so today we're gonna be talking about the all-important subject of how to get
over an ex what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired soul where we
talk about the problem but focus on the solution if you're new to my channel
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amazing I thank you so much all right so yeah anyways we're gonna be talking
about this there's anything about for a little bit I got some DMS and everything
but I you know I saw this going on and yeah we're gonna be talking about Trisha
Paytas and Jason Nash of David Dobrik's vlog squad but more important like this isn't you know necessarily
about Twitter pay this this is for contacts like I can definitely relate
and I feel for the girl like breakups are hard okay they are difficult but I
was actually just a guest on a podcast which I'll be sharing with all of you on
social media once it goes up I think Monday Bayless but we were talking about
like getting over relationships especially like relationships where
there were toxic or even emotionally abusive and everything like that and
then this came up and like Oh alright let's make a video and let's let's talk
about this so first the other day I saw this on the
Instagram stories
seven of me
and then just now came this tweet that says including effing with people's
emotions till they end up in a mental hospital there are no boundaries heart
for the vlog whoo all right so most of you you know you
were able to witness what was Trisha Paytas and Jason Nash's relationship it
was extremely toxic and it is best for the both of them that they are separated
now what are the things this is like we need to talk when it comes to like these
breakouts like like one thing I just do want to speak about real quick and
regards to Trisha Paytas I don't think it's right to talk about you know you
drove me to a mental hospital like because of a breakup you know we we all
take things like how we're going to take them you know like although this was a
toxic relationship and it was both of them going at each other I don't think
anything well at least what we saw was okay this is gonna put you in a mental
hospital like a lot of you out there know if you've ever been in an abusive
relationship you know with like a truly like super abusive relationship looks
like right now this isn't to discount Trisha Paytas experience because a lot
of people when you go through that breakup it is like a grieving process
and you can you know abuse substances and all sorts of other things but first
let's talk about that like something I've noticed you know since Trisha
Paytas and Jason Nashville gap is something that a lot of us deal with
right and his here's what I see right a lot of us want the pain to go away a lot
of us want the hurt to go away right but here's what we all need to realize about
a breakup like it's going to hurt it is supposed to hurt right like this is
something I had to realize like when you are dating somebody for a long time or
whatever it is like it's supposed to hurt you know especially if you were
with them for a long time or if you were living with them or whatever it is like
I've talked to people who have gotten like divorced right from their their
wife or their husband they were together for years and you know when you're with
somebody for years or months or however long it is like think about it how can
you expect that pain or that hurt to go away like that right so the best
suggestion I can give to anybody out there who might be struggling
breakup is like honor your emotion it's like no like this this is supposed to
happen you know I talk to people all the time like especially when it comes to
crying like I do not know why people feel so bad about crying like cry let it
out girl like it is a cleanse crying is a cleansing experience don't judge
yourself for crying especially when you're grieving right if you lose
somebody in your life not only it's like they pass away but even a relationship
like that is a type of grieving it is a type of loss all right so the other
thing is what Trisha Paytas is doing kind of looking at Jason Nash's stuff
like this is something a lot of us do so my my biggest suggestion in that
aspect is like a detox a cold-turkey detox right like we are causing our own
misery a lot of times like I've done that stuff in the past you might have
done it well like let me know that in the comments below like are you still
following exes or like do you still like look at their Facebook pages or whatever
it is because the best thing we could do is unfollow them block them if you have
to like I was talking some of the other day about how going back to these
relationships or you know still wanting or feeding for it right it's almost like
an addiction so when I was working at the drug and alcohol treatment center or
even just you know when I work with other drug addicts and alcoholics like
you know outside of the treatment center something that's like the first thing
you do is you go in your phone okay and you remove all of your drug dealers
phone numbers okay you get rid of them you get rid of all that stuff
any bad toxic friends that you have that are only keeping you around to drink or
use a party or whatever it is you get them out of there right that way you're
not even tempted okay so if any of you are struggling with this you want to go
the extra mile like I highly recommend that you research apps like the moment
app or even the freedom app all right it will block specific websites so you
can't get to them okay so what happens is if you're like creeping on Max's
profile or whatever it is like you have to take
the steps just to check it out and see what's going on there okay but a lot of
times it's it's difficult to heal through that process if you're still
looking at this stuff all the time and this like I don't know if you've ever
been through this but I've met other people thank God it's not what happened
to me where they were living with the person and then they broke out and they
stayed living together like that is hard right like it's almost like when you
have a wound and you don't give it time to heal like you're still just leaving
that wound open you know what I mean so in a lot of these situations especially
just with relationships or anything in life you have to check in with ourselves
and say am i causing my own misery all right so the last thing the last thing
is I don't expect everybody to be able to do this like quick easy detox all
right so the last thing that we need to talk about is understanding like if
we're gonna do it it's going to hurt like way back in the day long before I
was with my beautiful girlfriend Tristan right like back in the day like I would
do that I would go and I would like lurk in on exes like the social media
profiles and stuff and it looked hurt it would be painful and then I would just
have to like kind of laugh at myself like what did you expect Chris like what
did you expect like it's almost like white when that wound was healing like
you know what I won't just like peek back inside of it right so if people are
going to do that like recognize that it's gonna hurt and you know I was
looking through the comments on Trisha Paytas tweet and everything like that
and a lot of people are you know saying like yo back off and you know whatever
but anyways we have to learn like we have to learn that that stove is hot
right this is how we develop like good new habits by noticing like okay this
feels good and this feels bad like the bad thing we stay away from it so like
if this is you if this is something that you can relate to because this is the
number one reason why I make my youtube videos because I see this
I see so many people judging somebody like Trisha Paytas right and I'm like
sitting there I'm like how many of you are doing the same thing well how many
of you have friends who are doing the exact same thing like what is the use of
watching youtubers or celebrities or watching movies or TV shows if we're not
taking a look at and saying okay wait am i doing this in my own life like and if
you can't relate to this in you know the form of like a breakup or anything like
that but look at it with boundaries like with friends or family members because
sometimes we have to cut other people out of our lives there have been friends
that I've had to get out of my life and I've had to block them or unfollow them
just so I wasn't reminded of the pain and the hurt that they caused me and I
guess the last thing I'll say on that note is this doesn't mean that you can
never have a relationship with that person again like as far as like a
friendship if any of you have been following my channel I don't believe and
getting back with exes but anyways like but it takes time to heal and again like
you're not gonna have that time to heal if you keep enduring the pain of looking
at their social media or staying in contact with them or anything like that
like for example when it comes to Trisha Paytas and Jason match like they're both
youtubers might run into each other you know what I mean
so maybe if she was able to distance herself from even looking at it for a
while maybe later on they could develop a friendship but right now everything's
still fresh she's still pretty upset and maybe they wouldn't cuz I just
remembered like she kind of said that he cheated on her so maybe they shouldn't
develop a friendship later on but for you you know if you're watching this
like if it's a breakup that was like amicable or whatever maybe you'll
develop a friendship later on but when the wounds still fresh get your feel on
all right and then come back to that later all right
anyways let me know down in the comments below is this something that you
struggle with or you struggle with in the past causing your own pain by
looking on their social media or whatever it is let's have a conversation
down below alright anyways thanks again for all the birthday wishes you are all
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