hella sweet potatoes welcome back to our
new year reset series last week we
reflected on 2021 and identified three
intentions we want for 2022. if you guys
want to do these worksheets in order
which i do recommend pause this video
finish the first worksheet and then come
back to this but if you're like rowena i
don't care just tell me how i can
reframe and master my mindset because i
need it i need it too keep on watching
before we start planning and setting
goals for 2022 i think it's important to
take a step back and check in with
our mental space how's everyone doing
how's everyone feeling are you guys
excited for 2022 are you guys burnt out
are you guys experienced from all the
ongoing uncertainties or maybe even not
in a mood to be productive but clicked
on this video anyway to see if it can
shift your mindset
i found it very reassuring while i
started researching for this video that
no matter where we currently are in life
in this very moment our realities are
not fixed and we're all more than
capable of learning how to fulfill our
potential if we're willing to put in the
work and don't take this from me take
this from the mother of mindsets carol
dweck although the beliefs we dot first
cells profoundly affect the way we live
our lives which make these beliefs very
powerful they're just something in our
mind and we can change our mind how
powerful is that we've talked a lot
about mindset habits over the past
couple of years
but taking a step back what is the
mindset why is it so important and how
do we even arrive at a good enough
mindset where we're in a decent mood to
actually function as a human and do
things like plan for the new year and
achieve our dreamiest of dreams as with
all the videos in the new year reset
series you can reset any time of year so
don't worry if you're watching this
months after january to accompany each
video there will be a notion worksheet
you can duplicate as well as challenges
and meetups in our online productive
potato community on bible everything
will be linked in the description below
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description box now how do we reframe
and master our mindset to start
what is a mindset a mindset is a
self-perception or a self theory we hold
about ourselves for example i'm
intelligent or i'm unintelligent i'm
creative or i'm not creative i'm capable
or i'm not capable we can also have
mindsets about our personal or
professional lives for example i'm a bad
student or i'm a good parent mindsets
are something we can be aware or unaware
of and they play a huge role in
determining whether we succeed in
anything and everything that we do from
personal to professional growth to
relationship to friendships to parenting
to finances basically every dimension in
our life is encompassed within
isn't that crazy so why is having a good
mindset important if our thoughts make
up our mindsets
watch your thoughts they become your
words watch your words they become your
actions watch your actions they become
your habits watch your habits they
become your character watch your
character for becomes your destiny
despite conventional belief and i think
this is something what most of us
believe in is that success stems from
innate abilities innate talent innate
intelligence and education but through
extensive research professor dweck found
that success actually comes from having
the right mindset isn't that crazy now
that we know what a mindset is and why
it's important let's dive deeper into
the two most basic mindsets come travel
back in time with me to a memory that's
been living rent free
in my mind it's the summer before my
senior year of high school i've been
playing volleyball on the school's team
for three years now i'm currently on
junior varsity soon trying out to see if
i can make the varsity team well i knew
i wasn't the best player probably wasn't
like the best top 5 10 players
i knew
or i thought i knew i was decent enough
to make the varsity team
until one day the varsity coach pulls me
aside and proceeds to shatter my ego he
said rowena your drum serves are all
like floaters your spikes aren't that
powerful and you're not great at defense
or setting
what are we gonna do with you i nodded
continue on with the day's practice
went home and proceeded to never show up
again for practice
might as well quit while i'm ahead right
so the reason why i've been thinking
about this memory a lot is this is
textbook fixed mindset believing your
innate abilities like intelligence and
talent are fixed and are carved in stone
and you can't change them up until this
point in my life and for many many years
to follow whenever i was faced with a
challenge i would give up because if i
can't be the best at it
why even do it at all
bless our soul if i can hop in a
wormhole to go back to that summer i
would first and foremost thank my coach
for giving me feedback he was probably
trying to see what i would do with this
feedback and i would ask him if he saw
potential if he saw room for improvement
where i can improve and how i can train
so that i can be better this is the
second mindset the growth mindset
believing that our abilities can be
cultivated through effort hard work and
help from others i can use every
situation as an opportunity to learn so
that when i'm faced with challenges i
can persevere because it is through
challenges that we grow looking at fixed
and growth mindset side by side i think
it's it's actually fascinating fixed
mindset is limiting and you believe my
abilities determine everything while
growth mindset is freeing and you
believe my efforts and attitude
