- Hey, what's up.
It's me, Jessica J.
And I was just wondering
if you've ever sat and thought to yourself
what does Jessica J
think about Alpha Male Strategies?
Well, I'm so glad you asked
because ever since I started this channel
I have been seeing these three letters
all over my comments section,
AMS, AMS, AMS.
And now that I'm doing these reaction videos,
I thought it only right
that I give you guys exactly what you wanted
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genuine in the moment reaction,
to what this super famous dating coach
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So I actually did do my own video on this.
You can check it out right here.
And my take on it,
I'm thinking it was a little different.
Again, I haven't seen his video yet.
What I do,
in case you didn't watch last week's video
is I go to a super popular page,
I look at the titles
that really spoke to the viewers
and I just do my own take on it
without having a biased interpretation
from somebody else.
And when I say bias,
I don't wanna be influenced
by their own expertise
and their own perspectives on things.
So I'll just take the title
and I will interpret it
to the best of my ability for you.
So that's what we're gonna talk about tonight.
Three things men should never do with a woman
from Alpha Male Strategies point of view
and obviously what I have to say about it.
Okay so let's get started.
- What's up fellas.
So today we're here to talk about three things
you should never do with the woman, all right?
Because you know everything
I've talked about on this channel,
from time to time
you going to slip up and fuck up.
You are.
You know, I teach you guys not to validate women.
You think you ain't gonna never slip up
and validate a woman?
You think you ain't gonna never
fuck up and give a woman a compliment?
It's going to fucking happen guys.
- All right.
First of all, I just wanna say
I did a video on how to,
basically how to look sexier.
This guy, he's bald,
but he's bold with his baldness.
It's very sexy.
His facial hair is done very well.
I'm not a fan of earrings
but I guess his look,
he's wearing a regular ass t-shirt,
he's pulling it off very well.
If you don't know what this man looks like,
I didn't even know what he looked like
because his logo is,
you know, it's on his face, right?
Dig his entire look already from the bat.
I will say, not validating women, come on.
I come from a very humanistic approach
where I don't care what gender you are.
I don't care what,
okay who you are in a person,
in your relationship,
in what relationship.
We need to validate one another
and we need to be okay
with validating one another
because we don't do it enough.
That's what love is.
Love is saying,
hey I'm here to signify your presence in my life
and to let you know
that you're not a fucking alone in this.
I think that's what any relationship is.
And I think the second we stop holding back
in helping people feel good,
I think that's when we really start
to complicate things.
So that's just my take on it.
I understand that there are a lot of men out there
that think that validating and complimenting
will get them something in return,
and that's when I say,
don't fucking do it.
But I'm already off the bat.
I'm like, what, don't validate women.
We all need to validate each other
a little more for fuck sake.
Okay, let's get back to the show.
- You wanna minimize it
and when you catch it,
hope you catch it and calm that shit down.
But from time to time
you gonna fuck around and you're just,
"Oh shit, I fucking validated that motherfucker man."
(laughing)
- I already like him a lot.
I will say last week I did Alpha Male Strategies
and he was just screaming so much.
He seemed like, I don't know,
he came from a place of,
I don't know, superstar status.
It didn't feel very like genuine,
but this guy just seems so fucking real.
I like how much he curses already.
I'm sad I haven't watched him until now.
I already like where he's coming from.
Sorry. Let's get back to the show.
- Don't worry about it guy
that's going to happen from time to time.
From time to time,
you guys are going to lose
your masculine seductive frame.
You're going be like, (indistinct)
and you'll catch it
and you'll get back to the...
- All right. I must say this.
Now I understand why all of you,
a lot of you guys have been comparing me
to Alpha Male Strategies.
I feel like I'm watching myself talk.
Is this how I talk?
Oh my God, now I wanna know.
I feel like I'm a mix of Alpha Male Strategies
and Alpha M,
where Alpha M screams at you a lot.
And I apologize,
I'm trying to scream less.
And this guy curses a lot.
I dig it. I dig him a lot so far.
Okay, sorry, sorry. Back to the show.
- There's three things you could never do.
You never need to slip up
and do these guys.
All right, ever under the no circumstances.
