[Festive Music]
Good morning
You can't tell that it's morning because this is England and clearly light...
...not a thing!
But yeah, look, I've put the hair put it into rollers, I'm gonna take it down see what happens.
I'm gonna film a little hair tutorial today that is a bit different the ones that I normally film because
normally obviously, I film the putting it up into rollers
and then taking it down that makes it so much harder for me to edit and to film.
It takes just soooo much energy
and I get really drained from the filming in the evening, the night before.
So, new idea is that I'm just going to do it in the morning and
show you what it looks like when up, like so and then take it down do stuff with it
and edit that and that will be the tutorial.
Should mean that I can get much faster video tutorials out to you.
Today's look is going to be a kind of Betty - Betty Grable!
I've posted this on my Instagram and you guys said you quite liked it and that you would like a little tutorial
so and that is what this will be.
And then I'm going to edit it and hopefully get it up to you this evening, as well as this video this vlog
So, yay!
Hopefully, it's just a kind of new way of trying stuff out. I thought vlogmas why not, why not try new things?
[Music: Instrumental version of Jingle Bells]
Hey, hair tutorial filmed...
Delightful!
[Laughs]
Right, now I'm going to edit this and make sure that it goes up today along with this vlog, obviously,
that I'm making right now because I'm just a glutton for for punishment
*slash* I actually really enjoy editing.
[Laughs]
Normally I don't get my hair videos up the same day that I make them because I find them quite difficult,
'cause there's my voice over and I have to get someone else to help me with that
but hopefully
the way that I've shot it this time, will mean that it's much easier for me to do.
Hello hello!
So today is a rather grey day in Brighton,
so I thought that I would make it less grey by wearing this super fancy dress.
[Laughs]
Isn't it fabulous?! I love it!
Absolutely Mother Christmas...
*mmm mm*
[Laughs]
It's originally Hell Bunny. They sell vintage clothes, true vintage clothes.
I actually have a really nice blue dress from them that I'm gonna take to get altered
and then they also sell reproduction dresses, like this one.
*mmm*
So cute. Look at this, it has these lovely buttons. It's lovely split collar...
[Jessica sings a little tune]
...and the shoes today are of course matching because everything has to match...
[Feet tapping]
[Laughs]
...these are from Lulu Hun and my tights, they're actually white tights.
[Taps foot]
Hello my feet got cold, so now I'm no longer wearing my pretty heels and I'm wearing...
my welly socks! Ooh yes, they are stylish!
So today, I have been editing. This is Claudia's laptop by the way.
[Laughs]
"GayTube"
Oh yes!
We got that at the LGBT party, Coming Out Party...
[Snaps fingers]
the Stonewall Coming Out party at YouTube space, London.
That's a long name for a party.
*Umm*
It was in my 100k video that you saw.
So I was editing my hair and I just wanted to say one thing,
I sort of said it earlier that it doesn't, it doesn't matter.
Don't worry too much about perfection because
nobody knows what it's meant to look like so...
You're good.
But I just want to add that I think the most important thing is that you feel good in yourself.
I particularly have comments at the moment like,
"You look so good without makeup".
"You don't need to wear makeup."
"You don't need to wear...
fancy clothes, you look better when you're normal".
and Rikki mentioned this in her vlogmas,
which I think it was her Day 4, (I'm gonna say day 4) when she did Cruelty Free makeup.
Rikki Poynter (like that)
I'll link that too in the description or something but
she said that people send her comments saying,
"Oh you don't need make-up"
And it's like, yes.
I know I don't need it. I realise that but I quite like it. I like wearing makeup.
I enjoy having Red lipstick on and that's the important thing,
whether you are someone who doesn't wear makeup, who does wear makeup,
who does lots of stuff to their hair,
Or just absolutely nothing.
The important thing is that you feel good about yourself and sometimes I look in the mirror,
"What am I wearing?
"What is that?"
"What is this outfit?"
"This outfit is madness!"
That unfortunately, it happens a lot.
