Okay, check it out. This is why you're feeling numb. Watch closely and I'll
explain what's going on here so you can understand what happened and you can
understand what to do now. But please, watch closely before more problems start.
You may have found yourself in a place where in your life where you literally
don't have emotions. Like you don't have happiness and you're
not mad, you're not upset, you're... You don't have really much joy in
your life. And it almost feels like you're numb, you're like all different kinds
of emotions. And I just want you to know you're not alone with this. You're not
alone. But I wonder if you even understand what happened to even create
this to happen. Sometimes when we're trying to solve or figure out how to fix
something, if we don't know what happened, we don't know what to adjust. So, that's
why I'm here. I'm going to help you understand where this numb feeling has
come from. Then we can start to take a look at what you can do to be able to
make some adjustments. But I know what this feeling feels like. I am very clear
what this feels like and in my search to support and help me
and to help literally thousands of other people as I've been a mentor and a
teacher to lots of people, I can help you too. So, let's take a look at this. First
step is for you to learn and be aware of you have a bubble around you. And this is
called your personal space. And your personal space is about 18 inches to 2
feet around you. And this is literally your energetic space. And if somebody
comes into that space and you don't want them in that space, you know how you'll
step away or move away from them because they're in your space. So, each person has
a personal space area around them. Now, some are more large and some are smaller
but that's the general distance is about 2
feet from you is your personal space. Now, this personal space is there because
this is how you think and how you feel. How you are as a person doesn't actually
stay inside your skin. It moves outside of your skin and creates this field of
energy around you. Okay, so this just helping you understand some things about
yourself. How you think and feel on the inside
doesn't stay under your skin, it comes outside your skin and radiates and
projects about 2 feet from you in a strong field of energy. So, all this space
that's around you is a mixture of your thoughts and feelings. That's your
personal space. And when somebody steps into your personal space, that's why it
feels like they're invading you. You know, like they didn't get inside your body
but they got in your personal space which is how you think and feel. So,
that's why it's weird when somebody steps inside your personal space because
they got in. Okay, so that's that's your personal space. Now, life. You know, every
day life can throw at you some challenges. And as these challenges come
at you, it literally feels like something is being shot at you or it's coming at
you in the form of people, experiences, situations. And all these things that are
coming at you are reaching your outside realm of your personal space and they're
coming in. So, they're not only just hitting the edges but they literally
come inside and they interrupt your personal space. And some of these hurt.
You know, there are mean people in this world. Just meanies and they say mean
things, they do mean things, they steal, they break stuff.
They're just mean people and sometimes some of those people are your family or
a friend. And so these family and friends and
people close to you you let them in and then now they do something
mean to you, that interrupts your good feelings in your personal space and puts
a glitch or an ouch inside your personal space. So, a normal person can handle a
certain number of ouches. A certain number of glitches inside their personal
space. And this is just life throwing stuff at you. But when it reaches its
maximum and maybe your maximum is 20 ouches, like 20 different things that
just hurt. When you reach a maximum capacity of ouches or glitches, that
quantity that measurement goes to the brain, triggers the brain to have to cut
it off. And you've got all these ouches all these glitches going on and you
can't even manage what's happening. Can't even manage it. I mean literally you
would even see in your body language... You would see your by language going, "Oh, I
just can't handle this. It's just too much." You'll even notice you'll put your
hands out in front of you as though you're trying to block what is coming at
you through life. And that's a good signal to notice that you are getting
too many ouches and glitches inside your space that could trip the circuit
breaker in your head and literally shut down feeling. Once a person gets hurt
enough or have enough issues hit them in a row ,it's like a circuit breaker in
your house that when the power surges then the breaker flips so it doesn't
break anything. So, your brain out of safety will throw the switch and just
shut down feeling. Because it can't handle another ouch from another person.
It can't handle another struggle. And you just go to numb. And you start to notice,
you start to say things like, "I don't care. I don't know. I don't know what to
do next." And you also now just don't have an
interest in things. It doesn't mean you're broken. What it does mean is that
you got overloaded. And your circuit breaker got tripped. And now you just got
cut off from the feelings around you. But it feels weird that you're just cut off.
And you're around people who are being happy and it's irritating. And you're
around people who are honoring and it's irritating. Like everybody irritates you.
Because they're all being in these emotions but you're in the place of
going, "I got done. My switch has been triggered and and I've shut off from my
feelings because I've I've been got too many ouches, too many glitches in my life.
And I got to just shut down." Okay, so what do you do now, right? What do you do?
You're at this numb state. Like what do you... What do you do? So, what I've had to
do to get myself out of this numb feeling as I need some help.
Number one, I need some help because trying to get out of numb and start to
activate feeling again is a little scary. Right? It's a little scary and it's like,
"I don't know if I want to feel because if I open this back up, all those
ouches are going to come back and it's just gonna hurt again."
So, what I turn to... Because you could... I'm going to be careful of this. Because what
you could turn to is substances. You could start to use outside substances to
numb yourself like overeating, drugs, alcohol, all kinds of things like that to
just try to physically numb yourself. Hey, don't need to do that. Don't need to
go to those things at all. What you need is you need a little bit of movement on
the inside. Just so that you can actually be conscious to make some decisions.
