- In this video,
I will share with you eight ways
on how to be extremely attractive to quality men.
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Now, my ladies,
without further ado,
the tip number one on how to be attractive
to quality men,
and this tip just goes in general,
I would say sometimes you just need to be in the right room.
You know ladies,
sometimes in the rooms
where nobody pays attention to me,
I'm just not people's type.
And sometimes I'm in a room
of guys or quality men,
where everyone is on me,
because I am exactly their type.
So, as the saying goes,
like attracts like,
but not from the love attraction kind of way.
More like people like you who can relate to you,
people like you that you can bond with, click with,
where you have similar interests,
similar passions,
you can talk about things and be on the same page.
A lot of women behave in a desperate way
and just want a guy,
doesn't matter what type of guy,
we just want a man.
And it's like,
yeah, but you want to get this guy,
you ideally are gonna
spend the rest of your life with this guy.
Do you even like him?
Are you even on the same page?
Do you even have enough of common interest,
things that you both like to talk about?
There has to be a mutual click.
Just because the guy is single
and just because he looks good
or he's got a good job or he presents himself in a good way,
it doesn't mean he's the right match for you
and it doesn't mean that he's gonna be into you.
You can be the most high value woman out there,
but if you are in the wrong room,
you may not have any matches for yourself.
Number two on how to be extremely attractive to quality men.
Being feminine, gentle,
having a soft tone of voice,
have a good heart,
watch how you speak.
Which kind of words come out of your mouth?
Do you gossip?
Do you curse a lot?
Do you talk behind people's back?
When you're gonna show up as valuable
in how you present yourself,
quality people pay attention to that
and the man that's looking for a women of higher value,
a quality woman,
he will pay attention
to how you put your sentences together,
to what kind of words you use.
Are you a genuine person?
Can he trust you?
Like, men really pay attention
to all of these things
when they are looking for a quality woman.
Quality woman that's not only gonna be their wife,
but who's also going to be the mother of his children
who will also get along with his family and friends.
Saying this,
if a guy is not a quality guy,
he's not going to find it attractive.
So again,
taking back to the first point,
which is you have to in the right room.
Number three that is highly attractive
is when people are joyful,
when we are fun,
when we are more chilled and lighthearted.
Have this lighthearted atmosphere about you.
If you are in a party,
or you're meeting him for a date,
go there to be joyful to have fun,
to enjoy the moment,
rather than talk about your hurts and your wounds
and who hurt you,
and gossiping and blaming and etc.
You don't want to come with a negative energy to the date
or into the party,
because you're going to give this negative energy
to the other person.
And once we will leave that date,
they're not gonna feel good,
and when he reflects back on that date,
be like I didn't really have fun with this girl,
I wasn't feeling it.
For example,
I remember, I went on a date,
and we just had so much serious talk.
He just came across so serious.
And he was like a cool guy,
I would say he was a high value type of guy,
but he was just so serious,
and I left the date and I was like,
I had zero fun on this date,
everything was just too dry and too serious.
I actually didn't see him again.
It's just like, you want the person that makes you laugh.
Maybe as a girl,
you don't have to do that to a guy,
but be joyful, be of a light spirit,
so then he leaves the conversation,
he remembers you
and he kinda smiles to himself.
When we ladies have a bit of banter,
you're happy,
people just want to be around you.
But when you're always serious,
there is a time and a place for that.
Number four what is very attractive to quality men is
when you let them lead you.
But ladies,
with leading,
men and women, we have a lot of times,
we have the same jobs,
we have the same positions
or more or less with this equality thing going on,
but
a man is still a man
and in order for him to feel good,
he needs to feel like a man,
he needs to feel like the leader.
So, you need to let him lead you in the relationship.
You don't have to let anyone lead you
if you're taking a position as a leader in your job,
but separate your job from a relationship
and let him lead you in the relationship.
However,
then it's up to you,
do you follow him or not?
If he is a bad leader,
if he's a clown with the crown,
and you just see that he's talking nonsense
and he's just plainly stupid,
then you obviously don't follow him
in a way that you don't date him.
If you see he's smart,
if you see he's wise,
if you see he's making good and healthy decisions for you,
if things do make sense,
oh well, you'll happily follow.
Number five what is highly attractive to quality men
is self-respect and self-value.
So, I come across girls a lot
where we just do things as we want to do things.
Sometimes we follow my coaching for a little bit
and we just get tired,
because it is a lot to take in,
especially if you've been doing whatever you want to do
for your whole life,
20 years, 30 years,
40, 50, 60 sometimes.
And now, you're like, I'm telling you,
don't do this and this doesn't work,
and this doesn't work.
Sometimes girls follow it for a few months
and then we get tired,
because we are still not that person,
we just kinda like using it as quick tips and tricks,
which doesn't work longterm,
you need to become this person
of self-value and self-respect
rather than pretending to be right.
So, the mistakes that they make
usually are they just do things spontaneously.
We just do as they feel.
We just live a life with no rules,
we just live a life in chaos,
we just do as we want,
as we feel.
And we don't always feel the right thing to do,
sometimes I feel like I want to eat junk food,
I want eat crisps,
and I want to eat McDonald's
and I want to eat chips and ice cream,
and maybe lay on a couch all day and just watch Netflix.
Is it the right thing to do?
No it's not,
and what if I feel like doing it for a week or two weeks
or a couple of months?
What will happen to my body?
It's not gonna do anything good, right?
Stop following your feelings
and start doing the right thing.