I cause it kills a woman interests
faster than a motherfucker.
Alright, first off pillow talking.
That's when you land in the fucking bed
like a little bitch and you gossiping.
That means that
you're telling her all your friends business
you're telling her all your family business
and even worse
you're telling her all of your business.
All right guys?
Guys, you always want to remain a mystery.
- I am not a fan of this advice.
That's so funny,
I just had a conversation with a girlfriend yesterday
who is so frustrated
and on the verge of breaking up with her man.
She's already broken up with him so many times
and she says one of her biggest crisis with him
is that he doesn't open up.
He doesn't talk about his family,
he doesn't talk about his friends,
he doesn't talk about even the simplest thing,
what he did at work today.
We women thrive on communication.
That's the stuff that bumps our oxytocin levels up.
And if you don't know the oxytocin is,
it's the stuff that gets us
addicted to you emotionally.
And that's what you want women feeling.
It's the stuff that's released after we orgasm.
It's the stuff that's released
when we breastfeed.
It is the bonding hormone
and talking, communicating
is what increases women's oxytocin levels.
If you're not fucking talking to us
guess what our oxytocin levels
aren't heightening with you.
And we're not getting that much more addicted to you
than we can be.
And if there's a some other motherfucker
who wants to lay in bed at night
and talk to us, guess what?
We will be laying with other motherfuckers
who can pillow talk.
So already I disagree with this.
I love his energy.
I love his delivery.
I really like him a lot
but I definitely disagree with this, wholeheartedly
- Speak as less as possible.
That red decile,
big turn on to a woman
when you a fucking mystery.
I'm not just talking about
your interest level.
I'm just talking about
your everyday activities what you're doing.
- Backtracking. I did have clients
who would go on these dates
and spill their guts
and tell her everything about who he is.
And we like to earn that information.
We like to earn the intimate details
of who you are.
If you give it all to us upfront
then we're going to be like,
I guess he's just bearing a soda,
fucking everybody, fuck this guy.
However, if you and I are in bed together
and you're not using
the opportunity to talk to us
a little more intimately
then we're just going to nail and bail you.
Don't get it twisted.
We, women are very capable of doing it.
I have a client right now
who suffers from being nailed and bailed on.
And he's like, "I don't get it,
"why don't this girls stick around?"
Because you're fucking nobody to them.
Do you enjoy being just another vibrator?
You might,
but some of you might actually crave
stronger connections
and stronger intimate moments with women.
And if you're that guy, who's like,
"No, I'm going to remain a mystery
"so she always has to find out stuff about me."
Guess what?
You putting up a wall
over and over and over again.
One of these days,
you're just going to turn around
and find somebody who doesn't have a wall.
- All, that is what you want
women trying to figure out
you know, what you're doing?
This that you don't want
just tell every fucking thing.
All right guys?
That's why I don't want you guys
talking a whole fucking lot.
Not only is it an interesting indicator
you just tell a woman
every fucking thing is
then fucking nothing for her to discover.
All right guys?
So that pillow talking is definitely a no, no.
The main reason
why pillow talk is a definite no, no guys is,
how can a woman
cut loose and be a freak with you?
How the fuck you can expect to get a threesome
or a woman to suck your dick
and swallow and all this and that shit,
when you got a big fucking mouth?
- First of all, I don't know you.
We women open up more sexually
when we feel more trusting of you
when we feel more comfortable around you.
And guess what?
If we know you a little bit more
we're going to trust you a little bit more.
I feel a little more comfortable
to slob your knob
at a moment's notice.
I wholeheartedly disagree with this.
Let's move on to see what number two is.
- So no fucking pillow talking guys.
Shut the fuck up.
Be fucking mean.
I don't let them gossip in this shit.
All right guys,
trying to fucking communicate.
Next thing is,
talk about how much money you make.
All right, now a woman,
you know her pardon me is a real thing.
So a woman is going to sift around
and try to find out
what the fuck you making or whatever.
But you want to talk about it
as less as possible.
Don't be talking about,
"Yeah. So, you know,
"I just applied for this six figure job
"and so, you know, once I get that
"I'm going to get this big house."
