hello swedish potatoes
as we're reaching the end of a very very
interesting year
let's chat about seven mindset habits
for how to set yourself up
for the best year yet no matter when
you're watching this
be it 2020 2021 or 2049
these mindset habits are evergreen and
will stand the test of time
huge video hug to oat milk latte for
suggesting we serialize these seven
mites at habits videos
if you're new here i'll link all the
previous videos down below
like we always say as important as it is
for us to have healthy
daily habits it's equally important for
us to have good and healthy mindset
habits
as our external world is a reflection
of our internal world so ironically i'll
be showing you guys physical habits as i
talk about my mental habits for the year
but
hey let's try something a little new
number one
check your default and live proactively
we
all have a default mode whether it's
retreating into our caves distracting
ourselves with work or escaping into the
world of entertainment and social media
it's comfortable it's comforting it's
what we know it's what we're used to
it's minimal effort hence
default i've learned that when i'm faced
with challenges i default into running
away from my responsibilities
and my reality i either put it off and
avoid talking or thinking about the
thing altogether
or i busy myself with things like work
or lose myself in kdramas and mindlessly
scrolling on instagram which
clearly is not the healthiest i've been
aware of this tendency for some time now
and this year i'd like to proactively do
something about it
like how proactive i am with my morning
skincare routine
proactively choose to learn more about
my defaults ask myself whether it's been
serving me well or not and adjust
accordingly
as we know growth lies in discomfort and
there's a reason for that
if we're forever living and existing in
our comfortable safe space of a default
bubble
will continue to remain exactly where we
are and whether we're okay with that or
not
is only up to ourselves
number two cut a watermelon get
perspective this one is courtesy of my
dad
when you cut a watermelon which half are
you going to look at the left
or the right although the two sides will
look similar
they will never be the same just like
every situation will face in this
glorious journey of life
we're given opportunities or faced with
challenges which side will you choose to
look at
is our automatic default more positive
or
negative just like how two people can
experience the same situation
and draw very different conclusions all
it boils down to
is perspective the lens through which we
choose to see the world
as my dad's been reminding me for years
our lives are made up by a series of
choices
everything in life is a choice with the
exception of choosing our parents
whether we choose to wake up and drink a
glass of water or make
a latte whether we want to get up early
whether we're going to be proactive or
reactive when things don't go our way
whether we're going to allow our
circumstances to define us or not
i've grown to believe that this is one
of the principal reasons why some of
those who have suffered the most and
have gone through the darkest of times
are the ones who are the most positive
and grateful
they're choosing to see the positives
and choosing to be
positive this isn't to say that we need
to be positive all the time
more so it's a reminder that we all have
the choice to be
and that shifting our perspectives can
help perspectives help create
understanding and understanding helps
bridge connections
whether it be between people nations
situations or even within our own minds
with ourselves
number three be gentle yet firm like how
the tai chi symbol symbolizes balance
with yin and yang this is something we
can look to as
inspiration and a reminder for our
default states
yang symbolizes what is known it is
masculine active
energetic external logical and
represents the fire and the sun
ying symbolizes the unknown its feminine
passive
calm internal intuitive and represents
water and the moon
we need both yin and yang to be in
balance within ourselves
to live in harmony with ourselves and
with others
the perfect example for gentle yet firm
is like water
quoting laozi water is fluid soft and
yielding
but water will wear away rock which is
rigid and cannot yield
as a rule whatever is fluid soft and
yielding will overcome whatever is rigid
and hard
this is another paradox what is soft
is strong
number four you are who you surround
yourself with
just like how if you want your life to
stand for peace and kindness it's
helpful to do kind
peaceful things and also to surround
yourself with peaceful and
kind people quoting john c maxwell
people tend to become what the most
important people in their lives think
they will become
so who are the most important people in
your life
and who do they want you to become this
year i like to spend time creating more
like
really creating from my heart a part of
that is making time to create
another part is surrounding myself with
people who are creating already to learn
by osmosis putting myself out there
meeting new creators even if it's
virtually and being proactive with
asking for constructive feedback which
has been something i've struggled with
the most asking people to give you
feedback is one of the most
uncomfortable things
take it for me like it really is but
again
it's through discomfort we will really
be able to learn
and grow
number five things that are easy do it
often
things you do often do it well shout out
to my mom for this one my parents really
are the brains behind this video 100
percent of the credit goes to them they
also created me so
you know there we go so this quote in
chinese is
so
just like how small incremental changes
lead to big results and the importance
of setting systems
this is my ode to being a more
consistent person and living a more
consistent life this year more books
less social media
more meditating less being scattered we
already talked until the cows come home
on how to set systems these past few
weeks and
months so i'll just link a few videos
down below if you guys are interested
number six live lighter and enjoy the
ride
use how much fun you're having as a
gauge for whether you're more focused on
the journey
or the destination i found that if i'm
having a good time whether it's working
or just doing some fun relaxing thing
if i'm having a good time i'm focused on
the journey if i'm talking myself down
or nitpicking at all the ways things
could be better
i'm focused on the destination or the
results
on a day-to-day basis i like to have
more fun with the journey
enjoy the ride and be grateful for
another day of life
so many of us spend our days rushing
from one thing to another
we oftentimes forget to take a step back
and marvel at how lucky we are
and how beautiful the world can be
