Offering two raka’ats after taking bath post menstruation. Q. In our village it’s
a ritual among women which is that they don’t talk to anyone until they offer two raka’ats
of nafl after taking bath post menstruation. So is offering of two raka’atsnafl and not
talking to anyone until the nafl is offered necessary? (Aisha from Karachi).
Ans. No, it isn’t necessary. It’s a wrong ritual especially not talking to anyone makes
no sense. During menstruation its permissible so when you have taken bath post menstruation
then there is no problem in talking. It’s a wrong ritual and shouldn’t be practiced.
However, if someone wants to offer nafl by his/her own will so he can, although it isn’t
necessary.
Hukm for marriage with newly converted Muslim who is non-practising. Q. I married a sikh
guy who converted to Islam before marriage but after marriage he sometimes offers prayers
while sometime he doesn't. sometimes keeps fast while sometimes leaves it and even drinks
sometimes. I am very irritated so can I take divorce from him or should I stay with him
with my children? Please guide me. (Sufia from Germany)
Ans. I advise women that when a non-Muslim becomes a Muslim so don’t marry with them
instantly however test them whether they have become a true Muslim or not. We can believe
what we see however Allah only knows the truth. Who knows that they have become a better Muslim
than us but I have seen on few occasions that a women married a Christian guy converted
to Islam. After conversion he is still associated with his past background. He doesn’t know
about the issues of divorce. One Christian guy converted to Islam and a women married
her instantly. Now he says to her wife on slightest of matters that you Haraam for me
unknowingly that wife truly becomes haraam by saying this. So, when a non-Muslim becomes
Muslim so its better to test him a little because when we are dealing with someone,
he is like a stranger to us. However we will keep positive thinking that he must have become
a better Muslim than us and truly some people become so better after converting that even
we become jealous that we are such old Muslims but these have even gone ahead of us. So while
dealing its necessary that the person who has converted, has become a true Muslim or
not. Now the Sikh guy who became a Muslim and you married with, he even drinks and leaves
fast sometimes so you have asked whether its permissible to take divorce from him or not.
Look according to shariah if a husband possesses some bad attributes which are intolerant for
the wife, then its permissible for the wife to ask for divorce. It's confirmed in Sahih
Hadith. In Sahih Bukhari’s Hadith, Jameela Bint Ansari (RA) got married. Her husband
was not handsome at all while she was very beautiful. She hadn't seen her husband before
marriage and was thinking that he would be like normal people
are over there but after marriage she found out that there was no match. So, she asked
RasulAllah(SAWW) to get her divorced saying that she can't live with him because she cannot
love her husband and when she won't love him, she won't fulfill his rights as she wasn’t
attracted towards him at all. So, Nabi(SAWW) called her husband and asked him to divorce
her which he did and took the garden back which he gave her in mehr. So, Nabi(SAWW)
didn’t scold Hazrat Jameela (RA) as why was she asking for divorce because there was
a big difference. See there are little bit of differences which are necessary to be compromised
on for living peacefully but if he is drinking or doing something which is making it very
difficult for the women to live then she can ask for divorce, it is not a sin however it
is not advised to do so. Because after taking divorce where will you go? Every permissible
thing is not to be acted on like few husbands tolerate their wives due to their children
thinking that who else will look after them if he divorces her. So, I am not suggesting
you to take divorce or not. You should take advise from your relatives and those who are
close to you and also consider the aftermath of your decision as to where will you go as
no one marries a woman with so many children. I can only tell the Islamic law the rest is
up to you to take advise and make a decision of you own but first try to convince you husband
with affection to leave such impermissible things so that you two don’t get divorced.