Nikah between a Non Syed boy and a Syed girl – Can a syed girl marry a non syed? In our
family, we only marry to syeds. Marrying non syeds isn’t allowed in our family which
is why sometimes girls stay unmarried for quite an age.
Answer: Shari’ah says that a girl should be married to the person of the same calibre(kufu).
Like a match of the same levels. Meaning that the boy to whom she is being married to should
be of the same level in atleast 6 aspects. That is wealth,piousness,ancestry,social status.
These are some of the main ones. Other than that his family is to be assessed too. Intelligence
and knowledge too. If a highly educated scholar girl is married to a 3rd class failed man
then this is a match of unbalanced calibre. A man is permitted to marry of someone of
a lower calibre than him and is even advised to. But a woman should be married to a person
of the same calibre. This is the basic principle of Shari’ah. As Syed is a descendant of
Holy Prophet PBUH, it is better to marry a Syed girl to a Syed boy. But a lot of people
make 2 major mistakes . They see that they need to marry a syed to a syed and that both
are equal in ancestry but they aren’t equal in other aspects. Like a girl is very Islamic,
pious and a Syed but the boy is not Islamic but is a Syed. Whereas Islam focuses on being
Islamic first. Caste and ancestry as priority and keeping Islam as optional is what people
are doing nowadays. When we explain it to them, they say that they are following Islam
and its instructions. This isn’t a marriage of the same caliber. The non syed boy who
is great in Islam and piousness is 1000 times better than the syed boy who isn’t Islamic
at all. This is one mistake that they only check if the person is syed or not. Another
mistake is that if they don’t find a suitable syed boy, they make the girl wait. The religion
that says that the girl should be married to the same caliber, also says that the delay
should not be unusual or too much . I know a lot of people who kept their daughters unmarried
upto 40 years age just because they couldn’t find a suitable boy. This is cruelty. So the
father of the girl should marry her daughter off by first checking the piousness. Later
on he should be checked of the same nationality. If he isn’t then still you shouldn’t delay
her marriage. It has too many drawbacks. Summary is that syed’s delaying the marriage in
search of a suitable syed boy is not right. Another thing is that you find a syed boy
for her but the girl doesn’t like him. And the boy that your daughter likes is a non
syed. Here shari’ah says that getting your daughter married without her consent and choice
is not allowed. If you forcefully make her married to a syed boy who she doesn’t like
then you are violating the instructions of shari’ah. Although you are checking religion
and caste but you are not acknowledging your daughter’s choice. It is best to get a syed
married to a syed but other traits should be kept in mind too such as not forcing your
choice on your daughter. Keep Islamic behavior and the age of your daughter in mind too.
Question : Fasting on Friday – Can we fast on Friday? = Faizan Tariq from Kashmir
Answer: A sahih hadith states that the Holy Prophet PBUH said [Arabic] that Friday shouldn’t
be made special for fasting and neither should Friday night be made exclusive for worship.
Its true depiction stated by narrators of hadith and the scholars is that you can worship
on Friday night and fast on Friday during the day too but don’t make it exclusive.
What this means is that if you thought of fasting on Wednesday but you said that maybe
you would get rewarded more for fasting on Friday then this kind of mindset is not right.
Making Friday exclusive and delaying the thought that came to your mind on Wednesday is not
the right thing to do. Similarly you thought of praying tahajjud on Tuesday or Monday night
but then you decided to sleep tonight and wakeup on Friday night thinking that the reward
would be greater then this is wrong. Don’t make it exclusive. But if you always get recalled
to do the good act on Friday or Friday night every timebecause of your off day thinking
that you have more time to sleep during the day so you can worship on Thursday night then
this is fine and you will be rewarded greatly. Specifically fasting on Friday or delaying
the execution of an act of worship without a reason is not right. But if you have ease
on Friday then it isn’t a problem. The summary is that it is allowed but you shouldn’t
make it exclusive and delay your prayers and fasts thinking that the rewards might be more
.