I think just to,
"What the hell are you wearing Jessica?"
"What is..."
But the thing is the way that I dress, even though it might look a little strange to some people
and I do occasionally get stopped in the street.
I say occasionally, it's every time I go out...
[Laughs]
at least 2 or 3 people, who comment on my clothes.
It's just the way that I like to dress and I don't feel very comfortable dressed any other way.
If I was wearing jeans and t-shirt, I would feel sooo incredibly out of place
and so uncomfortable.
I did it once for Halloween.
*Umm*
And I dressed as a, well my friends called it a "Justin Bieber Lesbian" so a lesbian you dresses like Justin Bieber?
And I felt terrible.
I was wearing jeans and a t-shirt and check shirt and trainers and I just felt so...
bad!
I couldn't describe it, the awful feeling that I got.
I suppose it's the same as if you're a tomboy and you get forced into a dress for a day
And you just hate it. It's not you!
See I think the important thing is just that no matter what anyone tells you,
people around you might say,
"Oh, don't dress that way."
"Looks so strange."
and everyone always comments, and they look at you...
So what!
As long as you feel good about yourself, that's all that really matters.
The second thing that I want to talk to you about, that I noticed in the comments section,
this is the thing,
I look at the comments but I get too tired to reply. But I do read all the comments.
Thank you.
Try me on Twitter. I don't have many Twitter followers. (laughs). So if you tweet me...
So I was going through the comments and one of the things that popped up a lot,
that actually has popped up ever since I first, made my first video I think,
on this YouTube channel, just a little over a year ago and
and that is, "Am I disabled enough?"
"Do I count, Jessica?"
"Do I count? Am I allowed to call myself disabled?"
And that's heavy. That's a big thing.
Personally for me, I tend to go by the actual description of the word "disabled".
[LAUGHS]
The dictionary definition of "disabled", it's an adjective.
A person having a physical or mental condition that limits their movements, senses or activities.
if there is something in your life to do with your body, whether it is the chemistry of your brain
or your actual limbs or even your fatigue levels and it affects those three things...
Then yes,
I would say you are disabled. I would say you totally have the right to call yourself "disabled".
It's another matter if you hate the word disabled and you don't want to be called that.
That's fine if you prefer,
"Handi-capable"
Or I'm trying to think of something else, another term that people use to mean disabled
but not the word disabled.
*Umm*
"Neuro-Diverse", if people use the Neuro-Diverse to mean that they are not Neuro-Typical.
Any- If you are willing to respect that then yes that is that's fine, go ahead
but my point is that, if you want to be called disabled because you feel you have a condition that is disabling you
then, yeh!
Completely, that's on you, that's your right.
You know your body,
you know what you're limited to, by whatever your condition may be,
I don't think anyone else has the right to turn around and say to you,
"Uhh excuse me, I don't think you're disabled enough".
Disabled enough even, I don't think there is such a thing!
You may not know this about me but ten years ago,
Ten years ago, I was on in a BBC3 show called Britain's Missing Top Model
And it was all about disabled models trying to break into the modeling industry
And it was a six-part series, following us as we did different model-y... things.
It was basically America's Next Top Model
but... British.
A lot of the conversation that came out around that show, about hierarchy of disabilities.
"Who's disability is the worst?"
"Who's is really bad?"
"Who's disability is like... meh? You know they're not even really that disabled."
"Whatever."
And I'm sat here like, "Umm* No, no actually. I don't think that is the case."
I think, I don't think there can be a hierarchy of disability.
I think definitely someone can have my condition and some of them have the same condition
and this person had far more side effects and symptoms and it hugely impacts their life
and someone who has it mildly.
Like for instance, Cerebral Palsy because there are different levels of Cerebral Palsy
I don't think that anyone has the right to turn around to someone and say,
"Oh you! Yours isn't that bad so actually you're not disabled."
I just hate that there is any fighting at all, ever, in a community that should be banding together.
We're the largest minority yeah, we're the largest minority in the UK
I don't know about that in America
And I feel that we should always, always be sticking together to help each other out.
