The first the first thing that I wanna that I want to tell you is and I think I think many of
you know this but for those of you that are new to my community or don't know that I have a coaching
schedule that where I meet with a couple of people a day usually day in and day out I generally coach
about three um you know two to three people a day uh four to five days a week so there's generally
about 10 to 12 people that I speak to week in and week out those are usually uh new people different
people sometimes they're repeat customers but basically I talk to a lot of people where I'm
I'm interacting with those from around the world I have uh customers in nearly 200 countries they're
all over the place they've got all kinds of unique issues and different challenges and
most of those people that I'm coaching about 80 percent of them are looking for a new job or a new
career or A New Path or or something related finding a job and then the other 20 percent
are usually individuals I'm coaching on a high performance basis where they want to
do well in their jobs and one thing that and I for all these interactions I I I form opinions
I look at anecdotal data or Insight where I start drawing conclusions and patterns about
people's behaviors and things of that nature and one of the things that I wanted to to share with
you and I've noticed this a lot lately because I've a lot of those people let's say of the 30
people that I've talked to in the last three weeks they're I want to say the ones that were looking
for a new route in their life a new career path that needed to get the steps in order to figure
that out and and part of what I was doing in those coaching sessions was helping them triangulate the
things that make them happy the things they're interested in because I always say to people
what is it that you want to happen let me know that and then we'll figure out the way to make
that happen and part of figuring out what you want to happen there's always some type of reflection
exercise about when you were happiest when you were not when you were maybe saddest or most
frustrated or something of that nature but we we look at all of that because we look for patterns
we look for combinations of things and one of the things that I've noticed and this is what
I want to share with you as you venture out into investigating new employers almost to a person of
of those people that I've talked to in the last three weeks but this is generally true for people
that have interacted with throughout my life because I would I would extrapolate this forward
and backwards and I'm guessing this is this holds true for you too I want you to think for a moment
about when you were the most happy in your life as it related as it related to your career and I
would be willing to bet if you're anything like those people that I've talked to over the last
three three weeks or so that there's two things that are in common with most people that are happy
growth and contribution personal growth meaning I felt like I was on the rise I was learning new
things I was trying new things not that I was succeeding succeeding succeeding actually part
of that could have been I was failing forward and and learning new things and then iterating
and growing but there was growth and the other thing was and what I was doing I felt like I
was actually contributing whether whether that contribution was to the greater good
or their company or their team but like they felt like what they were doing mattered and
there was a contribution element to it those two things and yes personal growth might be about
yourself because you you want to feel satiated in that regard but that contribution element was
was a requirement in those in those people's situations of what I found to be
I mean they needed those two ingredients okay show of hands who would agree with that statement
because both of those things needed to be true and the more true they were the happier they were
personal growth and contribution and so let me let me know if you just think about when
you were happiest and try to think about whether both of those things were present and the second
thing I would say to you is let's look on the other side of the coin because this matters too
is when were you least happy or when were you most unhappy flat out and usually
usually not always it was something related to themself
it was something about themselves themselves they didn't like it was something about themself
that didn't that didn't either make sense or they felt badly or they felt like they failed
but it was really all about them and even if there were other people involved
like you know I was unhappy because I you know I was managing this team and this and that
and it wasn't even about the the individuals themselves that that they were managing that
weren't performing well as much as it was about them the way they felt about themselves that they
that they felt like they failed in the management of the team they failed in the in the management
of the upbringing of the kid so to speak and it wasn't even about them being disappointed
in the kid or the staff so to speak as much as it was about themselves and what they felt about
their personal failure okay now why am I why am I sharing this with you because because you're
gonna go out and a lot of you I know that are here with me that come to the Thursday live show at 11.
you're you're you're coming to me because for most for the most part you need help with finding that
right job now some of you come and you continue to come if you can make it on your lunch break
after you find your new job with me uh but but I I know that to be true and so I want you to make
sure that when you are looking at employers and you are looking at roles you are going to take
if if there is an imbalance among those things where you will not grow and you will not be able
to make an impact and you're looking at things like I need to take this I understand you might
need to take a job because you need to put food on the table I totally get that and and support
and love you for whatever it is you need to do but I want you to know I going in Eyes Wide Open
of what you're what you're entering into and then you need to figure out a way if you don't
think there's personal growth and contribution there then you need to figure out a way to make
sure that those things in some way shape or form get satiated because if they're not you won't be
happy I can almost assure you so I just want I want you to think about that I want you to
just kind of step back and I know we get locked and loaded on I gotta put my resume together I
got a job hunt I gotta interview I need to figure out how to answer this stupid interview question
that employers keep asking or whatever it is but I want you to think bigger picture
and so so that's something that I that I've been I've been noticing a lot lately okay so I hope
that that's tip number one I hope that I hope that helps and I hope I hope you found that to be good
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