I'm speaking English, and if you understand English,
then it's very likely that you could understand what I'm saying,
but if you don't understand English then communication is lost.
You have no idea what I'm saying, and the same goes for love.
There are lots of different ways to communicate love,
and if your way of expressing love is different from somebody else's,
then the two of you might not understand that you love each other,
and that's where problems in relationships can happen -
lots of miscommunication and, "You never show that you love me," and,
"Well I do. I show it this way," and the other person's like,
"But that's not how I recognize love. I recognize it this way. And blaahh!"
This is where the love languages come in, and I understand that
personality type quizzes and things aren't always perfect,
but I think this one's really interesting.
Disclaimer: love languages aren't just for romantic relationships.
They can be for friends and family.
There are five different ways that people can communicate love.
Number one: words of affirmation.
"Hey, Peters projection map, I really appreciate you because you show the size of counties
in proportion to each other, unlike other maps."
Now, people who's main love language is words of affirmation express love
by telling other people things that they like about them
and things that they appreciate about them.
Someone who is big on affirmation will feel loved by somebody else
if they say nice things about them.
Number two: physical touch.
[STROKING]
Now, this doesn't mean sex. It means all kinds of physical touch from just strokes of the head
to little pats on the shoulder and just generally being in close physical contact.
♪Head, shoulders, knees, and toes, knees, and toes.♪
Number three: quality time.
"Hey, Blondie, want to hang out this evening and watch Netflix? Cool."
This just means spending time with the other person.
Actively spending time together doing stuff,
hanging out, talking, whatever. Quality time. Yeah.
Number four: acts of service.
"Hey, I made you a cup of tea!"
[TAPS ON LENS]
Acts of service is basically doing small little tasks for the other person without being asked to.
Number five: gifts.
"Hey, Gimli. I bought you this chocolate frog
because I know how much you love Harry Potter."
And it can be anything from the thought to the time
or the money that went in to the gift, and that is a way of expressing love. Tada!
Now, I've got a pretty good idea of what I think my love languages are,
but I'm going to do a quiz to find out.
Tadadadada! So my top one is physical touch.
I just...it's how I express my love for people.
Quality time and words of affirmation are like joint second.
That sounds about right. I like people telling me good things about me,
and I like spending time with people.
Then, it's acts of service and then receiving gifts.
Yeah, I think love languages are really interesting.
I think that it's really important to know what the love languages are
of people who you love who are around you
so that when you say or do certain things, they'll recognize it as love and vice versa.
Thank you for watching this video.
Please let me know in the comments what your love languages are
and what you think of the love languages.
If you think it's all bullshit, that's totally valid as well.
Please give this video a thumbs up if you enjoyed it.
Also, if you follow me on Twitter, you'll know this already because I tweet about it a lot,
but I'm in this series on the channel called Astronauts Wanted, which is called "The Feels,"
and it's me and a bunch of other awesome lady YouTubers,
and we answer your advice questions and we talk about love and sex and relationships.
There's been a whole bunch of episodes that have already come out,
so I'll put a link in the description to the playlist where you can watch them all,
and then there'll be another episode coming out tomorrow.
So, watch it! I can't express my love to you through physical touch
because you're not here, but this video is us spending quality time together,
and I think you're all amazing and great and super funny and intelligent human beings
There you go. That's me expressing my love to you
through my remaining love languages. Yay! Okay, bye!