I seriously just need you to make a decision and stick with it because
you second-guessing yourself is detrimental to everything in your life
long-term.
Welcome back to the channel, everybody.
My name's already and this is the moving average the week has come to
an end.
So you guys know what time it is.
Let's get into Focus Fridays.
If you guys are unfamiliar with the show every Friday, I like to drop
a little bit of motivation and inspiration for you to help you
progress in your life.
So in this video, I want to focus on second-guessing yourself having
those self-doubt and I want to talk about where they stem from and how
you can stop doing it.
So many of us while growing up have a lot of influence from our
parents, from our friends, from our teachers, from our counselors, and
these people's opinions matter to us a lot.
So while making any type of Life decision, we also think about what
those people will think about your decision.
This is the starting point to self-doubt when you start thinking about
making decisions and then start, contemplating what other people are
going to think your cause
This cycle of self-doubt and you're second-guessing every single one
of your decision.
And the issue with this is is that you don't really know what those
people are thinking.
You're just fabricating, these imaginary thoughts in your head.
Assuming what other people are going to think about you.
Now, I'm starting this out with those big life decisions, like what
college you should go to, should you get married at a certain age?
What big house you should buy all of those big life, decisions, caused
the most amount of anxiety, and the most amount of self-doubt and
those big ones trickle down to the small decisions up until the point
where you're sitting at a drive-through window at McDonald's and you
can't even choose what you want to eat because you're like am I going
to like that and do is disconnect on it?
It's bad for you.
We as human beings have intuition and we also have a brain.
That is extremely smart.
If Trey
Properly being able to use your intelligence as well as your
intuition, your intuition grabs from your intelligence, and allows you
to make quick educated decisions concrete decisions so that you don't
have to sit and worry about a specific thought or a specific thing
that you want to do.
You just make a decision and you go for it.
College students have a plethora of this problem.
They don't know which degree they want to choose.
They don't know what they want to do for the rest of their lives.
You don't have to figure it out.
All you have to do is make a decision and in a very short amount of
time, you will realize whether you made the right decision or the
wrong decision, but sitting there and contemplating and stressing
about if you made the right one is the wrong way to do it.
The great thing about life is is that you can always change your path.
Even if you made the wrong decision, you chose the wrong.
3 in college, you can stop and start over in the degree that you
actually wanted to get in college.
I wanted to be either an architect and engineer a chef, go to a trade
school and become a mechanic and or work in the financial industry.
And being some financial advisor for really, really rich people and or
working for a big Bank.
Like these were the areas that my brain went.
This was after.
I had already chosen to be in the hotel Administration field,
everybody second-guesses themselves, and it's completely natural
because you're contemplating.
What is the best option for you?
So, how do we solve this issue?
It starts with these big life decisions and trickles down to the small
ones, right?
So if we flip it to the reverse start making more concrete, small
decisions and those will trickle up to the bigger life decisions.
You need to practice and baby steps to start making concrete small.
Decisions before you get up to the big boys, the next thing that you
need to start and or stop doing is thinking about what other people
are going to think about you.
Their opinions really don't matter.
The thing that matters the most is the thing that makes you the
happiest, use your knowledge and your intuition because your intuition
is going to draw off of that.
Amazing thing in between your ears.
It's like when you're doing a test in school and you don't really know
what the answer is, but your first instinct was like, yeah, it's B and
then you do the wrong one because you second-guess yourself.
And then when you get your grade back, you're like damn it.
I should have went with that first one because your intuition is
really, really, really smart.
Why am I talking about second-guessing yourself and your intuition and
making decisions because I get a lot of DMS from people saying that
they're second-guessing their trades.
They're watching their trades go by because they couldn't commit to a
decision and I want you to know that if you've studied enough and if
you
Tested enough.
And if you download Enough, all of these things, add up to your
plethora of knowledge in the side of your brain, and your intuition,
and your analysis is correct.
What you need to do is enter the trade, make the decision, get in the
trade, and if you have trouble second-guessing yourself, while you're
in it, and you're closing it too early or you're not letting it hit
take profit.
The thing that you can do is you've already made that concrete
decision.
You've already gotten into that trade, turn off your phone, turn off
your laptop walk away check the trade the next day.
Like I said in a previous video, any major change in your life takes
baby steps.
Start with the small decisions.
What do you want for dinner?
Pizza or pasta pizza.
Make the decision.
Make the instinctual decision of what you want.
Stop second-guessing yourself.
You always have the option to change your path in the future.
Just make a decision.
Stop.
Stressing about it because it's doing nothing but hurting you and yes
for bigger life decisions.
Please don't make split-second decisions, but really think about it.
Take other people's opinions out of the equation and think about
what's going to make you the happiest.
Obviously big life decisions.
Take a little bit more thinking then what kind of pizza you want but
these small steps are going to help you in your life to make decision
making easier to stop second-guessing yourself and to stop having that
self-doubt.
You are an intelligent person.
Trust me.
We all have the mental capacity to learn new things to make educated
decisions.
And the only person that's going to know what's best for you, is you I
really hope this video helped some of you guys that are struggling
with this issue in your life.
And I also really hope that some of you start making the change today.
So now that we've taken the self-doubt problem out of your life.
What's the next step?
You got to commit to it?
If you want a little bit of motivation and inspiration on how to
commit, check out this video right here, and if you guys enjoy this
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Thanks so much for watching and we'll see you in the next video.
It's the freakin weekend, baby.
I'm about to ride my new bike.