And you try to all this carrying on
what you're trying to sell her
that you're going to be this such
a great provider.
Shit like this kills fucking attraction guys.
Anybody who's trying to sell somebody on their value.
- Okay. I will say that
I definitely agree with this
to the extent that he's talking about,
it sounds like he's talking about
guys who brag about
how much money they make.
"Yeah, you know, I'm going to be like super balling
"with this new like,
"seven figure promotion I'm getting."
That will absolutely catch way more
unwanted ladies than the wanted ladies.
Because it is in that hearing
that, "Oh my God he's a provider."
Guess what?
Every chick wants a provider
in the grand scheme of things.
Not necessarily like to take care of us
or to like one and done us.
But every woman wants a man
who can hold his own.
And guess what?
You're going to attract,
not just the right women
but way more of the wrong women
if you're talking about like,
"Oh I make all this motherfucking money
"bitch, like you want some?"
Leave that out of there.
On the flip side,
if you're always talking about,
"Look I'm so fucking broke.
"Oh my God, I have like
"never had money to do anything."
Then what you're doing
is you're attracting, a miss fix it.
A chick who in a way gets,
you know subconsciously turned on
by my having a man
she can take care of.
Maybe you wanna be taken care of,
maybe you want another mommy
to take care of your broke ass.
Well if that's the case,
by all means,
talk about how you need to raise $100
just to get to a zero bank balance.
Fine, by the grand scheme of things
I'm yeah...
Money's always a weird thing
to brag about, boast about
or complain about, period.
- I don't like to date women
that they are trying
to sell themselves hard to me.
That made me look at them like,
"Damn, you know,
"you must not got as much sexual market value
"as I thought you did."
All right guys.
So never want to do shit like this
where you're trying to come across
like you're trying to impress a woman.
That's the worst thing you could ever do.
That is what beta males do.
- I agree with that statement.
Just piggybacking off what I said before.
If you're that guy trying to prove that like,
"Yeah, yeah, I'm like such an alpha male
"because I make this motherfucking money."
Again, it's about attracting the wrong people.
The only women
that are going to be super turned on by you
trying to sell yourself
by, you know the figures you make
it's just the wrong women.
I remember I was at a club one time.
I tell this story all the time too.
I go to a club one time
and some older man,
he looked really fucking good.
Like three piece fitted suit,
definitely wearing a Patek Philippe,
is that the name of the watch?
Anyway, he said, "You look like somebody
"who would appreciate
"a trip on my private yacht
"in South of France."
I was like, "Ah, what makes you think
"I look like that?
"I am black out
"in the middle of an LA night club."
Of course I'd appreciate that.
It's just like, you know,
like if you have to say it,
you're probably not worth much.
- High value men
do not have to sell women on their value.
Our value speaks for itself.
Who we are as is speaks for itself.
- Yees. Agreed, 100%.
Okay. Now let's move on to the third one.
Sorry I, again, I can't agree with that more.
High value people
do not have to sell themselves.
Period who you are
and how you are with people
speaks for itself, period.
All right, let's go to the last one.
- Third, talk about,
how women you are sleeping with
or how many women you're dating.
Trying to sell your value.
- Again. Yeah.
He actually just mentioned it again.
Trying to sell your value.
I have so many clients that think,
"Well if I talk about other girls
"she'll know that I'm a high value guy
"and then she'll get jealous."
No, we won't get fucking jealous.
We'll be like, "Ew, I bet his dick is dirty."
Again I'm of the mind of being honest
if she asks you,
"So are you seeing other women?
Fine. Be like, "You know,
"I'm just waiting
"to find somebody that like,
"fits right in my life
"and I fit right in her life
"and it is a process
"and I am meeting other people."
That's totally fine.
But if you come in like swinging the dick,
like, "Yeah these chicks
"were slobbing on my knob all week."
Then we're going to be like, "Ew!"
We're not going to be like, " Ooh"
we're going to be like, "Ew."
That's all I have to say about that.
Let's see what else he has to say about it.
- Let women know your dating.
And you know,
if you somebody that
you don't run a risk
of running into a woman you're dating,
you probably don't even,
it probably doesn't even come up
because of some women
won't even bring this question up.