As someone who is disabled and has a voice and is able to share that voice,
I think that it's my duty to be able to stand up for people who can't,
who can't use that voice.
Who can't speak even.
Who can't get their needs across to the outside world.
So what I'd really like to do in the new year...
let's go for things l'd like to do in the new year. I'd really like to do some more disabled advocacy and
to speak at more things, as I did at the Labour Conference,
Yeah!
Which if you want to see my speech, I'll put a link down below.
But my point is, my point about all of this:
You know who you are, so you be you.
You be strong in yourself and I will be sat here supporting you.
And if anyone is mean to you, you can send them to me but I will fight them.
I mean I'm a pacifist but I will fight them with words or maybe I'll just set Tilly on them to be honest
because she kisses and licks more than you think, than you can stand.
Truly, this is just so much love she will basically overcome someone with love
and then they'll be nice!
[Cheery Music]
J: Hello, Baby.
Claudia: Hi!
J: What are you doing?
C: I'm currently writing all the Thank You cards to everybody who got me lovely gifts
or sent me birthday messages on my 30th birthday.
Actually, I want to say thank you to everybody, um you know, through the 'Tube,
[J: Laughs]
for your lovely messages
J: Through the 'Tube?!
C: Yeah
J: Okay
C: I'm sure someone else has said that.
[J: Laughs]
Youtube and the 'Gram,
Insta'.
Okay, I'm not going to try pretend I'm down with the kids... [inaudible]
J: [Laughing] Yeah, she's thirty now.
C: I'm a Granny.
J: [Laughing] You're a granny!
You're definitely not a granny, Baby. We're not even mummies yet.
C: We are mummies
J: Oh my God if we were if- *gasps* imagine if we were dog grannies, I'd be so upset.
You two do you hear me? We don't want to be dog grannies!
Stay safe kids, stay safe!
Umm... What am I doing right now Claude, while you write your cards?
C: You are making me dinner.
J: *Mmm*
C: 'cause that is your wifely duty.
[J: Laughs]
C: And you said you were gonna make me something healthy.
Well actually I always, I'm always craving something like pizza, burgers or like cheese toastie
[J: Laughs]
Basically everything that I'm apparently not allowed cause I'm - according to Jessica -
J: Ahh
C: Apparently I'm gluten and lactose intolerant.
J: Um according to your skin and stomach, you have gluten and lactose problems madam!
C:You're probably right
[Both laughing]
C: So anyway, you're gonna make me a gluten and lactose free...
Oh is it, it's not actually completely lactose free is it?
'cause you're gonna put some mozzarella on it, 'Cause it wouldn't be a pizza without mozzarella.
J: It wouldn't be a pizza without mozzarella, yeh.
C: I know you can get weird lactose free mozzarella, but I've tried it and it's like plastic
J: Yeah, we did try that that was so bad. Yeah, no
C: Nah / J: No
C: We're not vegan, we don't have to bend that far.
J: But I balance it out with lactose free cheddar so two types of cheese
C: Mmm I'm looking forward to it!
The first meal you ever made me was a gluten-free pizza.
J: Oh my god, yes, it was ah yes
C: It was a that cauliflower...
J: yeah
crust based pizza. So lots of grated cauliflower...
J: Mmm
C: Then put onto a pan and then milk with cheese mixed into or something wasn't it.
J: Yeah, yeah
C: It was crisp then take it out and just put all the toppings on, that was good!
J: Indeed!
C: And I was like wow, this one's a keeper.
J: [laughs] Marry this one! She will make...
C: For once in my life I haven't woken up with flatulence
[Both Laughs]
C: But yet I still had a pizza, this is a miracle!
[Both Laughs]
J: Oh my gosh, well this one's gonna be a sweet potato pizza
C: Oh okay
J: Because I am of course obsessed with sweet potato. Got to fit it into everything!
[Festive Music]
[Music: Instrumental version of Joy To The World by Watts/Handel]