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>>> NOW
>>> NOW FROM THE AA TRAVEL ALCOVE, HERE'S MARGARET
LARSON.
LARSON.
LARSON. >> WE ARE IN THE THICK OF
WEDDING SEASON.
WEDDING SEASON. IT'S A GOOD TIME TO TACKLE THE
ETIQUETTE QUESTIONS FROM CAN I
BRING A PLUS ONE TO WHAT
SHOULD I WEAR.
WE HAVE AMY VALLEJO.
SO TIMES HAVE CHANGED.
THAT'S THE MAIN THING.
NOT YOUR GRANDMOTHER'S
WEDDING.
WEDDING.
WEDDING. SO, WHAT SHOULD WE THINK ABOUT
BEFOREHAND IN TERMS OF THE
COUPLE AND THE EVENT AND KIND
OF CLUEING INTO THE VIBE OF
THE EVENT ITSELF?
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH. WELL, DEFINITELY TIME FOR
CHANGE.
CHANGE.
CHANGE. WEDDINGS ARE BECOMING MORE
PERSONALIZED AND MORE
CUSTOMIZABLE.
CUSTOMIZABLE. IT'S NOT YOUR GRANDMA'S
WEDDING, NOT EVEN MY WEDDING
ANYMORE.
ANYMORE.
ANYMORE. WITH THAT, ETIQUETTE HAS
LOOSENED A LITTLE BIT.
YOU ARE SEEING THINGS LIKE
SENNING GIFTS IN ADVANCE
INSTEAD OF BRINGING A HEAVY
KITCHEN AID MIXER TO THE
WEDDING.
WEDDING.
WEDDING. BRIDES ARE CHOOSING COLOR
INSTEAD OF A WHITE GOWN.
DO GUESTS WEAR WHITE TO THE
WEDDING?
WEDDING?
WEDDING? IS THAT OKAY?
>> IS IT?
>> IS IT?
>> IS IT? >> IT IS.
>> IT IS.
>> IT IS. AND SEEING CREAM TONES.
THAT KIND OF THING.
IT HAS BECOME A LITTLE MORE
LOOSE.
LOOSE.
LOOSE. IN
LOOSE. IN GENERAL, ALWAYS A GOOD
THOUGHT IS TO HAVE GENERAL
TACT GUIDELINES.
TACT GUIDELINES. >> MAYBE NOT THE BRIGHT WHITE.
ET CETERA.
ET CETERA. >> INVITATIONS.
>> INVITATIONS. IF IT IS JUST A DRESS TO THEM,
IT IS NOT A PLUS ONE?
>> CORRECT.
>> CORRECT. >> IF IT SAYS AND GUEST, YOU
CAN BRING A GUEST.
IF IT SAYS AND FAMILY.
YOU CAN BRING ALL THE MEMBERS
IN YOUR FAMILY.
>> WE ARE STILL HONORING RSVP
DATES.
DATES.
DATES. >>
DATES. >> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. THAT IS HUGE.
BECAUSE THE COUPLE HAS SO MUCH
TO DO AFTER PLANNING.
TABLE COUNTS.
TABLE COUNTS. ESCORT CARDS.
ESCORT CARDS. ALL THOSE THINGS.
>> AND THEY DON'T WANT TO
WASTE MONEY ON DINNERS THEY
ARE NOT DOING.
FOR THE COUPLES YOU SAY SIX TO
EIGHT MONTHS IS A GOOD TIME TO
DO THE SAVE THE DATE.
>> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. IF THERE IS TRAVEL INVOLVED,
PEOPLE CAN RESERVE THAT DATE
ON THE CALENDAR.
START MAKING TRAVEL
ARRANGEMENTS.
ARRANGEMENTS. SO EARLIER THE BETTER IS
ALWAYS A GOOD NOTE.
>> AND THEN, RSVP TIME, FOUR
WEEKS.
WEEKS.
WEEKS. >>
WEEKS. >> YEP.
>> YEP.
>> YEP. >> ADDING STANCE TO RESPONSE
CARDS.
CARDS.
CARDS. I
CARDS. I LOVE THAT IDEA.
STAMPS.
STAMPS.
STAMPS. >> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. >> I DIDN'T KNOW.
>> THAT IS A BIG ETIQUETTE NO-
NO.
NO.
NO. DON'T
NO. DON'T MAKE YOUR GUESTS PAY FOR
THE RESPONSE CARD.
>> WHERE SHOULD YOU WRITE DOWN
THE REGISTRY?
THE REGISTRY? >> THAT IS CHANGING TOO.
EVEN WHEN I GOT MARRIED, WE
PUT THAT IN THE INVITATION.
