- Good morning, good life,
welcome back to Amy TV where we come together
to help you go after the life you want.
You know what sucks?
Productivity.
Yes, the thing we sing about and strive for
on a daily basis, it sucks.
It's this lofty, out of reach, thingymajig
that we all want but can't make happen.
But why won't it?
There's eleventy billion tips on how to be more productive
just on YouTube alone,
most of them here on this channel.
So, what gives?
Productivity isn't possible for you or most people
because you don't know what it is.
You've the best of intentions,
swipe up, Google away and find the information
that you think will get you to that ideal level
of productivity, put you over the top
and help you achieve your dreams.
You want it,
and you want it bad,
and you see it too, or at least you think you do.
Isn't it real, isn't it real when we see it every day
in our news feeds, in our email inboxes, on TV.
It seems real because we see case after case
of individuals who have the same amount of time
as we do every day and yet are still on this Earth,
even though somehow they haven't killed themselves
working so hard to achieve the things that they want
to achieve, how are they still going?
Why aren't I operating at that speed?
Why isn't life more like theirs?
So you try to figure it out,
you research, you do a few things differently
but productivity will not happen for you
and that is because productivity is not real,
or at least it's not real if you're not willing
to sit down and have a conversation with yourself
about what you think it is.
Why will you never be productive?
Because it's this mainstream phrase that sounds
like it's full of possibilities but is actually
you're way of explaining why you're not listening
to what you really want.
If you were open to having a real conversation
with yourself about what you want and what it would take
to make it happen, you would not be time batching your way
on to the first task on your to do list.
You'd be so focused inching your way toward your goal
that you wouldn't have time to think about
how much time you have or time you've wasted
or time you've given away.
Why do you give your time away?
Why do you feel that's a more acceptable life
than being honest with yourself about what you really want?
Ah, but that's the answer right there.
Productivity to you is what looks good
on someone else.
How does Mary have a thriving career
and still able to tuck her kids in at night?
How does Suzie have the ability to freelance
when she's so in demand at her job?
And where in the world does Erin get off
learning fluent French?
How does that happen?
To be productive means to achieve what others have,
that's what it means to you,
but that is not enough.
That mind set does not convert real currency
that drives you to listen to yourself
because it's so busy drowning out your own voice
with something as fleeting as the potential
of someone else's world.
Their potential world.
You don't know what they have,
you don't know their journey,
you don't know they have found balance.
To distract yourself further,
if you've taken up the sport of tearing someone down
for how they spend their time,
you are wasting your own.
So what if it doesn't make sense to you?
Why are you trying to put them in this pretty little box
so that you can either lift it up
or take it down?
You are only increasing the social acceptiveness
of the same happening with you.
Boxing yourself away to potentially avoid
any complaints, comparisons or confrontation.
By the way, finding balance?
Did you think that was real too?
Is that what you want to be productive for?
To strike the perfect balance of life and love
and career and purpose and spirit to stumble upon it?
Be careful not to offend such coveted territories.
Balance is not found like productivity is not real
because the only semblance you'll find of either
is a whiff of a fragrance you only smell
after real, specific action.
Smells good, don't it?
But life doesn't smell good all the time,
there's work, there's sweat, people die,
pandemics hit and you have to have those moments
that you wish you wouldn't so you can push through
to the ones you actually want
and that is what real balance looks like.
The moments you make happen, traveling next to
the ones that just do.
You'll never be productive because you can never be
something that you cannot define,
nor can you be something that you think someone else is.
Here are three things you can be today,
instead of productive.
Number one, present.
If you're scrolling the phone looking for productivity
and balance motivation while sitting next to somebody
you love dearly so that you can hopefully be
a better version of yourself for them,
put the phone down.
Just look at that person and become 5% better for them,
right now, when you align your mind
and your eyeballs, you are present and it is beautiful
and it's far better than comparing yourself
to whatever you're reading or watching right now.
Number two, particular.
We've gotten so good at being agreeable
and lovely that we've gone down this road
without speaking up about the thing
that we are after,
get the thing that you are after.
Be very particular about it.
No one's telling you to be perfect
or to strive for perfection but stop allowing
all of the outs, for the thing that you know very well
could come true if you had the audacity to ask.
Number three, proactive.
As Tony Robins would say,
it's not about positivity,
it's about intelligence.
You do not need to smile your way into making something
come true, you just have to do something about it
and use your big old brain to make it happen.
Stop ignoring these simple facts and take a proactive
step forward toward the thing you need for you,
because it's okay to need something that's just for you.
It doesn't make you a bad partner or parent
or coworker or friend,
you need something that's just yours,
otherwise you'll spend the rest of your life
trying to figure out what productivity looks like.
Don't be productive.
Be unapologetically you.
That's all for today, thank you so much for tuning in.
I appreciate it as always,
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kiss the ones you love
and go after the life you want.
Cheers.
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Hold my hands while I'm filming today
and if not move on at the exact same time.
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