this is what a typical Japanese wedding
is
like so this is going to be a special
one because I get to share with you a
real deal Japanese wedding and even more
special is that it's my sister-in-law
Michael's sister Eddie Chan's wedding
many of you first met her in my day in
the life of a Japanese car repair worker
and probably most recently saw her in my
last New Year's video with Junior
today's groom and this is their typical
Japanese wedding which can be quite
different than Western ones well you can
let me know in the comments after this
video also if there's anything else that
I missed you're good dude ready
daddy first the dress code let me just
say it's typically a lot more strict in
Japan as there are countless rules
especially for females for example women
can't show their Shoulders Knees Toes
wear Furs or animal prints and the list
goes on and when you attend as a family
of the bride and groom you must
absolutely follow the rules so they
don't lose face for friends though I
should say there are some gray areas so
Michael's mom aka the brides bomb is
wearing a black kimono also known as
Kudo Tom sod each kimono having a class
level based on its pattern this is quite
important as it's actually quite rude to
wear a higher class kimono than the
mother of the bride and groom the two
moms basically decide in advance what
they're going to wear so none of the
other guests shows up to outshine them
both as for men usually dark suits and
white tires are required but if the
wedding is more informal a colored tie
can be worn as well but basically no
black ties so yeah I kind of push it a
little a little bit with renting a tux
but I definitely asked Eddie Chun if I
could wear it in advance so I didn't
piss any of them off you know it's a
special occasion oh also no sunglasses
okay so this is the waiting room area
the waiting room the reception is
usually at the front of the waiting room
this is the place where they take
attendance and gather the wedding gift
money called gugi when you attend a
Japanese wedding you must absolutely
bring a wedding gift which is typically
only cash in addition it's critical to
use a special envelope specifically
designed for the wedding gift where the
ribbons are made not to be untied and
the amount itself is critical friends
and co-workers are expected to give at
least 30,000 yen per person about
$225 while cousins and relatives give at
least 30,000 yen to 100,000 Yen and
immediate family members are expected to
gift even more I.E Mico oh and the cash
itself must only be brand new bills
interestingly Japan being Japan even Yen
amounts are not preferred because it can
be split which is bad luck to since no
one wants to talk about splitting up at
a wedding also the amounts with four and
nine need to be avoided because the
numbers sound like death and suffering
in Japanese hence 40,000 Yen and 60,000
Yen are unacceptable amounts get any of
this wrong in your wedding gift could be
considered rude oh and usually there'll
be a welcome board and table like this
to welcome the guests because a bride
and group can't the board itself is
probably common all around the world but
maybe the table is not so much basically
it represents and shares the couple's
favorite activities and interests
the family only meeting before the
ceremony starts the family gets to see
the bride and groom first before any of
the other guests in a separate room so
yeah no rule about the bride and groom
not seeing each other before the
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wedding then later the extended family
meet each other introduced typically by
the father of each side now the gift
that keeps on giving so while we're here
and the family is getting introduced let
me quickly talk about the other side of
the gift money while it's quite an
investment for a guest especially if
they're attending several in a year for
the bride and groom who responsible for
the overall wedding cost also typically
bear the cost of out of City travel for
both family and friends they'll pay for
the transportation and hotel fees even
going as far as to make the reservations
and sometimes for family friends even
organize and pay for the hair to get
done just before the ceremony isn't
mich's hair nice so this looks like the
ceremony area right here
now for the koshiki AKA ceremony
Japanese weddings consists of two parts
a ceremony where they exchang vows and a
reception followed afterwards what
happened during the ceremony is pretty
much the same as Western weddings the
groom appears the bride walks down the
aisle with the father they exchange vows
Exchange rings kiss and then walk back
up the
aisle oh and just before they Exchange
rings what do you know Wolfie was the
ring bearer he sure knows how to capture
the audience attention let's just watch
him while I speak about the next point
in Eddie's wedding this ceremony is held
at the reception venue itself but it's
not surprising to have it at a different
location like a church and for more
traditional Japanese weddings at a
shrine with more traditional attire or
even do both versions these days though
it's fairly typical to do it all at one
location like this wedding and there you
go package delivered on time
now for the hedo in also known as the
reception it's basically a dinner party
in a banquet hall a party to announce to
family and friends that they just got
married the seating is decided by the
host to ensure that the guests are as
comfortable as possible so I guess the
parents side sits all the way in the
back because we have us here and then
the other parents over there so
apparently in Japan immediate family
members are considered as hosts so they
usually are seated in the back I guess
I'm considered part of the immediate
family
dope and look we even got presents when
you arrive at your seat you'll find a
bag on it this is called the hii demono
and it's a gift for the guests to bring
back home items are carefully chosen by
the bride and groom and it's common to
include items like table wear
Confections and even gift cataloges for
guests to later choose what type of
gifts they want sent to their home
guests received this as a thank you for
attending the wedding before we continue
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website oh Eddie tennon junr are here
now the party has officially
started the reception program is run by
the venues MC and between all the
entertainment food and drinks it goes by
pretty fast and check this out we just
got some food here so this is what you
would find typically at a Japanese
wedding not all food it's going to be
Japanese but you do have Sashimi here
got some crabs here too but it just
looks so
good the toast so who does the toast
well at this wedding edon's boss is
doing the toast you may remember him in
my previous video usually a boss or
older friend gives a speech and makes a
toast at a Japanese wedding fun little
fact in the past bosses and relatives
were often invited to weddings as
they're typically required to give a
greater amount of gift money but these
days it's become more popular to invite
CL friends instead to share this
occasion the parent greetings so in
between the program the parents visit
all the tables to greet and thank every
single guest for coming usually they
bring beer bottles so they can pour
glasses and do a compi together don't
mind if I
do so in Japan you don't have a best man
or a best woman best man in bridesmaid
so these ladies and these gentlemen look
like the best men and bridesmaids but
they're simply helping out with part of
the show during the reception in fact
it's typical not to have a best man or
bridesmaid at a Japanese wedding while
we enjoy the program let me talk about
how the wedding invitations work first
of all Michael Wolfie and I were
specifically invited to this joyous
occasion but this may or may not be so
obvious as there's not really the
concept in Japanese weddings of a plus
one if you're attending a Japanese
wedding your name was specifically
written on the invitation months in
advance as a whole event is so overly
planned and follows a strict schedule
coming as an unknown is rare often times
even Michael will get invited to her
friend's Japanese wedding and I her
husband won't even be invited and vice
versa it's just how it is so Michael
when do we start dancing no dance
there's no dancing nobody dance no
afterwards like don't we like start
to the unless unless you're Western
person and like plan some W and ready
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the letter reading at the end of the
reception it's customary to have a
letter read to the parents from the
daughter it's usually a heartwarming te
moment for everyone and the parents
stand in the back taking it all
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in before the couple leave the room
usually the father of the groom gives
the last speech to wrap it all
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up another fun part of a Japanese
wedding is the enroll video they edit
the video on the day and play it at the
end after the bride and groom leave the
room it's crazy how fast they edit it
you know it takes Micha and I several
days if not weeks to make our video so
it's pretty impressive in the video
itself you usually see yourself at least
once as well as the highlights of this
happy
day okay so we are finishing up right
now after this there's going to be a
niai which is like an after party but
the family is really not supp Bo to
go the send off finally when you're
leaving the bride and groom are the ones
that send you off at the entrance with a
little
gift so I'm going to end it here if you
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