Growing up, the kids had a privileged life.
We took vacations, we went to Europe.
They didn't want for anything.
I think because I worked a lot
and then Xavier and I were divorced,
I did have a tendency to overcompensate and spoil the kids.
My ex-wife and I married and divorced twice.
At the time of our second divorce,
it is actually historically the time in which
they started experimenting with marijuana.
Jonas and Tristan both lived with me
until I forced Jonas into rehab.
After rehab in 2015,
I told Jonas that he had to go live with his father.
Tristan did live with me up until 2017.
When Tristan loses a video game he loses control
and he can break things.
When I told Tristan that the video games,
the computer was gone from my house,
he literally packed everything in a backpack,
including the computer,
and rode his bike to his father's house.
So, at this point Jonas and Tristan are not allowed
to visit my house because my fiance
does not condone their behavior.
When I need a break
and I can sometimes not handle Jonas and Tristan,
she is unwilling to take them on at her house.
It probably is better that I'm not with them
but at the same time I feel like
they need some positive influence
and they're not getting it.
Xavier has the tendency to exacerbate situations.
I don't know father,
you don't know what I'm talking about.
Then he's lost complete control.
Definitely Tristan and Jonas are the problem.
And living with Xavier is part of the problem.
Thank you for joining us.
Thank you for having us.
I wanna ask each of you a question.
And Melissa, I'll get to you last.
But, in terms of family dysfunctional assessment here.
Jonas, I'll start with you.
If this is as dysfunctional as it gets
and down there is the Brady Bunch,
that's as functional as it gets.
Yeah.
I'm gonna put a mark up here for you.
Where would you put it?
Probably right about where
you're standing, your back.
About right here?
That looks about it.
But when we're in the fight, extremely dysfunctional.
Okay, so you would put it here?
Yes.
Okay, Tristan where would you put it?
How dysfunctional or functional is this family?
I'd say it definitely ranges but maybe around
the middle, middle mark towards--
So, you would say it's in here?
Yeah, it ranges though.
Okay, so you would come here?
Okay, wow so you all see that very different.
Okay, Xavier where would you put it?
Dr. Phil I believe your scale isn't right.
It's not an essay question.
Just where would you put it?
I think it's way to the left of your stage.
Okay, so you would come--
Do you wanna go back there
and show us and just not come back?
No, no, no Dr. Phil.
Because you can't even imagine how dysfunctional it is.
Okay, gotcha.
(audience laughing)
So if it's dysfunctional that's there,
it's way behind.
Okay, gotcha, I put an arrow.
It is not a life.
Yes, yes. It's that way.
I'm a prisoner in my home.
Adrian, where would you put it?
I'd put it right where the o is in dysfunctional.
So, you would put it here?
Yeah.
It's your turn.
Okay, Melissa where would you put it?
I'd put it close to where Adrian is.
Tristan, you think this is pretty typical?
Yeah.
So, you think most fathers are in there bedrooms
with three baths?
No, no not with the baths, per se.
But most fathers are out there working
and doing their hustle.
He has the stock market so I see he has
a need to be in his isolated area.
Uh huh, so you all are divorced.
We were.
Then you got remarried?
We did.
Then you got divorced again?
We did.
I love you guys very much and you know that.
Yeah.
But it's not an excuse for you to be disrespectful.
For you to call your father names,
for you to call me names, for you to--
What do they call you?
Well, the b word, the (bleep) word, the w word.
This is recently?
Yes, I have text messages from both of them,
don't call me again.
Consider this our last--
Is there anything else I should say
besides those words or do you feel like you deserve that?
No, I feel like I don't deserve that as your mother.
'Cause I'm in a corner and I feel like,
you know what, I'm gonna curse.
And maybe you she'll take note.
Entirely, these kids-- I don't.
Like she'll take it seriously.
I just called you that word and you were my mother.
Teaching.
Like wake up, why did I call you that?