despite all that's been unfolding
focus your time and energy on what's
most important to you you should know
what it is
now after week three is identifying your
life buckets put one step in front of
the other and the universe will reward
you with what you deserve which
takes us to the seventh and final point
of take responsibility for your life
be there for others and let the universe
take care of
everything else this is another saying
from my parents
what will be yours will be yours do not
be attached to things slash
force things to happen and this is what
it means to take responsibility of
my life quoting jocko willock author of
extreme ownership
take ownership take extreme ownership
don't make excuses don't blame any other
person
or any other thing get control of your
ego
don't hide your delicate pride from the
truth take ownership of everything in
your world
the good and the bad take ownership of
your mistakes
take ownership of your shortfalls take
ownership of your problems and then take
ownership of your solutions
that will get those problems solved take
ownership of your mission take ownership
of your job of your team of your future
and take ownership of your life and
lead
hello again swedish potatoes so those
are my seven mindset habits for how i'm
planning on tackling 2021 now it's time
for you
to create your very own seven mindset
habit for
the new year let's do a quick little
review of our how to unpotato your life
challenge because every single week
we've done so far
leads to where we are today if you
haven't done it yet it's totally fine
you can review it later or you can just
think of what you would say
as i kind of go through the different
weeks so week one we celebrated the
small wins and a lot of us realized we
actually had a much better year than we
thought week two we reflected on 20
things that brought us joy in 2020 via
things new experiences
moments with other people or memories
with yourself week three we dug
deep to identify our life buckets and
discover our values as well as what's
most important to us
which brought us to week four where we
took everything we've reflected so far
especially our values and what's most
important to us to create a self-care
toolkit for us to reflect back on on a
daily weekly or monthly basis whenever
we need a little pick-me-up things that
we can do and things that we can default
to
that are good for our mental health and
all of these combined
has led us to week five which is today
where we'll be taking all the
reflections we've done so far
to create the seven mindset habits that
will help give us
our best and most productive year
yet and as you guys know productivity to
me
is very personal thing it's less about
making money and like doing things and
working a lot so that i can live a good
life for myself
productivity to me is more so taking
responsibility for yourself
so that you can show up your best and
most authentic person
to help other people and to serve other
people so without further ado
here is how you set seven mindset habits
for yourself this is kind of how i go
through
the process and of course there will be
prompts for you guys
linked down below as well as an online
community
on lively where we can chat about all of
our minds and habits and share with each
other and get inspiration from each
other and keep each other accountable
so without further ado how to set some
of my set habits for yourself
so the first thing i would say is carve
out 15 minutes
of your time of uninterrupted time put
your phone away
turn it off turn it on silent be off
social media don't have any
screens in front of you unless you're
doing it on your laptop and if you are
doing it on your laptop turn your wi-fi
off
so you can't browse the web and use
those 15 minutes to ask yourself
what would i most like to work on in
2021
use this exercise like the free writing
exercise i've mentioned in the past
where you're just
writing don't care about punctuation
don't care about sentence structure
don't care about if it's a full sentence
or not
just keep typing up bullet points if
these are the things i want to work on
and it can be as
short or as long as you want it to be
once you've come up with this long list
of all the things that you'd like to
work on for yourself and this isn't
you know we're not doing this to be like
this is why i
suck and like this is why i don't
deserve to be loved no it's nothing like
that at all it's
being very conscious and mindful and
gracious
and gentle with yourself to be like okay
rowena at her best
this is what she would look like and
this is what you would do more of and
this is what i want to do so that i can
be more
like that once you've written down your
list
go through them and highlight the seven
most important things
to you what i found is that when i write
a long exhaustive list is that a lot of
them kind of
end up tying together so i start seeing
themes of like okay maybe being kinder
to myself is one of them making more
time is something else i want to work on
step four
ask yourself this question with these
self-improvements i've highlighted why
does it exist and how can i come up with
the mindset habit or solution
for each for example i'm too hard on
myself why am i hard on myself
is it healthy or is it more idealistic
am i demanding perfection for myself or
am i striving for excellence
so the reframe or the mindset habit for
something like this could be be mindful
of your thoughts and the stories you
tell yourself
so it's really taking a step back
looking at the things you'd like to work
on and asking yourself why does it exist
and how can i reframe it
so that i could use it
to my benefit and it can become one of
my superpowers
and the fifth thing is just to rewrite
your seven mindset habits down below
as i did in the beginning of the video
and with that thank you guys so much for
joining me i hope
this how to potato your life series has
been helpful if it has please let me
know if you guys are doing it please tag
me on instagram as well as joining the
community
on lively where over 4 000 of you guys
have already joined and
are sharing on a day-to-day basis all of
your reflections and all of your
findings
guys we have january coming up this
isn't over yet
i'm really really excited for what's in
store come january every single week
we're going to focus on
a dimension of wellness the first week
will be physical and they'll be
emotional and they'll be mental and then
it will be
social so please stay tuned for that
keep an eye out for new videos and with
that
hugs all around as always and another
one
today is christmas as i'm filming it's
gonna go up the day after christmas so i
hope you guys all had a wonderful
christmas a very merry christmas
and happy holidays happy annie holiday
that you guys celebrate during the end
of the year
and that we all have a wonderful
new year wow bye