I'm going to go into all of them right here in this video.
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Okay so I want to go into how Jada has been
narcissistically manipulating and abusing Will Smith
and the reason why I want to do this is
because this is a classic example of a relationship of narcissist
so that all of you guys who are in relationships,
like this can see how this plays
out for yourselves and maybe potentially
recognize this in yourselves
and then I'm going to give you ways
that you can actually fight back
and actually shift the dynamic for yourselves.
Okay, so I did actually do a video on why I
think that will should actually divorce Jada
now you can definitely go back
and check that out if you'd like and why I
think you should definitely get out now,
but let me go into now a little bit
more of the specific signs that I
see that she's been manipulating him all
along and I'm saving the best one till the end.
So you want to definitely wait and check that out.
Okay. So as you all know,
there was a slap heard around the world,
seeing around the world at Oscar night.
He allegedly is defending her defending her honor
because Chris Rock says something about her bald head
and she's upset about it and he has to
defend her honor and goes up slaps
Chris Rock and then even, you know,
yells obscenities at Chris as we all know,
he was laughing before that.
She gives him this massive look
and I also did a video on the fact that I believe that he was triggered
because his father had been beating his mother when he was a child.
He was triggered about the fact that he always felt
but he never properly defended his mother
even though obviously that's a unfounded
sort of a thing has he was late a 5-6 years old
he shouldn't feel like he could defend his mother at that age
but he always felt like he didn't defend his mom.
He didn't protect his mom.
Jaden knew that
but anyway, she gives him this look he feels triggered,
Oh, I didn't defend her.
He goes up and does this thing.
But there's even more layers to that
because there was this whole issue about
the fact that they had this open marriage
and he's now worried about the fact that,
oh, if I don't do something
then what's going to happen,
what's going to happen?
Is she going to cheat on me again?
Is she going to do something?
You know, there's always that fear of what is she going to do
but it's even worse than that because if you go back
to the history of how that open marriage even came to pass.
It came to pass because before the 40th birthday,
he starts planning her 40th birthday when she's 37.
So three years before she turns 40,
he's like trying so hard to make her happy.
What can I do to make her happy?
What can I do to finally make her happy?
And he's planning this thing for years and years and years
and he unveils this footage of her grandmother
and he's got like this three day party planned and that night,
he unveils this thing and she's like,
not even happy about it that night
she says, cancel the whole plans for the next day like basically
humiliates him at her 40th
birthday says I don't even want the next day's plans.
I don't want it, I don't want It makes him
feel like the whole party is about his ego
not about her.
He ends up believing that and they
have this massive huge blowout fight
that's what causes the big
huge rift they say they need time apart.
She asks for an open marriage at that time.
He doesn't want it.
He Were wanted an open marriage
that's when she pulls the open marriage card.
That's when she has this huge Affair or whatever
it is with this August Alsina rapper dude,
she ends up admitting that she's having this affair.
They end up going on red table top.
He's humiliated in front of the world on red table.
Talk indoors her talking about it humiliated for minutes
while she goes on and on about how she just wanted to feel good.
I just wanted to feel good.
It had been so long since I felt good.
That's what it is that she said.
I just wanted to feel good
and if you see his face, you could tell he's like pained.
When you look at his face,
he's in pain and if you read his book
I mean, he to hide puts women on a
pedestal and maybe he's a narcissist too.
I don't know but if he is, he's a very co-dependent narcissist,
you can't be alone because you know,
he's very, very dependent on her
but since this whole Oscar thing has come out,
it has been revealed that on her
Tik-tok two days before the Oscars.
She said, I don't give two craps about this bald head.
So she said that
today I'll give two craps what people feel about this bald
head of mine because guess what? I love it.
She's also totally not supported him
with this whole thing in the sense that she said
I don't need defending.
She basically has completely not supported him
and she also was saying, you know,
this is a season for healing I'm here for it,
basically saying he needs healing.
I'm not in this at all.
Again separating herself from him.
I mean, she really is again gaslighting.
Oh, and by the way, with this whole red table talk thing.
She gaslights him into thinking,
like defending her cheating and,
and saying, basically, it's his fault.
I wanted to feel good.
It's your fault you made me feel this way.
It's about him his ego.
He caused it and he believing it.
He believes that he caused her pain
and she gets him to feel that way
and so it's this constant gaslighting
where she spins herself into
she's the victim but then again,
she also says, but I don't need protecting.
I'm a victim, but I don't need protecting
but yet, if you love me enough, you'll do this.
If you love me enough, you'll prove it,
but you can never prove it because there's this black hole.
You'll never be good enough.
You can neve r prove enough.
You know, it's this constant black hole of gas lighting.
So he's like emotionally spent you see what's going on here
that's what's happening here.
You know, he's constantly trying to prove himself,
but he can never do it.
He'll never be good enough and yet she's taking away
from his biggest night.
She's ruining ruining and tarnishing
whenever it's possible for him to get attention
and boy did she ever do that?
Because the night, they should be his biggest
night where he was getting the Academy Award.
She managed to tarnish.
She managed to ruin for him.
She was able to do that and so,
I'm just saying, I want you all to see the the signs,
and the only way that you can turn this around the only way you stop,
this is realizing that it is a black hole that you can never fill
because when a person has that emptiness inside of them,
you can never fill that hole for them.
It's inside of them
and so, you have to be the one who's ready to heal
and so, I want you to put that in the comments right now.
I'm ready to heal.
I'm ready to heal and how you start that is
you stop you recognize that they are conditioning you.
it's a black hole.
You see what's happening.
You have to realize when they're saying it,
you know, if you loved me, you would do this.
If you loved me you would do that and
that's what she's been doing with him.
If you loved me, you would protect me but I don't need protecting,
but I'm going to sabotage everything you're
doing and that's what's been happening.
You know, he's probably very very co-dependent too
and he needs to heal his own trauma and hopefully he's doing that also.
So, that's my two cents on what's been going on
and I wanted to just weigh on,
in, on this because I do think that It's an opportunity
for everybody to learn and if you really want
to powerfully negotiate with narcissist,
that is how you do it.
You stop the conditioning,
you create boundaries.
You keep your interactions with them super brief.
So that you no longer are triggered by them.
You have one form of communication.
Hopefully, it's by email or something that you can track
and if you want to know, if you think that you are in a relationship with a narcissist.
I do have a quiz in the description below.
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