Feelings can mislead us a lot
and a lot of times by following our feelings,
due to our anxieties or our insecurities,
we don't show any self respect or value or worth to a man.
Because we're behaving in a very casual way,
behaving in a very chaotic way,
and when you behave like that,
he takes you as what,
he takes you not as somebody that's a relationship material
but he takes you as somebody as casual,
'cause you're behaving like that.
You're not showing self respect and value,
so he'll take you as with no self respect or value.
Number six,
this is really important,
have a passion in life outside of a relationship.
So, whether it's a hobby,
whether it's running a business,
whatever it is,
maybe it's charity,
have a passion outside of him.
Never come to this place
where you're putting a guy as number one
and you're making him into your everything.
Biblically, it's actually a sin,
when you don't put God first
but you put the man first,
it becomes a form of worship,
and it kind of makes sense
why these relationships don't work out.
God is not gonna be happy
when you're putting somebody above him.
Even if you're not a believer,
just have some things that you do outside of him,
so he doesn't feel like he is your whole life,
he's your whole world,
and you're always there to kind of worship him
and to put him on a pedestal.
I remember having this conversation
with one of my guy friends a long long time ago,
he started to date this girl
and this girl just completely worshiped him.
She even called him a king
in the first couple weeks of dating,
and he was just telling me how put off he was.
He was just like, I don't want to be a king, Greta,
I'm not a king,
she can't call me that,
I'm like totally put off.
So, if you're calling him a king,
I'm not saying that you can never call a guy a king,
but he kinda needs to deserve it,
he kinda needs to work for it
or you need to know him really really well
and your relationship,
it needs to be really good and secure and loving and etc.
Then when you can call each other a king and a queen
or whatnot,
and he'll appreciate it
because you're not putting him on a pedestal,
you're not looking at him as a fantasy,
but you're actually meaning what you're saying.
So maybe he's a provider
and he built this whole house for you
and he's looking after your family and etc etc,
and he cares for you.
And you're like wow,
you're the king,
you're the leader.
He'll appreciate it, why, 'cause he deserves it.
It's not just like said to him in the first couple of weeks
and it's not like what are you talking about?
It doesn't mean that every guy is a king
that you just meet for a couple weeks.
Number seven way how to be highly attractive to quality men
is setting in boundaries in a soft way.
A lot of men are very provoking,
and we just want you to react.
It's like boys being at school
or like you're in kindergarten
and all they do is tease.
I personally grew up with five cousins,
they're all guys,
they were like my brothers.
And all they did,
they just teased the hell out of me all the time.
I was obviously reacting, overreacting, crying,
telling my mom and my dad,
and then my parents telling them off, etc etc.
But this is why they did this too me,
'cause I was getting upset and I was crying
and I was overreacting,
so it was kind of fun and entertaining
for my cousins to do that.
Even when guys grow up,
when we feel a bit grumpy
or we feel a bit irritated or whatnot,
sometimes they tease and tease and tease,
and their goal is to get you to react.
And actually ladies,
I also was reading a studies fad,
when guy's testosterone level is on a low,
a lot of times guys provoke people
in order to get into the fights.
Because getting into a fight or some kind of argument
raises the guy's testosterone level.
So, a lot of times guys provoke
and be on a low testosterone,
but you don't want to be there fighting with him
because feelings will get hurt,
he will probably call you all the nasty names
and no one is gonna be happy at the end of the day.
So, you need to set in boundaries.
The easiest way to set in a boundary
when you feel things might get out of hand,
is to remove yourself from that situation.
Don't be in a situation
where he's just bluntly attacking you
and teasing you and whatnot.
There is no point in that.
And with men as well,
a lot of times when the arguments happen
and their goal is not to find a solution,
but to win an argument.
And when somebody just wants to win an argument
no matter what,
no matter is good or bad,
no matter the solution,
what's the point to argue with that person?
There is no point
because at the end of the day,
there will be no solution
and lots of feelings being hurt.
Therefore,
if you feel like this is the situation with your guy,
just remove yourself and leave.
Once you do it over and over again,
whenever he behaves like that,
he will stop doing it
'cause he'll realize that he cannot take it on you
when he wants to raise his testosterone levels.
And the last one, number eight,
what quality mind find really attractive in women
is you being kind.
Be kind with your boundaries.
Be kind when you are with him.
Be grateful.
Be appreciative.
Be kind to others.
I see a lot of posts nowadays coming around,
like oh guys don't like good girls
or good girls,
good guys finish last
or good girls are like the one's that guys take for granted
and walk all over.
Guys love good girls,
especially I feel like especially,
but the bad ass type of guys
seem to really love good girls.
A lot of guys that are the bad boy,
they are the bad boys 'cause they are really broken
and we have been really damaged in their upbringing.
Maybe they didn't experience enough of love
or just bad things happened to them.
And they kind of focus on good girls,
they like that,
'cause they want that love,
they want that affection.
So, they are drawn to this kindness,
they want this love,
they want this affection, right.
They love the fact that you're the good girl.
However, when you are dealing with somebody
that's been having a lot of issues in their childhood,
childhood trauma, etc,
you need to know how to handle them.
You need to know how to set your boundaries.
You need to know how to keep your boundaries.
So, you can be a good girl,
you can be sweet,
you can be genuine.
Please be kind and soft and feminine and lovely,
but have your set of boundaries,
because by setting in boundaries,
you will be showing self respect and a value.
And a bad boy,
a quality guy,
any kind of guy,
will be drawn to that.
He'll be very attracted to that.
So ladies,
these were my eight tips
on how to be super attractive to quality men.
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