Hi, my name is Paul Friedman. I founded The Marriage Foundation and today's
topic is "My Husband is Rude and Disrespectful to me" and I'm going to turn
this around for you. I'm not going to let you get away with this. I'm not going to do
"Oh, your husband is so bad," but here's how you can manipulate him. Here's how
you could get through to him. Here's how you can get him to listen to you -- No
we're not going to do that. I'm going to hit you with a bottom line
premise first. Didn't you get married to be happy? Of course, you did.
When did the fighting begin? Now for most people, it started when you were
selecting tuxes for the wedding, to be honest with you. Now maybe not in your
case maybe you had a pretty good marriage or maybe you had a pretty good
marriage by not really engaging that much because I'll tell you right now. If
your husband is routine now it didn't just start. This is something that has
built-up, this disrespectfulness is something that has built up and I'm not
saying you should take the blame for it. Don't get me wrong. He should not be that
way and if he were talking with me and I were talking with him I would him
You don't act that way, you don't do that to anyone much less your own wife and
I'm going tell you much less your own husband. Okay so to be a divorce
mediator, I've seen it all. I know what's going on but then I had one couple and
it changed everything and I started healing marriages but I had to create a
whole new way of looking at marriages and I started with a simple, "Why do
people get married?" You got married to be happy. You got married to be happier.
You got married to be happy or every single day of your life and you felt
rightly so that you could do so within your marriage that you married the right
one is all right, it's so correct. What happened? It was just two of you. How come
two of you couldn't keep it going? You didn't have good communication obviously,
you didn't really have the connection. Obviously, let's fix that now. Look your
marriage could be in one of two places. It could be
sort of wobbling which is why you're writing in. In that case, either of my
books will be fine or you could write to one of our counselors at The Marriage
Foundation. It's a free service and the books are good, Lessons for a Happy
Marriage and Breaking the Cycle. They're real templates for real marriage. It's
not trendy love, talk and men are from New York and all that stuff.
It's not like that. It really lays things out simply succinctly
and if your marriage is already starting to take a nosedive and it's heading
towards divorce, don't get the books instead get one of the courses and the
courses embody. I used to go to Second Saturday support group for women
who are getting a divorce and I would convert women and they would come see me
and this is all that I used to help them and it transforms your life but remember
this. You got married to be happy. You have free will. I only use the deepest
spiritual principles to back up what I do. You have free will. You are a soul.
A soul is infinitely happy, how come you're not especially when you're with your
soul mate. I put it all together and you can too. I'll show you how. This is very
important, this is your marriage. You're so totally invested. Don't give up and
don't go looking for the therapist. You're not crazy, you don't need a
therapist. You just need to learn how to do this.
All right. Thanks for spending time with me. I care about you. If you want to leave
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about The Marriage Foundation. We're special, we really are different. We're
very special and other than that. Blessings to you,
blessings to your husband and blessings to your family and we're going to help
you.