Because when you're in a numb state, you're not good at making decisions.
You're going to actually perpetuate and duplicate your problems. Because when
you're in a nun place, you are very vulnerable to making some really big
mistakes. And so we need to activate the brain just a little bit so
you can be conscious enough to be able to make decisions to get yourself out of
some of these messes. Because a complete shutdown and numb is going to cause a lot
of problems. So, we need a little bit of activity. And what I turn to was music.
Not happy music. Because happy music was irritating. Oh, man. It was irritating
Anybody who's happy and positive in a song, it's like I just wanted to delete
that just burn it because it was so irritating.
But here's something crazy. I found music that were songs that were almost
like angry songs, sad songs. You know, struggle songs. That I could relate to I
could relate to this struggle lyrics and the upset lyrics and the sad lyrics. And
I thought this is weird. Why do I like angry, upset, confusion, sad songs. It's
like this is so weird. But it actually I could relate to that.
Because that's how I was feeling. So, I found one song found another song. Found
another song. And I found 3 or 4 songs that I could listen to. That
actually matched where I was at. And I listened to the music because that
actually helped me feel like I wasn't alone. And the music caused me to get out
of being numb and to pay attention and be conscious about what's going on in my
life. Even though I'm still upset, angry, sad and hurt. The music helped my mind
get some activity moving. Now, that music, as I started to do a tiny bit better
because I'm listening to music, music can move the body it can move the mind and
help get us up and out of this numb state. Which is a dangerous place to be.
So, as I started to do a little bit better is that I would add a song that
wasn't as angry. I would find a song that was just a little bit above that. So that
means I was on music list all the time looking for the next song. And I would
just listen to it and go, "That's stupid, that
was stupid, that was stupid. Oh! This is a good one." But I used music to just inch
my way up and out of numb. I didn't have to say anything. I didn't have to do
anything. All I had to do is listen to my music every day. And sometimes I put my
headphones on and it's like that's all I listened to because I knew if I could
just keep the music moving through me, I could stay at least somewhat active.
Because when I was in in my complete numb state, problems were multiplying. So,
I found music to match me and as I started to do a few things I started to
pull myself out of this numb, I would upgrade the songs ever so slightly. Don't
go too big. Super irritating. And if you know somebody who's in this numb place,
do not send them happy music. He will bug them so bad. And it's just I mean it is
worse than fingernails on a chalkboard. It was worse than that because it was
just like it reminded me how terrible I was. So don't do that to your friend. Send
them songs that are more mellow that are just slightly above where they're at.
Just slightly above. But that's why he ended up being numb, is because you got
overloaded. And your switch... Your breaker switch got thrown. You're not... You're not
broken you're not lost. But what you need is some music. Go find some music. If you
can just find one song, the movement of that music can help keep your body alive
and move the vibration of your body in a better way. So, let's say you have a
family member or a child or a friend who's listening to angry songs or sad
songs are upset songs. And you're wondering, "Oh, no. What's happening to my
child?" That music is actually helping them, Because that's how they feel on the
inside. Me as a parent I'm not going to go to my child and tell them stop
listening to the music because I'm taking away what's
keeping them feeling alive. That song understands them. But here's something to
think about. Listen to people's music what they're
listening to and you'll understand where they're at. Music is great at helping
move us. But we need to be wise about where we're at and what next step of
music we got to listen to next. Use music to pull yourself out of that numbness.
One little step at a time. Now could you listen to songs that take
you the other direction? Yeah, you could totally use music and degrade yourself.
Anybody could do that. They could ruin themself with music. There's enough hate
songs out there that you actually can take yourself down with music. Be wise, be
conscious. Use this intentionally so you can open yourself back up and make
better decisions a little bit at a time. So you can begin to manage what life is
throwing at you. The other thing about what life is throwing at you, you need
some help. You need a coach you need a mentor. You need somebody to turn to that
you can ask for help on how to manage your thoughts and how to manage your
feelings. 2 things you need some training in. How to manage your thoughts,
and how to manage your feelings. Because most of us when we were raised, we're
growing up nobody sat us down and taught us how to manage our thoughts and how to
manage our feelings. We were just told don't cry and be nice. That's it. No real
training on how to manage this and manage what's going on in your heart. So,
if you're looking for additional training to help you in that, those are
the 2 categories you want to look for. How can I manage my thoughts better, how
can I manage my emotions better? Because if you were stronger in your mind with
your thoughts and you can manage your emotions better, this can't overwhelm you
again. It's what you're missing is that type of
training. Find some music. You're not stuck. You just need some music. Okay,
check it out. Training on thoughts and training on
your emotions. I got a link right here. Right below here
there's a link. Click the link below and it's about how to master your thoughts.
And it's called Master My Thoughts program. It's an online program. No
traveling required. I'll walk you through how to manage what's going on inside of
your head. That is step one. Click the link, get the training, follow the
instructions, get stronger inside of your mind. It'll build your confidence. And it
will definitely keep this from happening again.