He was not one of your exes.
No.
He was somebody else's ex.
He was somebody else's ex and for a reason, I found out.
And she warned me about him from the jump.
She said, "Angela, watch out."
And I was like, "No, you're jealous of my relationship.
"You're mad that I'm with him now."
But she had warned me about all of this.
(laughing)
I'm stubborn.
I feel like everyone deserves a chance.
Who are you talking to?
What? I'm asking you
a question and you're talking to them.
Oh, (laughing) I thought I was talking to my friends.
No, I'm asking you-- Okay.
Questions-- Okay.
So you talk to me. Okay.
But you said you thought she was just being jealous
at first, but you agree your relationship is toxic, right?
I do agree.
I think that it's extremely toxic and I wanna break
out of the cycle, whether we decide to be together or not.
Ideally, I would love to save this relationship, I would,
'cause I want him in my life.
Why? There was a time
that he made me very, very happy.
Well, why do you want him in you...if he's toxic,
why do you want him in your life?
Because he's made so many promises to me
and he has apologized for what he's done,
but he's also kept repeating it, so a part of me
is holding onto this little bit of hope
that we can be okay.
Does that sound crazy?
A little bit.
(audience laughing)
Sometimes I have a hard time hearing what people say
'cause I'm too busy watching what they do.
Yes. And I hear what he's saying,
but what he's doing is what you say is toxic, right?
Yes. So what's he do
that's toxic?
Where do I start?
I would say, I would say that,
I found out in January
that he was cheating on me and he,
instead of coming forward to me, like, "Yes I cheated,
"I lied to you," he kept on lying about it for months
and months and months. You confronted him about it.
And I did confront him about it.
And he lied when you confronted him.
Multiple times and he kept on lying,
but then months later, he told me the truth.
So I'm like, maybe he'll tell the truth about everything,
maybe he's finally changing for me.
(audience laughing)
Time always exposes what you mean to somebody.
You let time go by and they'll show you
what you mean to 'em by what they do.
And how long did he lie to you?
He lied to me for three or four months.
And you just eventually beat it out of him?
Pretty much. Just kept pecking
and pecking and pecking and pecking and pecking.
Yeah.
You've been broken up with him since July?
Yes, so I haven't seen him in almost two months.
This will be the first time.
And this is the longest time we've been broken up.
Usually it's just a day or two, like a day or two or a week.
How many times have you broken up?
Probably, we've broken up probably 20 to 30 times.
(audience murmuring)
And how long have you known each other?
Since October.
(audience laughing)
But I just throw it out there.
I'm like, I'm like, "Oh, it's done,"
but then like the next day, we'll be back together.
So you break up, like average, twice a month?
Pretty much.
Twice a month, that's a good month for us.
Do you have trouble making up your mind?
Yes.
Who breaks up, you or him?
Me, it's always me.
Always you. It's always me
and I can't put the blame on him fully
because it's me, too.
I'm part of the problem and I admit that.
He thinks that, "Oh, you're miss perfect,
"you don't take responsibility for anything,"
but I feel like I do.
I'm part of the problem as well.
My communication with him is terrible
and I would like to work on that.
If you've met somebody and you break up with him,
you say twice a month is a good month,
I've often said the best predictor
of future behavior is relevant past behavior.
So if you've broken up 30 times in the last six
or eight months, chances are you're gonna break up
30 times in the next six or eight months, right?
Best predictor is past behavior.
Why would you think it would be any different?
He just makes all these promises over and over again
and he-- But he's made them
before, right? Yeah, but he's made
little changes along the way, but not enough,
and not fast enough for me.
Yeah. And, I'm just kind
of holding on to that little bit of hope that I have
because I can tell that he loves me,
I just don't think that he respects me
and I don't know if he's ready
for the commitments that he's made.