hello my beautiful frens
it's nina and i am back
so this is a get ready with me
i moisturized my face like 3 times just now
just because i can't get my thoughts across
but a while ago on instagram i asked you guys for
questions relating to advice that you wanted from me
that was a long time ago
but now i am here and i am going to give you advice
based off of your questions
so let's get into it
so i have the questions here on my lap
which is why i'm looking at my lap, i have my phone down here
but i'm also trying to beat the time
i'm filming at 3 (pm)
not a good time to film but i don't have any other time
and i want this video up before 2019
so we're going to try to breeze through this but you know what
i work well under pressure
i actually don't this is kind of terrifying
we can do this
i'm going to give you that good advice
but now i'm going in with my bb cream cushion
it's the klairs mochi bb cream cushion
i was trying to remember the name of this cushion
because i know it has quite the name
so the first question is: is college easier than high school or just not as stressful?
well
i don't think either is easier or more stressful
i think they both kind of suck
i just think that both are
stressful in different ways, that's the way i wanna put it
i don't wanna say that college is less stressful
or easier than high school
but i also don't wanna say that high school is easier than college blah blah blah
in high school obviously you're preparing to get into college
so there's a lot of pressure
on students to do as many extracurriculars as possible
to get good grades because all your grades count
towards your application for college
there's just definitely a lot more pressure and competition
but then when you're in college
that kind of stress goes away, you're not-
actually no that's not true
if you're going to grad school, that's different
because then you have to actually care about your future again
and you have to go through that whole applying process again
but even if you're not going to grad school
you have to apply for jobs or internships because
now you're becoming an adult and eventually you're going to need a job and all that kind of stuff
in college you just have more things that you need to do
so that's why i'm saying it's not
less stressful it's just different stuff that you need to do once you're in college
so honestly they're both terrible
kidding
getting an education's great
and i am thankful for my education
but also
it can be hard
but in my opinion
college i think
if you manage your time well it's not
that stressful
because like if you have a paper or an exam
and you had like a month to study for it
but you only gave yourself two days
to do the paper or study for the exam
then those two days will be stressful
but if you give yourself a good amount of time
which i sometimes do
then it's not as stressful
so it really is about time management and how
you carry yourself through either high school or college
next question is: how do you balance youtube and studies?
so i get this question a lot i also answered it in another video but
why not answer it again
by the way i'm just going in with concealer
the brand's right here
also holy frick i look pale
so as you know i uploaded videos weekly
during college
which was lowkey kind of difficult to do but i managed
at least for me i was fortunate enough to have
time to dedicate myself to youtube
i had a three day weekend and luckily i
didn't have much to do on those 3 day weekends
except for youtube and studying and doing homework
that usually would be on a sunday
so it really just depends on how much dedication you have
for youtube
i've done youtube for a pretty long time and so
i'm kinda used to it
and i know kind of how to balance it
and i know how to manage my time around youtube because i know how long it can take
but that's just how i did it
i had 3 days to do youtube
i'm kind of worried about the next semester
because i don't have a 3 day weekend
i have two days, just a regular weekend
i have saturday and sunday
i have classes monday through friday
i don't know why my class decided to have monday wednesday friday
and the classes are like an hour long each
but at my school it's 50 minutes each
so i don't know what the point of that was
we could've easily done an hour 30 an hour 30
but no we're going 50 50 50
but that's fine
i'm looking hecka pale
next question is: how do you deal with criticism?
in the beginning i used to be kind of sensitive around
criticism because i would take it personally
even though i know that most of it is constructive criticism
to help me grow
but in the beginning it was kind of challenging because
i would think that any criticism was like an attack
i would think that oh i don't need to change anything
why are they acting like this
why are they saying this blah blah blah
but
there's nothing wrong with growing, and there's nothing wrong with
checking yourself, making sure that
if there's something that you can change
it's not a problem to change it or try to change
because no one's perfect
so it is about kind of having
confidence in yourself
but also realizing that
criticism's not always negative
it can sometimes help you
so the next question follows into this topic which is
how to be less hard on yourself
now it took me 21 years to get to where i am
we live in an age where
we're constantly seeing other people's successes
we tend to want to show the good stuff about our lives
we want to show our accomplishments
you start to compare yourself to others
and you're like, i have to succeed right now
because all of my peers already succeeded or are getting there
why am i still here
social media and all that, we just
kind of think that we have to do everything before we turn 30
but that's not true, a lot of people succeeded when they hit their 40s
a lot of people succeeded as adults
obviously there are a lot of people succeeding
young these days
and there's nothing wrong with that either
it's just about remembering that everyone
has their own pace, everyone has a different
path that they're going on
so just try to compare yourself less to other people
especially those who might be really successful
because they had certain circumstances, experiences, opportunities that led them to where they are
not everyone has that.