AND THAT HAS CHANGED.
NOW, THE WEDDING WEBSITE IS SO
MUCH MORE OF AN EXTENSION OF
INVITATION.
INVITATION. SO, ALL OF THESE DETAILS ARE
PUT ON A WEDDING WEBSITE.
ATTIRE, GIFT REGISTRY.
>> DIRECTIONS.
>> DIRECTIONS. >> OKAY, SO TECHNOLOGY.
WELL, LET ME BACK UP.
REGISTRY.
REGISTRY.
REGISTRY. >> SOMEBODY MAY WANT TO GIVE
SOMETHING ELSE.
SOMETHING ELSE. >> I THINK, THOUGHTFUL GIFTS
ARE ALWAYS KING.
REALLY.
REALLY.
REALLY. THE COUPLE SETS UP A REGISTRY.
AND NOW, THE REGISTRY HAS EVEN
CHANGED WHERE IT IS CHARITIES.
OR STOCK INVESTMENTS.
SO KEEP THOSE IN MIND.
A LOT OF THOSE CAN STILL BE
VERY PERSONAL GIFTS.
BUT, YOU KNOW, IF YOU ARE A
GRANDMA, AND YOU KNOW THE
COUPLE, AND, HAVE SOMETHING
SPECIAL THAT IS PASSED DOWN
THROUGH FAMILY GENERATIONS,
THOUGHTFUL GIFTS ARE ALWAYS A
GOOD IDEA.
GOOD IDEA. >> TECHNOLOGY.
>> TECHNOLOGY. YOU HAVE YOUR PHONE.
WHAT DO YOU DO WITH IT?
TURN IT OFF, TURN IT DOWN.
CAN YOU TAKE PICTURES?
TELL ME THE WHOLE PHONE THING.
>> NOW, YOUR PHONE HAS
EVERYTHING.
EVERYTHING. RIGHT?
RIGHT?
RIGHT? IT'S YOUR PHONE, YOUR CAMERA.
YOUR VIDEO RECORDER.
SO, A TREND NOW IS AN
UNPLUGGED WEDDING.
UNPLUGGED WEDDING. PHONES ARE COMING OUT IN SUCH
A BIG ETIQUETTE NO-NO TO PULL
YOUR PHONE OUT OR AN iPad IN
THE AIR, YOU KNOW.
THE WOMEN SPENDS A LOT OF TIME
AND INVESTMENT IN FINDING THE
PERFECT PHOTOGRAPHER AND
NOTHING IS WORSE THAN GETTING
YOUR PHOTOS BACK.
AND DURING THE VOWS, THERE'S A
HUGE iPad OR PHONE IN THE
AISLE.
AISLE.
AISLE. SO
AISLE. SO FOR GUESTS, REALLY BEING
AWARE OF WHERE THE
PHOTOGRAPHER IS, BEING
DISCREET.
DISCREET.
DISCREET. SILENCING THE CELL PHONES.
FOR THE COUPLE, MAKING SURE
THERE IS SIGNAGE OUT THAT
INDICATES THAT OR IT IS IN THE
PROGRAM.
PROGRAM.
PROGRAM. HAVING THE USHERS REMIND GUEST
TO BE SILENT.
TURN OFF THE CELL PHONE.
EXACTLY.
EXACTLY.
EXACTLY. >> QUICKLY.
>> QUICKLY. KIDS AT WEDDINGS.
IF IT SAYS NO KIDS THEN NO
KIDS RIGHT?
KIDS RIGHT? >> YEAH.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH. >> SOMETIMES YOU LOSE YOUR
CHILD CARE AT THE LAST MOMENT.
WE TALKED DRESS CODE, GIFT
REGISTRY.
REGISTRY.
REGISTRY. HOW LONG DOES A COUPLE HAVE
THESE DAYS TO SEND A THANK YOU
NOTE?
NOTE?
NOTE? >>
NOTE? >> YEAH.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH. AFTER THE WEDDING IS A VERY
BUSY TIME.
BUSY TIME. SOMETIMES THERE'S A LITTLE BIT
OF WEDDING HANOVER.
YOU DON'T WANT TO TOUCH THE
WEDDING.
WEDDING.
WEDDING. TWO WEEKS IS GENERALLY A GREAT
RULE OF THUMB.
YOU HAVE UP UNTIL THREE MONTHS
AFTER.
AFTER.
AFTER. OF
AFTER. OF COURSE, ANY THANK YOU NOTE
EVEN SENT HALF THAT TIME IS
ALWAYS APPRECIATED.
ALWAYS APPRECIATED. >> THAT'S GOOD.
THIS HELPS US BE A GOOD GUEST
AND A