Hey guys, in this video, we're gonna talk about common ways that a spouse sabotages their partner
during the green card process. And if you're out there and you're in this unfortunate situation,
stick around all the way until the end, because I'm gonna share with you some tips on how to
overcome and get your green card, despite the sabotage. For those of you who are new to me,
welcome to this video. Welcome to my channel. Uh, I'm Latoya McBean POY and immigration lawyer in
New York. Working with clients all over the world on complex immigration matters. Reach
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about this issue guys, and I'm building on the information that I've shared with you in
my other video, my last video, um, uh, called six ways to get green card after marriage case fails,
I'm gonna link to it right here so that you could go watch that if you have not yet seen it. And
also on Facebook, I'm doing Facebook lives these days, and I'm sharing some great content around
red flags during the marriage green card process and how to overcome despite the red, red flags
that are, um, whether in your relationship with your spouse or with the case generally. So follow
me on Facebook, uh, so that you don't miss out on the free live content that I'm sharing there
as well. Now let's talk about, um, the common scenarios that folks see in this situation.
And if you see any of these things happening with your case, do not sit on it immediately consult
with an immigration lawyer, reach out to us to talk about what you're seeing and why this is a
problem and how it may impact your case. Okay? So do not sit on any of these issues. Firstly,
the common sabotage that folks go through is when an interview notice comes to the home,
the spouse, all of a sudden the petitioner's spouse becomes angry, distant, begins to mistreat
you because he or she doesn't wanna go on the interview. They're refusing to go on the interview
and you're, it's like your back is against the wall now because your interview's coming up and
your spouse is acting up. He doesn't wanna go on the interview. So that is a form of sabotage.
The second way that a spouse sabotages, uh, his or her partner is by
Refusing to give evidence it's, you know, like particular, particularly in the very beginning
of the process when you're preparing your case to be filed and you need certain key evidence, um,
for the filing, the spouse refuses to give you his or her credentials like his, his or her, uh, tax
papers, um, or maybe a naturalization certificate or something like that. They just refuse. They say
things like, well, oh, I can't find it. Um, or I'm I'm, you know, I don't know where it is. Um,
or I don't know if I trust the lawyer or whoever is doing the filing. I don't know if I should give
this or not. They just really put up a fight. Okay. And refuse to give you evidence the third
way that they, they can sabotage you is by not cooperating with your lawyer, right? Not returning
the lawyer's calls, not, uh, returning emails, not turning over documents to the lawyer, not
meeting in with the lawyer to do interviews or, or other things go over the case, refusing to meet
with the lawyer to sign off on the paperwork. Um, that's a huge issue, huge flag,
um, the fourth way or the fourth, uh, way that they sabotage is by refusing to help you.
If you were to get a request for evidence or notice of intent to deny, um, if you, you know, if
you get any one of those types of responses from the government, certainly the petitioner spouse
needs to be part of the response process in most cases. Um, and you need that person to cooperate,
to respond appropriately to an RFE or N O I D. And so that's a, a huge form of sabotage right there,
the other way that they can sabotage you comes much later in the process. And this is at an
interview right at the interview. They all of a sudden pretend is if they cannot remember
key details about your life together and about your background, um, things that
they obviously know and all of a sudden they're behaving as if they cannot remember right.
Or they provide. And this is the other form of sabotage, which can be extremely damaging
to your case is if they provide the immigration officer with inconsistent information, you know,
they know that you're gonna say one thing and they say the complete opposite and they're lying
in most cases and it's intentional and they are trying to sabotage you so that your case
can be denied. And guys I'm sharing all of these sabotage strategies with you based on
what we've seen. You know, folks come to us with their problems, uh, in the marriage. These are
the common things that we see and hear about each week when we consult with folks. Um, so this does
happen, unfortunately, and then the Other way that they could sabotage you
is if they write a bad letter to immigration about you or about your marriage, or they call
and go on the record and say, um, she only married me for the papers and, um, you know,
I had to pay her and they just make things up and submit that letter or make that phone call
to immigration, or even go down to their office, um, and say these things about your marriage in an
attempt to sabotage you. And certainly that is the most damaging thing that they can do
lie to immigration about the marriage and accuse you of being part of marriage fraud. So now,
now that we've talked about those common scenarios, right? Um, how do you move forward? How
do you get your green card? Right. And so, again, refer back to that video. I did just recently
about the six ways to get your green card, despite the fact that the marriage has failed,
um, refer to that video, and then I'm gonna share some new things in this video as well.
But the first thing you need to do, if you notice any one of these things happening in
your relationship, you need to keep track of everything. Keep track of everything,
keep track of every text message, uh, emails, voicemails do not delete anything. Um,
good messages, bad messages, keep all of them because good messages obviously shows or text
messages obviously shows that you guys were in a real relationship. You generally car cared about
each other and you weren't in this for the papers only, uh, which is marriage fraud, obviously.
And that is illegal. And you should not be part of that, but sometimes the spouse makes up these,
um, gives the appearance that fraud was at, uh, in your relationship.
And, um, again, to sabotage you, so keep track of everything, keep your emails, keep your
voicemails, and, um, don't delete anything. Also, you wanna make sure that you secure your document,
right, regarding your genuine marriage. Don't just, you know, leave the home and, um,
take only your clothes with you. Take some papers with you. Okay. If you have to leave the home,
if you make the decision that you're leaving, um, or you've gotta get away, don't just take
your clothes, right? Make sure you have some mail, have some utility bills, have records,
telephone bills, have something, bank statements, uh, naturalization, you know, just whatever
you submitted to the government in that first packet, in your packet, uh, during the filing,
have a copy of everything, everything the I, one 30, the naturalization certificate, the, um, if
there is one or the birth certificate, the bills, the tax returns keep everything that was
Initially submitted to the government because sometimes later on down the road,
if you have to do a domestic violence case, if you're eligible for it, you're gonna need to
draw back and put, go back. I should say to some of the evidence that you had submitted previously
to prove some things related to your marriage. So secure your documents, secure the records
that you uh, have at home. The other thing that you can do obviously is in an environment like
this, when your spouse is trying to sabotage you, it might also be coupled with some other
verbal abuse or threatening behavior, or even pushing shove in hidden, um, gas, lighting,
narcissistic behavior, controlling behavior by your spouse, um, angry, you know, your spouse, um,
is easily angered drinks a lot. If he or she has a substance abuse problem can lead to
him or her abusing you in many different ways. So if you're going through something like that
in your marriage know that you have an option to obtain your tenure green card
on your own by filing, um, uh, what's called VAA, the vow application process violence against women
act and men, you are eligible for VAA as well. And we do those cases with men all the time. Now,
the other option that I mentioned in my other video is the U visa. If you also have
a, um, if there is a criminal issue that of you, you've been a victim of a crime, I should say.
And, um, you worked with the police on it, you reported it, then get your case looked at to see
if you might be eligible for the crime victims, visa. Uh, and guys, like I said, don't wait too
long. Don't sit on these issues. If you see these sabotage, um, happening in your marriage, be
sure to address them, address it right away. I should say, speak with a lawyer. Don't sit on it
because sometimes these situations can only become worse if they are not addressed early on. So just
keep the, um, faith and know that it is possible for some people to obtain their green card,
despite the, um, abuse that they're suffering or sabotage that they're going through in their
marriage, reach out to us at McBean law to have that kind of discussion privately. And, uh, so
that we could see how we might be able to assist you, share this video with other
people. Thanks so much for being with me today and I will see you in the next one. Bye bye.