But for you guys
that are in school or some shit like this
where you going to date girls at the same school
or you one these guys,
you date women in the neighborhood.
So you day like two or three women
in the neighborhood and shit like that.
Yeah. You need to bring that shit up.
So we don't have no surprises.
All right.
New York is a big place.
So the odds of me running into a girl.
So unless she bring it up,
I really don't have to bring it up.
But if you somebody
and you date women
who are in your everyday living quarters
or, you know you might have
a great chance to bring up.
You need to bring it up,
but you ain't got to act like
you fucking the man.
You just...
- Totally agreed.
He basically just explained what I said to you.
If you have to bring it up, fine.
If she does ask about it
and brings it up, fine.
And talking about it is the same as
whipping out a bunch of hundreds
and being like, "Oh my God,
"here's all my spare change
"from the Bugatti I just purchased."
- You know, yeah I'm dating.
That's it, I don't got to get in specifics.
I'm dating 10 women,
and all this neighbor...
trying to show you I'm the man
to show you
how many women are attracted to me.
That is unattractive to women.
Very unattractive.
- Okay. So now we're at the three points.
I'm going to give an overall rating.
I say the first one I disagree with
and the second two,
I absolutely agree with
because it is this idea
of you trying to tune your own horn
when you don't have to.
I promise you,
we women will get a sense of who you are
and how worthy you are of our life
and how worthy we are of your life
just by you being your fucking self.
After last week's video,
so many of you guys were like,
"Well, I can't be myself,
"cause my self fucking sucks with women."
Well guess what?
That's not true.
It's you filtering who you really are.
And you trying to fake who you really are.
And you tried to (grunting)
front load all this cool shit about you
without just being present
in that fucking conversation
for her to feel you,
which is what chemistry is.
And if you know, you're having issues,
being yourself and getting lost up here,
as opposed to in here
I've just recently opened the doors
to my pandemic practice dates
at speaktosparkarousal.com /PPD
where I'm going to give you
girls to practice talking to.
Each week, you're going to talk to
a different one of my girlfriends
and it's going to be recorded to my zoom cloud
where I'm then going to have
a bird's eye view of what you look like
when you're talking to women
in a general sense.
Then you and I are going to do a review session
where I'm like,
"Hey, listen I watched you the entire fucking time.
"I can see you sitting there in your head
"thinking of the next fucking thing to say.
"That is not you being yourself.
"That is not you sucking with women.
"That is you pulling yourself
"from the conversation
"to sit in here
"while she sits there watching you
"wondering what the fuck you're thinking
"because you're no longer talking to her."
It's things like that
that I've been able to point out
for my current clients
where they've come back round
for the second chance sessions
where don't get a second chance
with all these women
after the feedback you and I have gone over.
And you'll get to try again
to see the differences
and the reactions of the women
and how different it feels for you
to be interacting
in ways where you are able to be yourself.
And you are able to showcase your strengths
without having to say shit like,
"Yeah, I drive a Ferrari, I swear"
My favorite part about all this
is hearing from the girls
after they do the second chance sessions.
Again, these are my closest girlfriends
that I know
are going to be really great
for you guys to talk to
who are going to be super down, super fun.
And they they'll text me right away.
Like, "Oh my God,
"what the fuck did you say to him?
"It's like night and day
"talking to a different person."
So if you know, you've been struggling
especially in this pandemic
with just figuring out what it is
you could do better
and you could afford to stop doing
when it comes to your interactions with women.
Don't forget to apply now
at speaktosparkarousal.com/PPD.
And absolutely subscribe to Alpha Male Strategies.
I like him a lot.
He's so fucking real.
The fact that he,
he clearly videotapes himself on his phone
like in his bedroom.
It's such a man's background
with his like curtain and the angle.
Super real, super genuine.
I dig him a lot here.
He reminds me of me, super animated,
super loud, says fuck a lot.
I liked him a lot.
Three things you should never do.
Please pillow talk,
but please don't talking about your finances
or all of the other females
that you may or not,
may or may not be getting into your bed.
Thanks for watching as always
and I'll see you guys next time.