I want to get back to making videos on borderline personality disorder but
before I do that you and I what is up everybody this is Chris from the rewired
soul where we talk about the problem not focus on the solution one of my primary
goals is to raise awareness as well as decrease the stigma all right and
there's a massive stigma around borderline personality disorder switch
up the scenery a little bit because it's gonna be hot really soon here in Las
Vegas but it's gorgeous here at the park there's like ducks I'm gonna get back to
making videos about borderline personality disorder but I want to
explain why I started making those videos in the first place so as many of
you know who have been around for a while you know I was working in a dual
diagnosis mental health treatment center basically we dealt with addiction as
well as mental illness so people who had co-occurring disorders that addiction as
well as a mental illness and I actually had never heard of borderline
personality disorder before but working in the treatment center I started to
learn about this diagnosis you know other employees would be like hey this
do you know a person has borderline personality disorder or like when they
were gonna have me do a one-on-one with them and things like that and there was
a couple things that I noticed the first one was
that there was a lot of therapists who did not want to work with clients who
had borderline personality disorder who had symptoms of BPD a lot of therapists
did not want to work with these men and women and I'm like well that's weird
we're in a mental health treatment center like so don't you want to work
with everybody and you know the other thing I realized was for some reason I
always had great relationships with the clients who were diagnosed with symptoms
of BPD and a lot of them would confide in me when therapists realized that way
you know of you know talking with you know the clients struggling with this
disorder like they would say hey Chris can you talk with this client
relationships with that but it always kind of bugged me just hearing about how
people you know certain professionals didn't want to work with this population
waiting for these abuse to chill out it's like walking it's just walking over
there you guys want to see which keys here unless you guys see that anyway so
I want to educate myself about borderline personality disorder and the
more I educated myself about what this disorder is and this dysregulation of
emotions and all the other symptoms such as you know this intense fear of
abandonment you know impulsivity that's why a lot of
them ended up coming to treatment I started to relate to a lot of the
symptoms so I wanted to educate myself more about I want to see what you know
what helped people with borderline personality disorder so I can help out
the clients who I was working with and all of that
and I started making videos about it when I realized there was such a stigma
around borderline personality disorder I started hearing from the clients that
you know friends and family members think that they manipulate them or
they're embarrassed or ashamed of their diagnosis and all these other things and
I was like I want to make videos about this and kind of spread awareness and
you know I started making videos about them and you know one of the reasons I'm
gonna get back to making these videos is that you can see right here you see
right here on the screen like these videos were very well received like if
you just look at the that liked it dislike ratio people were liking them
and it wasn't even really about that but it was more about the comments it was
people sharing their experience alone and I'm like okay psychologist her the
best way to kind of go about it you know because here's the thing diagnoses aside
you know and a lot of people with borderline personality disorder of life
met and by experience the we're talking about the symptoms rather
than the actual diagnosis and that's that's why I want to get back to making
these videos because I can relate to those struggles I can relate to the the
emotional turmoil the stigma you know people not wanting to be around
you you know just that all of it right and the video I made on my BPD story
also very very well-received as you can see from you know the comments section
on that video so what I wanted to talk about in this video is it's it's
difficult and I put up a poll right before making this video about how many
of you have experienced the personality disorder and somebody who looks at the
data and look at the data with with people who are liking these videos and
people who are thanking me for these videos my duty is to those people it's
the same reason why you know I'm still here on YouTube it's for the people who
are getting help and that's the thing with borderline personality is sort of
when all this stuff happened you know with the drama surrounding me I saw
there there was a handful of subscribers I had who have borderline diagnoses and
when this stuff happened I noticed that black and white thinking
and I empathize with it because black and white thinking is still something I
struggle with to this day it's something that I work on with my therapist for
those of you who don't know what black and white thinking is it's somebody is
either all good or all bad there's no gray area right person does a bad thing
they are a bad person right person does a good thing they are a good person and
a flip-flop Changez so like watching some of my like
really loyal subscribers switch right i empathize with that but i know that
there's a bigger mission at stake here which is that we need to increase
awareness we need to provide tips and tools and there's so many different
things going on with borderline personality disorder I'm actually
reading a new book called the Buddha and the borderline and that's kind of what
inspired me to make this video right here and come back to it because so many
things being talked about in that book I can relate to like I'm only a few
chapters in but a lot of this talking about you know just relationships and
that intense like basically what the other book the biggest book on
borderline personality disorder is called I hate you don't leave me you
know when I buy that book I really really could relate because that's what
my relationships were like and you know I I want to share my experience I want
to share what the research says I want to talk about the stigma I want to talk
about things that we can do and work on together most of all you know even
though I'm not a licensed professional I want to talk about things like since I
have experience dealing with a lot of these difficulties I want to talk about
various things that have helped me throughout my journey so some people are
gonna be happy about it that's cool more than happy to have
discussions in the comments it'll give me more you know things that we can talk
about and discuss but the fact of the matter is like I'll tell you this I
really decided to make this video when I got to the part in the book where the
young woman discovered her diagnosis of borderline personality disorder and
everybody in her life were saying no you don't have that
you'll have that people at BPD they're crazy right and she started looking at
online forums about borderline personality disorder and how many loved
ones of people with BPD we're saying that you know the person with this
diagnosis like ruined their life and their manipulative in their this and
this and this and I'm like oh my god like having BPD can feel really isolated
and alone and I have my own experience with you know some of the stigma and
things like that but yeah we need more people talking about this not less same
thing with mental health we need more people talking about it not less so yeah
there's gonna be disagreements different thoughts different opinions and all of
that but that's okay because we just we need more people talking about it in my
my mission and my goal and my promise to all of you is that I'll do my best to do
it in the most respectful way possible I feel that you know I've tried to do that
to my best ability but through this process I've learned a lot as well
so I'm gonna try to be doing better at it but if there's anything that you
disagree with or you think something I said or did wasn't insensitive when
discussing the subject feel free to let me know like we might have a
disagreement about it but let's just have a conversation you know what I mean
because we need to increase awareness and decrease the stigma especially with
so many people with BPD afraid to even seek mental health help in fear of being
turned down because of their diagnosis we need to talk about and we need to do
something about it alright anyways thank you for dealing with my Boulding hair
flip flopping around thank you for dealing with the lovely animals
squawking in the background and all of that but yeah I have some video topic
ideas and if you have things down below in the comment sections that you want me
to talk about let me know if you want me to talk about certain aspects of the
stigma if you think there are things that we can help educate more people
about if you're looking for coping skills and strategies let me know if
you're looking for book recommendations they're looking for evidence-based you
know tips and tools to manage your symptoms like let me know down in the
comments below and you know the thing is at the end of the day most people most
human beings struggle at some point with one or more symptom of borderline
personality disorder so all of these videos should be able to help a lot of
people alright but let me know down in the comments below what kind of videos
you'd like to see and all of that but huge thank you to everybody supporting
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about all that good stuff and I'll see you guys in the next video