Hello so you have a really big meeting coming up
or maybe just an important networking event
or maybe it's just your first day of school
either way you want to make it the best first impression that you possibly can
and in this video I'm going to tell you how to do that.
First impressions are super important believe it or not people really do rely on them
and there have been moments in my life that people have thought that
I was a certain way because of that initial meeting
and because of that they didn't give me opportunities
or they didn't become my friends etc, etc.
because they based everything that they knew about me off is that first meeting.
Some of you might think that's not really fair
why are people like that, don't judge a book by it's cover blah blah blah
but at the end of the day this is something that you can control
you can control the way that people feel about you.
So here are five tips for nailing your first impression.
This is probably the easiest way to start which is to dress appropriately.
Dress to impress.
I know you're probably like oh that's so superficial Romina
but guess what, what you look like is the first thing that people are going to see
so if you are trying to come off as this crazy artist who is eccentric
and you're very creative then maybe you want to dress that way
if you are trying to come off as someone who is more serious
maybe someone who's organized and efficient with their work
you might want to go for a more clean-cut type of look.
Now, this doesn't necessarily mean
that you have to wear like a suit and tie all the time to impress people
what it really means is dress appropriately for the thing that you want to do
like how do you want to impress people.
Some people are more of like a sneakers type other people are more like a dress shoe type
and you still have to be true to yourself but at the same time
you have to dress according to your industry.
I hope that makes sense.
So you might be the type of person who doesn't care what people think
well then maybe this is not the video for you.
How you dress reflects the person that you are
and if you are the type of person who is like well I'm not going to fix my hair
and I'm just going to go with my sweatpants everywhere
and I don't really care how I look because I don't care what people think about me
I don't care about what people think about the way that I look.
They should judge me based on who I am not the way that I look
but the reality is like I said this is what they're going to see first
and if they see something that turns them off
they might not give the person who's inside a chance.
You might also say well Romina that's not a really cool person
if they're not going to give you a chance strictly talking about work
and trying to impress people
I think that it's really important to reflect that you care about the way that you look
like that's not a bad thing and dressing like you don't care
means that you do not care what another person thinks, just kind of selfish.
So that's kind of the energy that you're putting out there.
So that's it for that tip let's go on to the next one.
This next one applies to when you are already in a conversation with somebody
and whether this is a meeting or you're just meeting them
at the first time at a party or at school or something
it's really important for you to listen to everything that they're saying
and if possible take notes so if you're at a meeting take notes
this all comes back because later on in the conversation
you can reference to whatever points you think are necessary
you can reference them again and it shows the other person
that you are listening
so having good listening skills is extremely important
because if someone is telling you a story about their grandmother
who did some crazy things and then 20 minutes later
you bring that back into the conversation somehow
that shows the other person that you care and that you were listening the whole time
and that you are invested in who they are and what they have to say
so listening skills is a plus.
This brings us to the next tip which also applies to conversation
when you are talking to somebody remember their name.
I know this is like so simple but remember their name
and if you can, repeat it, repeat it often as you are talking to this person
again it shows that you care and honestly people love hearing their name
so for you to keep on repeating somebody's name
while you're in a conversation means that you're already
building up this rapport with them and it's almost like you're already
you know, buddy, buddy.
Remember people's names one tip for remembering someone's name
when you just meet them is if someone is like
hey I'm Frank
then you say, hi Frank I'm romina
and you just already repeated their name and it's just a little trick
that personally it helped me in remembering people's names
when I just first meet them.
While you are in the middle of your conversation
you might start getting nervous maybe you're anxious, maybe you're bored
and maybe you just want to leave the conversation
or you start getting hungry and you start thinking about stuff
and then it's like, oh did I leave the stove on at home
and you just kind of disconnect
and maybe you start biting your nails or picking at your nails
or just, you know, twirling your hair this brings us to the next tip.
Watch your body language it's really important to stay relax
while you're in the middle of a conversation and just still be yourself
but you have to watch your body language if you have your arms closed
like this, it can mean that, you know, you're closed off or uncomfortable
and it's interesting because maybe for you maybe you're not uncomfortable
maybe you're just like relaxing, you know, whatever
but that comes across in different ways to different people
so it's just mindful to kind of if you can look up
what different body languages mean to different people
because it can send off the wrong signal
you kind of have to just watch yourself while you're talking
and while you're listening to someone
if you're listening it might not be good for you too just like be picking at your nails
you just kind of have to be mindful and kind of put yourself outside of your body
and look at yourself that sounds really weird
but just kind of look at yourself from the outside
and just ask yourself
does that look like I'm engaged in the conversation?
Does that look like I'm interested in the conversation?
You gotta ask yourself these questions I know it's really difficult
you're already in the conversation you just got to do it
it's these little things that will help you to really nail that first impression.
Lastly this is the most important tip that I can give you today.
When you are first meeting someone if you're super duper excited
about meeting this person the first thing that you're going to want to do
is to tell them everything there is to know about yourself.
You just want this person to know everything and you just want to share
like all of your successes with your business
you want to tell your classmate all the movies
that you've watched over the summer you want to tell them everything
although it's really great to put yourself out there
it makes more of an impression if you keep turning the conversation
on to the other person so if the person asks you
what you enjoy doing on the weekends then you can maybe give them a short answer
and immediately ask them what about you?
Do you like doing this? and if you just keep asking the other person
what they are interested in, what they do, what movies they like
what they don't like, what their passions are
what their ambitions are, goals.
If you keep asking the other person about themselves
that will leave a lasting impression I'm telling you not to talk about yourself
and to ask the other person to talk about themselves
and the reason that I'm saying to do that is because people love talking about themselves
so if you are at a party and you just go around mingling
and you're networking and meet everybody at the party
and you talk to everybody and you ask everybody about themselves
and you learn about everyone then you go home
knowing all of these facts about all these people
and how they can either help you with your business
or if we can collaborate on a project or if you can be friends and hang out
you have all this knowledge about all these other people
and you kind of end up being the most interesting person at the party
because everybody wants to know more about you
because of this people will be more inclined to reach out to you
or to want to meet up with you again later on or hang out with you
because they want to know more about you so this is the most important thing
that I can possibly say today for this video because I feel
like it's something that's really easy and sometimes that happens to me too
where I get caught up in the moment and I just want to tell everybody
about all the projects that I'm working on and then I realize
that by the end of the conversation I've learned nothing about the other person
and I have no idea if I even want to hang out
with that person ever again and I just told them my whole life story.
So super important always bring the conversation back to the other person.
Those are all the tips that I have for you today
I hope that you have learned how to nail that first impression.
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