- Signs he does not want you anymore,
but wants an ego stroke.
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And ladies, just before I will share with you
nine signs where he "wants" you
but doesn't really want you
and wants an ego stroke.
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And without further ado, ladies,
let's just start with the sign number one.
It could be your ex
or it could be a guy you have been seeing before.
And what he does,
he tells you how much he misses you,
how wonderful you are.
He may even cry how much he loves you
and misses you.
And then you go like,
"Okay, this guy seems like he's so into me."
When he asks you to meet up,
but then you say that you would like to do something
besides just a hookup,
and he realizes that he needs to make
a bit of effort to be with you,
he's disappeared.
He's gone.
Nowhere to be found.
Sign number two.
He gets in touch with you,
but only throws you a bone
or like a breadcrumb,
but I prefer to say a bone,
and he checks,
will you pursue him?
So you might think like,
"Wow, my ex he still must be into me
"because he just got in touch."
But he got in touch just with like,
"Hey"
or just a one-liner.
And when you reply to him
and then you hear back from him
a week later or two weeks later.
So what he does,
he throws you in a bone to see,
will you still respond to him?
Are you still hooked on him?
Or sometimes he'll throw you in a bone
to see will you chase and pursue him like before?
Especially if you have been low-value
and used to pursue him before a lot.
So he might be like,
"Hey, I'm here.
"I'm so nice today.
"I'm writing you, Hey."
"So yeah, chase me."
And when you don't,
he's just gone.
Sign number three,
and this I heard quite a few times,
not very often,
but through my coaching
and even from my friend in the past,
quite a few times.
So the way it happens is
let's say in the beginning he was pursuing
and chasing you a lot
maybe for a year or two years
because you were not that interested
and you behaved naturally high value,
you just weren't that interested.
And he was pursuing and pursuing and pursuing
and eventually he got you.
And when he got you,
you started to become interested.
And you started to do all the wrong things
like pursuing,
wearing your heart on a sleeve,
acting needy,
controlling,
all of that.
And through the time
he started to lose interest for you
and maybe even fall out of love with you.
And now, if you're still together,
you're complaining to him like,
"Oh, you used to pursue me in the past,
"you used to do this for me,
"or you used to do that for me."
And his reply is,
"Well, you know what?
"I feel so hurt
"because I chased you for a whole year.
"And now if you want me,
"it's your turn to chase."
So I heard this story quite a few times.
Ladies, please don't chase him
because if he's already turned off
and he's taking you for granted
because you over pursued
and chased him with your neediness,
and now he's telling you,
"Well, I chased you in the beginning,
"maybe I'll have you now,
"maybe I won't,
"but you need to chase me now
"because I have done my turn."
Also, a lot of times,
these guys that pursued you for a year
or over a year and a half,
and when let's say,
you started to behave low value,
a lot of times these guys get embarrassed
that they pursued you in the beginning.
And when the guy falls out of love with the girl,
sometimes they even say to the girl,
"I feel embarrassed.
"I cannot believe I chased and pursue you
"for about one year."
And they feel embarrassed
because he's now not attracted towards you
so he feels like
what I was chasing a year and a half,
this,
this girl with this low value behavior,
because when he was pursuing you,
you weren't that interested
so you were a high value,
you were different.
And now he's like,
"Wow, this is embarrassing."
So then guys really start to lose interest for you.
He may even tell you this to your face.
Sign number four that he does not want you anymore,
but wants an ego stroke
is when he tries to get out of your bedroom
as soon as you guys had sex.
He does not want to stay there a minute longer
because he just wanted to see,
can he still have you
or just satisfy his needs?
So if this is the case
and he's out and about literally straight after,
it's a very clear sign
that he does not want you anymore
and he's coming to see you
basically to stroke his own ego
that he can still have you
and to satisfy his "needs"
Sign number five.
When you speak about your day
or you share what you're interested in,
he does not listen to you at all.
He does not care what you're saying.
He doesn't ask you to repeat yourself.
When he is with you and you're speaking,
he just looks like he's wandering off
or it looks like he's totally and completely bored.
Yet, he still spends time with you
as when he talks about himself
a lot or most of the time,
he hears a lot of praise from you.
So he is basically there with you hanging out
just for his ego boost,
just for you giving him praise
when he's talking and sharing things
about his day, business or whatever.
Sign number six.
He is very, very cold in conversations
and usually gives you just literally
one word answers
or one word replies.
You never hear from him.
And the only time you hear from him
is when you text him first.
And that is when you get
that cold uninterested reply.
So he'll still reply
because he will be like,
"Oh, okay, she's still into me.
"That's quite nice.
"But I'll just throw her a bone
"because she's an ego stroke
"and I don't care about her anyway.
"So what's the point to give her more?"
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Sign number seven.
So yeah, it's a story.
So this happened about six years ago
and I was with a couple of friends in a club,
a couple of guy friends.
And we were on the second floor
and the club was,
the whole dance floor was on the first floor.
And from the balcony my guy friend
shows me this girl
and he says,
and then he opens his phone
and he says, "Oh, look, she's chasing and pursuing
"and I'm just giving her one word answers."
So we look at these messages
and I can see yeah, she is chasing,
pursuing,
texting him a lot.
And he just replies literally very cold
one word answers.
And he met that girl,
went on few dates before,
but obviously, he got not interested.
Because through the messages,
I can see that she's not behaving correctly.
And so he's kind of like acting off.
And as we are on that second floor,
and the girl on the dance floor,
we're kind of just watching the whole public
from the second floor.
And we can see that
there is this other very handsome guy
walking towards this girl.
And he starts talking to her.
And my friend, he sees that.
And within 30 seconds,
he went down from the second floor
to the dance floor
and kind of pushed that guy away from that girl
and started to charm and pursue her himself.
A couple of hours later,
they were kind of making out there
on the dance floor.
But then next day,
I'm sure she did not hear from him again.
What happened here,
he used the whole situation
just purely for his own ego stroke.
Just kinda like,
"Oh, he's chatting you up,
"but I bet I can still have you."
And he went and "conquered" her.
So ladies, don't fall for this crap.
It's like he literally used this situation
for his own ego stroke,
obviously,
as he didn't care about the girl before,
he didn't care about her after either.
Sign number eight.
When he is down and not feeling good,
you're the first one that he calls.
He shares his feelings,
emotions,
all of it with you
so you feel special and you feel bonded to him.
However, when he has some good news,
he's out and you never hear from him again.
So he's just using you for an ego stroke
when he's feeling down
and needs an ego boost.
But when he's happy and all of that,
you're kind of the last person
that will hear from him
simply because he does not care about you enough.
Sign number nine.
He asks you out at the last minute
when he is simply bored
and has nothing better to do.
So perhaps you're just getting on
with your day
and out of the blue,
you get some messages from him
and he's like,
"Hey, what are you up to?"
And you're like, for example,
"Doing my laundry."
And he's like,
"Hey, look, I'm really bored.
"I have nothing to do, blah, blah, blah.
"Would you like to hang out?"
And you're like,
"Yay, cool.
"Let's hang out."
But a couple hours later,
you're texting him
where are you guys gonna meet up,
and you don't hear from him anymore.
And then perhaps later you call him
and you hear that he's out with his friends.
So basically,
what he does when he has nothing to do
and he's absolutely bored,
he will message you.
He might message you to hang out,
but as soon as the better option comes up,
he'll ditch you like you're totally nothing
and just do what he wants to do.
So ladies, these are my nine signs
that he does not want you
and only want you for an ego stroke.
Be very careful when you see these type of signs
because these signs are definitely not
from a guy who has strong feelings for you.
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