a new couple that’s gotten married, and
they’re fighting and they’re arguing, they say, “Oh listen to them making love.”
Now you stop to think about it a little bit it’s like, “Everything that couple does
is making love.”
Not having sex, ’cause they, we’ve got making love as sex.
Sex is a, a biological responses of the body.
That’s why you can have prostitutes ’cause that’s where they do it.
But making love, and love making is, that no matter what happens in that relationship,
it’s all love making.
Even when you go, “Just shut up, and sit down, and don’t talk to me!” is love making.
It’s not sweet, romantic, unless you say, “Look how cute they were when they did that.”
A lady friend of mine in California, when people get upset with her, she goes up
and she goes, “Oh you’re so cute when you’re like that!”
And they just go, (J-R makes a funny face!)
It’s like they can’t make any points in anger, so they have to make the points rational
and factual, and she’ll go along with it, so if they say, “Well my point of view is,
and I want you to follow it!”
she’ll just say, “Oh you’re so cute when you’re like that!”
When I was very, very young, I was with my brother way up in a canyon, and a guy came
up and he says, “Boy,” he says, “Your mom’s looking at you, she’s just gonna
beat the hell out of you when you get home.
She’s saying she’s gonna skin you alive.”
And so my brother was starting to take off, he says, “Wait.”
And my brother stopped and he says, “Don’t go home now.
She’s ready to skin you alive.
In about another hour or two, she’ll have forgotten that.”
So my brother stayed out and played.
When we got home, she’d forgotten about it.
Watch this obedience thing that you just obey everything so rapidly that you get yourself
in trouble.
Let the wisdom come in.
Y’know like sit with it a little bit and go.
And that’s his favorite story.
If he’d here, he’d, he’d jumped up and said, “Don’t you tell that, that’s my
story!”
And I’d go sit down to let him tell his story.
But he’s not here, so I stole it from him.
And he’ll never hear this.
I’ll make sure of it, I’ll get the tape and keep it.
But you know what I’ll do?
I’ll keep it and then when I visit with him I’ll say, “Hey, by the way, I used
your story in a, in a meeting.”
He’ll go, “Ah, it’s okay.”
Then I wonder, why all the worry about the tapes, and him worrying and that?
That’s my nonsense.
That’s my inner peace, that’s no longer at peace.
So I figure if he’s gonna say, it’s okay, it’s okay then, it’s okay now, drop it
and let it go.
What if I’m wrong?
I’m gonna have peace for days, and days, and days, and days, until I have a little
bit of upset with him.
Instead of having upset, upset, upset, upset, upset, and maybe peace.
That’s a wrong approach.
I want more peace and less upset.
But he can yell and scream, and if I just look at him and go, “Oh, that’s such a
cute thing you do,” I might just shame him out of ever doing it again.
Knowing my brother, I would.
He’d go, “Don’t do that!”
Do you ever get people who are like that?
Aren’t they fun?
Then you go do it on the other side, and they say, “I thought I told you not to do that!”
“You did, I’m not doing that side anymore.
I’m doin’ this side.”
See how they, you get how the humor comes up inside?
That’s preliminary to peace.
Soon as you can start to laugh about all your anger, irritation, upset, and you go, “Ha-ha,
ha-ha-ha-ha, ha-ha-ha!”
Okay, now we’re in peace again.