You remember a guy named Tai Lopez? My Lamborghini. Yep. Here in my garage.
But you know it's more impressive than my Lamborghini? All my books. all this knowledge.
It's gonna sound like I'm showing off here. I used to know him personally. We weren't like friends.
But we've texted, we've talked, I hung out at his house like his nice house in the hills. Because
before he became famous for the video that all that stuff before he was a multi multimillionaire,
he would have these little parties and he'd invite interesting people who lived in LA.
And so I was kind of part of a mastermind that he was part of. That's another way that we met.
And point being is the guy's got some interesting things to say. And he said one thing. I've
listened to him speak on multiple subjects. Yeah, but one thing stands out. And I love it.
It's a little bit like militaristic in a sense, like kind of intense, tough love,
but like that resonates with me. And he said this. He said... I'm gonna butcher it, it's not
like an exact quote. But he said something like, you don't deserve anything until you
actually get it. So for example, you don't have a six pack? You don't deserve it.
You don't have a million dollars? You don't deserve it. You don't have
an amazing woman in your life? Or sleeping with multiple girls? You don't deserve it.
You have to do the work to get the thing. And it's like oh man that really. That stuck with
me hardcore for many years in a positive way. Not like he's right. I don't deserve it. Not
that. It's like. Just broken. Right. Yeah. Like someone just beating "you don't deserve this".
But that's the point is the way to getting what you want isn't going to be where
someone's gonna get it for you. You're gonna have to create it. And I think about that,
like at least every couple months. Whenever I want to whine and complain in my head about
something. Why don't I have this yet? It's like, well, you don't have that yet because you don't
deserve it. You're not doing the things. You got to do the things. So either put in more work.
Work harder, or work smarter. One of those. I agree. I give you a saying that.
Brian Darden, no one would know him. But basically, he's a prominent fitness figure
in the fitness business, and he has a saying that is, you're perfectly aligned for the
results that you're getting. I mean, that's synonymous with what I was saying. Exactly. So
whatever we're doing or not doing is literally gonna have us in the same situation. And when
it comes to dating, it's always 9 times out of 10. It's got to be the not doing. From what you
have experienced. And I don't want to keep you here too long. But from what you've experienced,
is it more what guys are doing to get women or the things they're not doing to get women?
I mean, it's really both. Bottom line. It's both right.
Because with anything it is the magic of both. Things you got to stop doing,
those things you have to start doing. Now gun to the head, if I had to pick which one?
It's probably the things that they're not doing. But are there like habits or tendencies that you
see guys have that you've helped them develop out of that? Like, if you want to even give examples
of like things like, you have this habit you have to break, it's not attractive to women. Yeah.
I'm trying to think of a good example here with a client that I worked with recently.
Yes, so one guy that I worked with, he had.
So okay, yeah, this is an interesting story. He had such bad approach anxiety.
And then when we finally got him over the approach anxiety, and then he's like, okay, I'm like
talking to these women but like, I don't know what to say here. And then we finally worked on that.
So he finally well, I guess, maybe going back to what I said, it's really things
you have to start doing. Yeah, because he's started going out and being more social. He
pushed himself to do that, while I also pushed him. We weren't on the phone every single day,
he had to do it by himself sometime. And then we got to the point where I talk about hard work.
He built himself up from I couldn't approach
to now I can approach to, I don't know what to say to girls and make them interested in me
to now I can do that. And no excuses, he was in Chicago, in January, the coldest time of the year
outside, in some public area and approached a girl who then ended up becoming his girlfriend
who then ended up a year later moved in with him. And that's just insane to me. It's like, oh, okay,
so this guy who didn't have any experience with women jumped from that to he met a girl freezing
cold outside out. That's what I'm thinking. These are the worst conditions to approach any person.
It was, I mean, it wasn't mind blowing for me, because I knew he could do it and I've seen
guys do it before. But it's still just like, yes, exactly. What do you think was the as you develop,
I'm guessing the catalyst from that is just him building a newfound like confidence.
Yes. Confidence and skill. You know, he recorded, he went out. He did approaches,
he recorded them. We listened to them. I tweaked them. I said, don't say that. Okay, say this,
you should have said this here. Whatever it is. And he built confidence through that. And also
this guy really wanted to change. Yeah, like bad. Wow. Like really bad. He came off of a
divorce with kids. I don't, yeah, he came from a religious background, no longer religious.
So he was just in this, like, I got to change and I want to be somewhat
different mindset that really fueled him. Even though he had that approach anxiety,
even though he didn't know how to talk to women, didn't know how to flirt. So he really wanted to
reinvent himself. Just badly. You know, he fucking deserved it. He deserves that woman that he is...
I don't know. I'm guessing maybe by now. They're engaged. You know, that was a couple of years ago.
I don't remember what the original question was. I was asking you... damn, what did I ask you? Oh
an example. What do you need to start doing, what do you need to stop doing. So actually,
I'm gonna take back my answer. Because you don't want to have double negatives, I don't want to
say well, you should stop not, blah blah blah. Forget the double negative, make it a positive.
You need to start doing more... fill in the blank. Lots of things. It can be approaching,
building yourself up as a person who's more interesting, talking to more people,
getting more social, changing your eating habits, changing your style habits.
And that's what we help with. It's a combination. Yeah, of everything.