okay insider I'm here I hope you're doing well this is a new angle as you can see
we're gonna be going live it's not too long to go now so I've got to go in
a moment but I wanted to reveal to you three things you can do to feel confident
in under five minutes
and I'm not gonna be talking about this okay I'm gonna
be doing it live what I mean by this is when I don't do these three things
before jumping onto this stage today we've got fairly small events I've been
speaking out very very large events out here in Asia full of like 300 people
this is around forty to forty five people today when I don't do these three
steps I can feel shy because naturally I'm an introvert naturally I feel shy a
lot of you who know my life story know the fact that I grew up as a very shy
boy in school I was in fact bullied for many many years when I moved to England
because of that and so even to this day because people see me speaking on a
stage literally all around the world and they think I'm so confident well the
truth is is because I mastered these three things and kept going kept on doing
it over and over again and so without further ado I want to reveal to you what I
do every single time before I go onto the stage to feel immediately kind of
confident and so as long as you follow this I can guarantee that you will start
feeling confident as well so one of the things that you always find me doing
backstage is this I'll be calming this this mind this little voice chatterbox
that is pretty much responsible for the reason why we feel so shy is that voice
that tells you you're not good enough that voice that tells you and whispers
that you feel shy that everybody's judging you looking at you what if you
screw up so one of the things I do is a purposeful breathing backstage and
you'll find me doing this in multiple ways one of the ways I'll do is sit down
and I'll do this
and I'll do 30 of that and by the end of the 30 reps I will feel an instant
calmness and because of that that voice chatterbox
will begin to subside meaning that I can truly tune in to my heart and that's
very important another variation of this is I'll literally be jumping around
backstage there'll be like this and I'll be trying to get out of breath because I
wanna get the blood pumping okay because that releases the feel-good hormones and
that can really help with feeling confident as well another variation is
this this is what I learned when I sharing the stage with Jairek Robbins
world renowned speaker so you lift your hands up nice and high and by the way
give this a shot okay I know this is crazy you're just watching a video but
try it with me okay it's not about learning knowledge it's about applying
applying knowledge that's the secret so you raise your hands nice and high like
this okay and you take a deep breath in and as you do so you bring in your hands and
then you push all the way out and that counts as one rep so this is one rep and
you do 30 of that by the time you've done 30 trust me you will feel more
confident okay so that's what I do and after I've done the breathing I'll do a
lot of stretching so I'll just be like literally like today like this I'll be
like doing this bit of this stretching I'll just stretch because it just helps
you to loosen up it really does it's super powerful so that's what I'll do
breathing stretching very important for me if I don't do that I will notice a
difference when I'm stood here trying to serve the audience because I just
weren't feel comfortable and as a result the audience weren't feel comfortable now
going on to the second thing this is very important what is it repetition and
you're probably thinking Tim this sounds so obvious but the question I wanna ask you
is are you doing the stuff that's obvious in your life because because
what I found is most people know so much but they do so little if you wanna get
good at feeling confident if you wanna get good at stage speaking like I
literally eight months ago I couldn't even jump on to the stage
and speak okay but today this is a reality for me I travel around the world
speaking because I committed to excellence I committed to excellence
repetition doing the thing that you're fearful of every single day that's the
key repetition doing the stuff that gets you out the combat zone because the
thing is every single day that voice tells you the thing that you fear and
what I found is this if you give in to that and you don't take action when it
tells you not to take action okay because that voice will try to prevent
you from maybe approaching a girl that you find attractive
maybe that voice will prevent you from doing something funny in public but if
you actually hold back and listen to that voice I can guarantee you many
years from now you still be shy introvert many years from now that you
won't be you won't be able to snap out of it to be it become a better
communicator because naturally like I said I am an introvert I am shy but when
it comes to social scenarios I can snap into it and I can instantly feel
confident because I've mastered the art of being an extrovert and the key to
mastery is repetition so that's the second point I want you to really just
repeat the things that you're fearful of every single day that is the key commit
to excellent my my friend so go on to the final point the final point is this
is about focus truth is this stage speaking one of the reasons why I got
into stage speaking was it was actually one of my biggest fears it was one of my
biggest fears and in fact the studies show that people are more happy to die
then I actually speak on the stage think about that how crazy is that
the moment I heard that I knew I had to master this and also I wanted to really
impact the lives of millions of people that's why I wanted to be on the stage
and I became a good at speaking
because of focus
because some of you right now aren't getting results because you're focusing
on yourself you're feeling shy because you're focused on yourself now at the
moment you can deliver an amazing amazing you know performance the moment
you can really just speak you know how you wish to in public the moment you
begin to focus on others okay focus on others for example when you're speaking
on the stage you don't wanna focus on yourself because you'll feel very shy
you wanna focus on bringing up other people's energy how can you make their
day how can you make it worth their time the fact that they you know schedule
they're busy busy life to come and see you speak exactly the same when you're
at networking parties you've gotta focus on other person and too many
people I find nowadays are just focused on themselves and that's why you know at
the end of conversation that person that you're speaking to will
go off and tell somebody oh my god that person so self-centered focus on others
focus on contribution and that energy will really perspire and people will
feel naturally drawn to you because it's so different not many people are really
focused on others nowadays so if you come from that angle inside that I can
assure you it would change everything for you so this is it from me that was
the three steps I do every single time before I jump onto the stage every
single time before I go to networking parties and it helps me to become an
extrovert and master the art of feeling confident so I hope this video helped if
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as always insider follow your heart my friend and take action and go live the
life you're born to live speak to you soon