just be proud of the accomplishments
and all the steps that you take
to get to where you are today
because you've done something to get to where you are now
i feel like i've been doing the same step for like 2 hours
there's a lot of time in our lives to get to where we want to
so even if other people might be pressuring you
to hurry up
and get somewhere
just remember that it's your life
you came into the world
this is your life
even if people might want stuff from you
and want you to be somewhere
it's your life
be patient with yourself
but remember that
there's beauty in growth
and there's beauty in accomplishing what you want to accomplish
just try to enjoy the journey
and anyone who's being toxic to you
anyone who's telling you to hurry up
don't take it to heart
but also just try to have a good pace
i don't even know if my eyebrows are even
my eyebrows are cousins
they are not sisters
the next question is: i struggle with being social
i'm always scared i'm going to disappoint someone. help
i used to be afraid that i would bore someone or
that i just wasn't interesting
so it really was a lot about me worrying about other people
worrying about how they viewed me
because i wasn't the best at socializing with people
i was a very shy, insecure person
it's just remembering that people have different levels of energy
some people like not talking a lot
and some people like talking a lot
i'm kind of in the middle of all that
for some people i might be boring or i might talk slow
but to another person i might talk a whole lot and i might be annoying
so it just doesn't matter what other people think at this point
what really matters is how you think about yourself
because people have different views of you
and it really doesn't amtter
someone might think you're boring, someone might think you're annoying
just be you
that's all that matters in the end
but just remember that being social
is also another thing about experience
and personal things
about your psychology and how you grew up and all that
some people are just more comfortable being social
and some people just have a harder time
next question is
how to be better at managing your time as a college student
i kept a bullet journal
not everyone has to use a bullet journal
just personally for me i
use a bullet journal, some people use
planners or agendas, that kind of stuff
so it really depends on you but just have something that allows you to
write down your tasks
manage your time
you could use google calendar or whatever online calendar
if you want, if you don't like actual physical notebooks or planners
wow i put on a lot of bb cream i didn't notice that
just try to keep a schedule for yourself because in college
you're going to have to do that
i literally would plan down to every single minute
because it got to that point
just don't overwhelm yourself with a bunch of clubs
and all that
remember your limits and try to remember that
you can't do everything
the next question is
how do you learn to accept your failures in life, but still learn and grow? (school, job, etc)
so as i've mentioned before
life isn't perfect
and it's not easy
and you're not always going to get what you want
even if you work really hard for it
it really depends on circumstances
and all that
so i just try to remember that
the journey is also very important
the destination, once you get there, what's left, you know?
bumps in the road are not fun, they suck
and you think that nothing good is gonna come out of this
but life honestly keeps going
and naturally you're going to find a way out of it
in life there's a plan b or c for everything
it's just those other plans might not be what you want
and that's an important thing to remember, is that
these detours are not always good, but they're still there
like for example for me
when i didn't get into the colleges that i wanted
senior year of high school
i thought that was the end i thought i disappointed everyone, i thought
i'm not going to college, this is it
but i remembered there's community college
and i'm not saying community college was this awful thing for me
it's just it wasn't a path that i planned on
but eventually it became the only viable option for me
so i had to take it to get somewhere else
but eventually i finished community college i had a great time there
i learned a lot and i transferred to
a university that i actually wanted to go to when i was a senior in high school
i transferred to uc berkeley
and now i'm going to go on a different path
once i finish university
just remember the journey doesn't have to be awful, it doesn't have to be scary
these bumps in the road, these failures lead you to other options
and it makes your journey just a little bit more interesting
next question is
do you love yourself? i don't know how. it sucks
i mean personally for me
over the years, over the 21 years that i've existed on this planet
i've learned to appreciate my life
i like that i get to experience life
and i get to live a life
it's really just crazy to think about
in this universe you get to exist
you get to exist on this planet
you get to grow and you get to
experience things
whether they are good or bad
i know that life's not perfect
but
the fact that i get to experience it is amazing
no matter how imperfect life is
i've learned to appreciate existing
especially because i was in a car crash recently
that kind of opened my eyes more and made me realize that
it's great that i get to be alive
personally i am still learning to love myself
but i don't hate myself
i like who i am
and i like who i'm going to be
i don't know who i'm going to be
but i like that i get to live to experience
who i'm going to be
my philosophy is just not having high expectations for yourself
and just really enjoying the fact that i'm on this planet
because i think that's pretty cool that
i get to be a part of this life
and i get to experience being on earth
that kind of stuff
why am i getting emotional
life is not easy
and it's definitely not perfect
i am definitely not where i want to be
but that doesn't mean i don't like where i am
i'm not here to be someone
i'm not here to achieve a certain thing
i'm just here to try to live the best life that i could possibly live
you know, obviously i have goals for myself
but also i'm not trying to
be the most, whatever person
that's not what i aim to have in my life
i don't know how to explain it but
i just am trying to enjoy life as it is
obviously in this economy and this society
it's nice to be financially stable
but i'm not out here with a certain mission
or a certain goal that i want to achieve
i just want to be able to experience each day
that didn't really answer the question but personally
i appreciate my life
and i appreciate myself
even through negativity and even through
hard times
i remember that this is still my life
and that a better day will come
because these negative experiences
i've gone through a lot of them
and they all passed
and life keeps going
the next question is: i'm 19 and i have never been in love or had a relationship
and i feel a lot of pressure
i love you nina
i love you too!
