- In this video I will share with you the number one reason
why men cheat and I will also share with you three tips
on what to do so he would never cheat on you.
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Hello, Queens, my name is Greta Bereisaite,
dating and relationship coach for women.
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And today I'm very honored to show you a video clip
where my coach is sharing her experience on why men cheat.
So, let's hear it from the Queen Hither Mann.
- Hi guys, my name is Hither Mann
and I'm the founder and CEO of Fortune Academy.
I've always worked in the male-dominated industry,
whether it's property, financial trading,
now I'm doing mergers and acquisitions and IPOs et cetera.
Now, my point in this incredible video by Greta
is that I have come across a lot of men, obviously,
in the men industry and I've always been
like the token female, the person
that was using the younger female, not so much now,
but obviously in the past, I was younger
and they were usually by 20 years older than me.
So around my 20s I was hanging around 40-year-old guys
who were very successful, they were all married,
and yet they were all cheating on their girlfriends
and this was one thing in my early 20s,
I found really disturbing,
because I thought why on Earth are these people doing it?
They've got money, they look like they got a great lifestyle
and yet they're not happy in their marriage
because clearly they don't feel like it's enough
and they want more.
So, then I really asked them a bit more about this,
I said, Why is it?
Do you not like your wife?
And they were like, No, no, we love our wife, you know,
our wife is incredible, she looks after my children,
and she's great.
I said, Does she work?
And a lot of them used to say things like,
No, she's a full-time mom, you know,
I like her to look after, she's just in the house.
And they used to love women,
a lot of this kind of men used to flirt with me
and they likes the ambitious female, the one that was,
and I was very not into that, you know,
I was very Ice Queen,
I wasn't allowing this, I was not into these guys,
put it that way, like I hated men like this.
But my main issue with them is that they liked women
like me that were ambitious and whatever,
but they would want a stay-at-home mom as a wife.
So, they were very conflicted.
However, the reason they had affairs
is because they knew it was very easy,
they completely 100% controlled these women
in the fact that they had no money of their own.
That was the key point.
- Ladies, there's a very good saying:
if you cannot control your woman, she's a keeper.
- These women were kept women, the type of women
that would just live in a lovely house,
would drive their husband's cars, wearing their clothes,
they couldn't even buy clothes for themselves,
like this is the kind of women we're talking about.
And they did this on purpose to them,
so one of them guys I asked, Would you not allow her
to have her own job
now that the kids are a little bit older?
And he said, No, no, I don't want her to be independent.
They actually prefer that women
were not financially independent,
because then they'd thought, Oh, she won't need me
and therefore I can't just step out the marriage,
because a lit of these women knew
about the extramarital affairs and they allowed it,
because they had nowhere to go.
They have this lifestyle
they couldn't sustain by themselves.
So my point is, it's so dangerous
not being financially independent.
Like, please women, need to be financially independent.
And for the men too, because--
- Allow me, just pause Hither for a second as well.
Ladies, he's not going to dump you
if you are financially independent.
He will love you more for it.
He might complain about it, but he's not going to dump you
because you will be fulfilling his love need
which is uncertainty.
But, when you are not financially independent,
you're giving him safety and security
which is not his love need,
and too much of it actually turns a man off.
- Women that get cheated on, it is the other way around.
I've seen women cheat on their partners,
because they're the ones who have the money
and the men are relying on them.
So, that too is very very dangerous.
So, in a nutshell, be financially independent.
It's so important, it's something I'm very passionate about
and that's why I created Fortune Academy
and I wanna see more women not relying on anyone
other than themselves financially.
That's the way forward, because at that point in your life
if someone does mistreat you in a relationship,
when you have full authority, you have full power
to step away and really respect yourself.
So, that's my message for you guys, hope you enjoyed that
and over to Greta.
- Thank you so much, Hither,
for sharing with us your experience,
I'm very grateful for that.
And now, ladies, let me give you three tips on what to do
so he would never cheat on you.
And the first one is be a challenge.
Well, ladies, this is how it goes:
men are attracted and fall for a woman who is a challenge,
a woman that he needs to pursue and fight for; why?
Because when he is pursuing you,
he is fulfilling his own love needs.
By pursuing you, he is falling in love with you,
because one of the guys' love needs is uncertainty.
Please, watch my video how to be a challenge for a man
which you can find just by following the link right here
and I will also drop it down
in the video description box below.
Now, when you are dependent on him financially,
you, again, are giving him a lot of safety and security.
He knows that he has got you for good.
And ladies, especially if you know
that he is cheating on you
and you are still staying with him,
not only that you are giving him safety and security,
but you are also saying
that I do not have any value or self-respect
as I am choosing to stay with a man who is disrespecting me.
At number two: ladies, respect yourself.
There is no man who will respect a woman
who does not respect herself.
No man will respect a woman who puts up with this crap.
Ladies, without respect there is no love.
How to get a man to respect you?
Please watch my video just by following the link right here
and I will also drop it down
in the video description box below.
And the third one is if you are dependent on him financially
how will you set the healthy boundaries in a relationship?
For example, if he's rude to you
and you say, Please don't talk to me this way.
What do you think he will say?
He will say, I will talk to you as I please.
What are you gonna do then?
Can you walk out on a man
when you are 100% financially dependent on him?
When he is the one buying your clothes
and you are driving his car?
No, you can't.
Therefore, ladies, put yourself first,
go for your dreams, stay financially independent
and enjoy the love and respect that you will be receiving
from your man, if you will be following my tips.
Ladies, for financial independence coaching
check out Hither Mann.
Hither is also my coach and, ladies, she is amazing.
I will link all her details
in my video description box below.
So ladies, thank you so much for watching.
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