Hi, This is Christy Whitman with the Quantum Success Show
where you can get your information and inspiration to create your desires.
And today I'm going to address some questions a lot of questions
that you guys have written in to me and many of the questions
you know I always review, what does someone want to learn more about and how can I
be of service, I always want you to tell me "I have got an idea for a show and I have a
question about this. Could you address this?"
and so many of the ones that came in were
how do I change my mom?
How do I get the man I'm in a relationship with, to love me more?
How can I get my ex husband back? How can I get my children to
XYZ? So the focus is really about the other person.
And what I know about universal laws
because believe me, I've tried, you cannot
affect another person in a sense of change or control or make things happen
with someone else. We are all creating
our own life experience and we are creating
things in our life based on the energy that we give out. Right?
So that energy that we give out
has a carrier wave. It has a relationship with the other people that are in your
life.
so we can't go outside ourselves and try to fix this person and make them less
controlling or
make them more sensitive with what they say a or
make them more conscious or make them less competitive or
any of these things. These are all things outside of us.
So our focus and our attention is outside of us
when our focus and our attention needs to be within our own being
because "as within so with out."
So if you have a theme
say you are finding there's a lot of criticism
coming at you. Maybe it's your boss, your mom, all these different people...
we have to go within and really
find a voice that's being critical
and change and shift our own inner voice.
We have to shift the environment within
and and then the environment will shift
on the outside now let me say this: there are people that may never ever
shift. People may go out of your lives so
what if it's a mom or a dad? Someone that
you can't change, they don't wanna change
your inner work isn't really
changing their patterns and behaviors it's really up to them
what you do is you show up differently, you show up
really owning yourself and communicating
what works for you and what doesn't work for you and you get to say:
"you know that criticism, that felt like criticism to me and that was an OUCH."
Tthat doesn't feel good to me and maybe just maybe
they'll start becoming more aware in your presence.
They may and my mom did this for years "oh don't be so sensitive."
All I could do is keep
owning myself and owning how I feel
and communicating what's important. Yes mom, I am sensitive and that's a gift
that's not a problem
We own ourselves but we can't ever
ever change another person. We can't use laws of attraction or universal laws
to make a lover come back to us. now
if we shift within ourselves, we do our own growth
and all of a sudden the lover comes back, great!
but we can't set out to make the lover come back
or to make your kids not be so rebellious or
those type of things. But what I do know is as you do your own shifting
as you shift the patterns within yourself that hold you back
as you heal the wounds as you go really deep within the energy
within you and you shift that energy things and people
and situations shift on the outside as well. So the answer to
if you ever want to change someone else outside of you, it can't be done
you have to look at what buttons are these people pushing within you
because that's a pattern that you have within yourself to develop,
to release, to look at; but it's always about our own
personal growth. We can affect
somebody else and that's a lot of times I do with my coaching is
I have an advanced course
Called "Light Body" and so what I will do is I will hold
the students in a high space transmitting energy to them, not sending them
energy or anything like that
just me being in my full space and thinking of that person and seeing them
in their highest place. that's why coaching is amazing I have coaches that
do the same for me
they see me at my absolute highest
and when you could start shifting and stop seeing your mom is a problem or
your ex-husband as you know
you wanted to get him to do something or come back or you want your kids. When you can really be
in your own space
and really feel the love in the energy between
within you and feel the connection and then you think of that other person
that affects their energy
but again it's up to them if they wanna step
into that energy and really feel that and own that
or they want to stay where they are, they want to stay stuck, if they want
to go to a different place but what's going to happen
that energy dynamic will shift but it has to happen within
what I love about this work and what I love about universal Laws
is a lot people come into learning about this because they want to manifest something.
Whether it's a better relationship a relationship in general
they want to make more money, they want to find a new job, they want to change their mom
you know they want something to
change on the outside, and any change
any shift, any manifestation, anything
outside of you; It's all based on
you. You are the energy generator, you are the dream maker
you are the map maker, you are the one that when you send out
everything in your outer reality shifts.So if you could just even close your eyes
that is why meditation is so great
and just let all those images fade away and put all your focus and your attention
back on yourself, and pay attention to how am I feeling!
what's up for me today, how am I thinking
are these thoughts empowering me? or disempowering me?
How can I send more love to my mom?
What button is mom pushing within me that I need to
look at? It's always about ourselves.
It's always about going within
as within so without. As you shift and
change; you shift your patterns even. Limiting
beliefs within the early conditioning that we had
things outside of us will change. And it's really fun one last thing is that
there's this idea in the universe and well not in the
universe in our society that being selfish
is bad when we can only come from
the self and that type of training that selfish
is bad; it gets us all completely removed from our self
in focusing on everybody and everything outside of ourselves.
When the truth is we have to be selfish. We can only come from
the self. When we come from the self
then we can give freely.
my dear mentor Karen LaMark Wilson and she teaches in the Energy Mastery for
Advancing Coaching course. she talks about give from the saucer
and I love that. so just leave you with this;
you know think of like a cup and saucer. Maybe you drink coffee or maybe you drink
tea and when you're selfish enough
you're filling your cup up and you keep filling it up and filling it up
until it goes over and there's stuff
there's coffee there's tea, there's energy, there's love, whatever it is
in the saucer and you give from the saucer
not from the cup. so
the more you give to yourself the more you turn inward, the more you're doing your
inner work;
your whole entire outer reality will shift.
I promise you that. It is law.... so
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