and, um
reading this question
well, i'm 21
so come back to me when you're 21
ok well
also another thing about me is that
i believe we're not here to find a person that we love
you know, i think that
our
well personally for my life
i mean
i'm 21 and i've never really experienced any of that either
but i've kind of learned over time
just how hard having a relationship can be
you know, i've never been in one but i've definitely heard of a lot of relationships
they just seem like a lot of work to me
obviously there's value in having a relationship with someone you love
but in my life
having a relationship just seems like something extra to me
like i really have to be in love with that person for me to
be like dedicated to them but
otherwise
it's just not something i aspire to have
just because they are a lot of work
honestly
you might see the positives about a relationship
but you don't really get to hear a lot about the negatives
i've seen the negatives
i've heard about them
for me i like being single
i think it's a lot of freedom
i don't have to work my schedule around someone else's
and i don't have to deal with another person
the way that i put it
i'm not against the idea of having a relationship
but it's just for me it's not really something i need
i have to take care of myself and i have to get through my life, you know?
if you find someone you love
then it'll happen but otherwise
you don't have to push yourself to find something
because that's not a lot of fun
also of course my camera died
so here we are again
you shouldn't have to force yourself into a relationship
because that can be mentally draining
especially if you don't have the same energy and love for that person
it just feels like a whole lot of work
and then you might as well just be single
just know that it's more common than you think to be single
because you might see couples everywhere but honestly
i know a lot of people who are still single and
it seems normal to me
but i know a lot of people in love
and so it can be a great thing but also
it's also not a bad thing to be single
that's what i'm saying
take it from a person who is single
and the final question because the sun is going away is
i can't decide if i should go to a community college first or go straight to a 4 year uni
so
if you're asking this question in the first place
that means there's a little doubt
and that means you should probably consider
community college
now let me get into this
going to a university
you're dedicating yourself to
this institution for the next four years
you're surrounded by people constantly
and you're literally
stuck at this university for a very long time
because you're most likely gonna have to live on campus
especially if you're a freshman
at least when i was in community college i was able to go home
and i was able to be with myself
away from other people
not compare myself, not think about what other people are doing
things can change so much within a year or two
so there was just a lot of room for thinking about myself
while also taking classes to finish my general education
and eventually transfer
but it really depends on the person, i know that a lot of people went undeclared
and they eventually found what they wanted to do
in the university that they went straight into
but also
i have to mention
that transferring is also not perfect
you're not guaranteed to go to the university that you want
i was lucky enough to transfer to
the college of my choice
within two years
it takes a lot of time for transferring
but i managed to transfer in two years
some people take 3 to 4 years
so i'm not saying you should go into a community college
if you don't know what you want to do
i'm just saying that
in my experience
i was able to find myself
so if you're not happy with where you get accepted
as a senior in high school
that probably means
why am i doing mascara with this hand i could just do it with this hand
don't dedicate yourself to those colleges
if you're not happy with them, you can try again
but also
transferring is not perfect
results may vary
but at least from my experience
i'm happy that i went to a community college and then transferred because
i really didn't know what i wanted to do and if i dedicated myself to
a university that i didn't really enjoy
i would've studied something else
and my life would've been completely different
this is so strong
i need a tissue
also i do have a new lip product
i'm not using my [other] lip tints currently
but i really like it and it's from 3ce
and the color is daffodil
and it's a velvet lip tint thing
alright so that is it for this video
that is it for this get ready with me
and that is it for the advice that i gave in this video
i don't really know what i talked about
everything just kinda flew out of my brain
it's been a while since i've seen these questions so i hope i gave some good advice
but that is it for this video
and that is my last video for this year
for 2018
2018 has been probably the most
hectic and life-changing year of my life
but it was such a good year because of you guys
you guys were honestly the best part of my year
i've been through a whole lot this year
i've been through a lot of moments of growth
and change
and i've definitely experienced a lot
and through it all you guys were there and
i'm not gonna be emotional but
i'm very very thankful for your existence
and your love and
for you being here
i've gotten to hear a lot of stories from you guys
and i've gotten to meet a lot of beautiful people
i'm very thankful for you guys and
yea
if you guys didn't know you do have a nickname
we came up with it on twitter
a follower of mine actually tweeted this out to me
about a name idea
we discussed and we decided to go with
neenyu!
which i think is really cute
the meaning is so cute
and it's just
i explained it all on twitter and all that but
neenyu is what we came up with
and i don't know when i'll call you guys that
mostly on social media just because i got tired of saying followers
but yea
that's all i wanted to say
thank you guys for giving me an amazing 2018
and i'll see you next year!
i will see your lovely face in a few days
/ 2019
thank you for watching
and we will end it with our last hug of 2018
i love you guys so much
and
this was an emotional video, anyway
goodbye my frens, i love you :)