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everyone today I'm going to answer a question now most of my audience are
women and so a lot of the questions tend to be towards the female side of life
and I have received so many times this question and I never really addressed it
and I thought today I'm gonna share with you my thoughts and my answers to this
question through the years people have often asked me Tessie I want to live
like you do but my husband is against it do you have any words of advice for me
it is a hard question because everybody's family dynamics are
different but I'm going to share with you a little bit of my thoughts a lot of
times women would say they like canning and they want to do all these things but
their husband isn't for it and while having a husband that is on the same
page as you it's really important and it can make
your life a lot easier I'm aware that a lot of people don't have it quite like
that so what do you do what do you do if you like to save money and what do you
do that you like to live this lifestyle but your husband doesn't like it I don't
have the perfect answers for you and I'm not Dear Abby but yet I like to answer
you as much as I can when you ask me questions I've been asked a lot of
questions in my lifetime a lot of them been very very personal and seven-member
more generic but I've answered every single one of them I feel it's important
when you're on the internet and in the public eye to be as straightforward as
you can and to not have any things hidden in your life and to share your
life I am an open book my husband is on the same page as me in
fact he's even more frugal than I am he would live in the mountains without
electricity and a Shack if he could and I would love to live that way too but I
think he would really really like to live like Daniel Boone days I like
having my internet and I like being able to talk to all of you so in that part of
my life I would be hard for me to give that up
for him he could live the rest of his life without the internet not so much
with me so you have a husband who isn't into what yours what you're into and so
that's the question one thing you have to understand is men don't like change
no matter what kind of change that is men in general don't like change
so all of a sudden you're starting to turn into somebody different they don't
understand that all of a sudden you start one to live the simple life all of
a sudden you want to start canning and gardening they think whew something
happened to my wife bring her back because they don't like
change it's not necessarily they don't like
what you're doing now it's the change of it it's like whoa so the first thing you
want to do is never force this lifestyle on anyone never forced it upon your
husband never bicker about it never complain about it
never try to change him because you're not gonna change him by trying to
persuade him so what are you gonna do you're gonna live your life you're gonna
live your life the way it makes you happy in other words if you like canning
then do some canning and enjoy it and enjoy the food and the work from your
own two hands if you enjoy being outside and working
in your flower beds maybe adding a little bit of a tomato plant here and a
parsley plant there do it and do it enjoy it don't be hurt if your husband
isn't on board with it don't be hurt if your husband doesn't praise you or
doesn't give you compliments on saving money but just wait just wait before you
think all is lost your husband is watching you I can guarantee you that
he's watching you and seeing what you're doing are you becoming happier are you
becoming more satisfied in life are you becoming more abundant in your life he
sees that he's not gonna tell you right away but he's watching men aren't the
kind that can give praises all the time or give them right away some men are
very emotional but other men don't show him
so if he's not complimenting you on anything don't let it hurt your feelings
just enjoy it for your own sake you know this thing is about losing weight don't
lose weight for other people do it for yourself
don't be into homesteading don't be into canning for other people if you enjoy it
do it for yourself now if you don't enjoy these things don't do them it's no
use you do these things if you don't enjoy it because that's part of this
life is the enjoyment getting from working with your hands some of you work
away full time you don't have the time to do all of this but yet some of you do
this in your leisure because you know it helps your spirit and it helps your
emotions and it helps your anxiety so if your husband's not for it just silently
just enjoy it have him see you with a happy heart haven't seen you enjoying
what you're doing I'm telling you it will make a difference maybe not in a
day maybe not in a week but I'll tell you within a year you'll see a
difference creatures of habit they like to be in their own world and everything
just exactly the same men like it that way and when there's a change
it makes them frustrated and it makes them anxious a lot of them won't admit
that but that's how they are and men are very visual so they like to see what's
happening and so just talking about stuff they're not gonna really be
excited but I think if they start seeing it so instead of saying you're gonna do
this you're saying you're gonna do that or saying you want to do this and do
that let them see you doing it without saying it so if you want to make GM and
jelly start out with that don't talk for weeks on end about making it just do it
and be in your kitchen and just enjoy it and maybe when you get out of snack or
two and have a piece of toast bread ask him would you like to have some of my
jelly on that bread you know where to get to a man's heart is through his
stomach you took a little bit of what I had to
say and I hope that you can use that to your
advantage and you can use that in your life skills and I hope that it inspires
you because when it all comes down to it if you don't have a piece in your mind
you're not going to have a piece in anybody else's mind the peace that
passes all understanding living this lifestyle comforts me and gives me a
piece it just takes away all the stresses of the world and when your
family and your husband and your wife or whoever is in your life sees that they
will be happy because you're happy happy wife is a happy life and a happy mama is
a happy child and it all reflects once again with each other often times
children will talk about their childhoods because they will remember
times when their mama was really happy in life they remember these things and
when their mama was sad or upset they remember these things that's why
divorces are so hard on children because they see the turmoil in the parents life
and that is reflected on to the children the turmoil in your life is reflected on
to your husband the turmoil in your children's life is reflected and so when
you don't have that turmoil in your life you in turn create peace at the end of
my sentences a lot of times I'll go hey that's not fake I have such joy in my
heart that I can't contain it and it just comes out it just oozes out of me
because that is the life that I'm living I'm living a life that is so happy and
that you can live - even if your husband doesn't necessarily like what you're
doing you can be happy in with yourself and in turn your happiness can't but
make other people happy that is the rhythm of life that is how life goes
that's how life is it's the universal life it's the way
life is when you have happiness a positivity you reap happiness and
positivity whether it's in your loved ones or it's just reaping it from
yourself these things happen and so if you have a
desire to be a homesteader or a homemaker canning you can do these
things listen you don't have to live on an acre of ground you can live in a
high-rise of New York City I've seen it being done get little plants and put
them at your window sills buy a quart of berries and make jam with it just the
other week I had three pints of blackberries pints and I made five pints
of jam with it you don't have to grow it you can buy it little bits here and
there you can't dry your own food you can buy
bananas you can dry them there's so many things you can do it doesn't matter
where you live it doesn't matter you're handicapped you
can do it you can do these small things yes not everybody can lug five ten
fifteen 20 gallons of water at a time you don't have to do that you can do
little things it gives you purpose every human being on this life on this earth
it came with a purpose God has a purpose for everyone we're not here simply to
live and die we don't have a purpose so what your purpose is is your purpose you
may not have my purpose in life and I may not have yours find what makes you
happy find what gives you purpose in life do
you like to draw do you like to sing what do you like to do so many times as
adults we just throw away their childhood dreams because we think it's
too late it's never too late as long as you have bread on this earth it's never
too late you know what I tell people my dream of dying would be is to be out in
the garden and to just lay down fall asleep and that's where I would die is
in the garden that's my dream when my days are numbered my dream is to be here
doing what I do every single day doing what I do and falling asleep
and my life is complete don't live in the what-ifs
you don't want to die just thinking whatever I wish I could do it do it take
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