determine everything fixed mindset is
outcome driven or destination driven
growth mindset is process driven or
journey driven the journey is the reward
fixed mindset is validating yourself
growth mindset is developing yourself
success for a fixed mindset is proving
you're smart or talented and being smart
while success for a growth mindset is
stretching yourself and becoming
smarter i think this quote is
no word so good becoming is better than
being the fixed mindset does not allow
people the luxury of becoming they have
to already be
when i read this i got shivers down my
spine because yes demanding perfection
for myself falls under fixed mindset
okay three more quick examples i feel
the thing worth highlighting here is the
failure part where for a fixed mindset
when you fail you take it as a very
personal thing and it becomes your
identity of i am a failure versus a
growth mindset it's more of an action of
oh i failed and this is something i can
learn from in short fixed mindset is i
can't do it growth mindset is i can't do
it
yet
all right thank you guys so much for
watching this video hug hug hug that's
the end
just kidding so after going through all
of that which mindset do you identify
with the most it's actually very normal
to have a combination of both you can be
fixed in one aspect of your life and
have growth in another area of your life
okay you may be thinking this is great
in all rowina but what i do with all
this information how do i actually
reframe and master my mindsets and go
from a not so good headspace to a much
better headspace here's the good news
simply by being aware of the two
mindsets can help you to start thinking
and reacting in new ways and here is the
fun part notion worksheet time you guys
can also take out a piece of pen a piece
of pen and paper a piece of paper and
pen we're going to travel inside our
craniums and observe the fixed mindset
voices that live in our mind actually
rent free i said that memory lived in my
mind no these fixed mindset voices live
in my head alright so step one is to
identify the fixed mindset voices
whenever we're not in the best mindset
if we take time to ask ourselves why
we're feeling the way we're feeling we
can usually trace it back to some sort
of setback conflict or disappointment
we'll be going over five scenarios when
i'm faced with blank i tell myself blank
for this exercise to be helpful really
take the time you need to answer the
questions whether you want to pause
after every scenario or you want to
listen to all five scenarios and then
pause while i was filling this out i
thought back to very specific scenarios
actual memories when i face challenges
when i face failure when i face
criticism what were my default responses
and i wrote it down it's good to be very
specific right now so that when we
reframe later we know exactly what we're
reframing so here are some examples the
first thing when facing a challenge what
do you tell yourself i don't think i'm
smart talented creative or strong enough
to do this what if i fail and everyone
sees when facing failure what do you
tell yourself yup i'm a loser i've known
this all along great i just wasted my
time might as well quit now while i'm
ahead when facing a conflict or feeling
left out what do you tell yourself
everyone hates me
i'm not a lovable person when facing
criticism what do you tell yourself
it's not my fault who do you think you
are you don't know me don't tell me what
to do
when you make a mistake or do something
wrong what do you tell yourself
wow
i'm so dumb i can't ever do anything
right how many guys identified with
these inner voices
all right step two recognize that we
have a choice now that we know how we
talk to ourselves am i happy with how
i'm talking to myself is it serving me
i'm no sidekick but i'm pretty sure most
of us wouldn't want to talk to ourselves
the way we've been talking to ourselves
once we've written in doubt or typed it
out and actually seen how we communicate
with ourselves i was pretty surprised to
see that most of my default responses
were fixed mindset voices this is what i
was saying earlier about how my
day-to-day voices are fixed while like
bigger picture things it's more growth
i'm very harsh on myself i demand
perfection for myself and a part of me
still cares so deeply about external
validation which all ties into the fixed
mindset so moving on to step three shift
our mindset from fix to growth now that
we're more familiar with our fixed
mindset voices is time to start
reframing them into growth mindsets in
here i'm giving you guys two examples
for every scenario but you really only
need one there's always that one
dominant gut instinctual default
response when something happens i would
highly recommend pausing the video right
now because if you don't do it now
you're probably not gonna do it later
pause this video and really go through
all five scenarios in every single fixed
mindset and reframe it to a growth
mindset just to kind of get yourself in
the mood and in the habit of okay so
this happened here's my default response
oh maybe i shouldn't think that way
because that's a very fixed way of
looking at the situation how can i
growth mindset this moving on to step
four
choose what you want to work on so of
all the fixed voices whether it's the
one you hear the most or when you want
to work on what is the most important
mindset you like to reframe check it
below in the notion worksheet and move
on to the next step the last and final
step is to put it in action what can you
do to remind yourself to put this
mindset shift into action the first step
really is self-awareness think of it
this way meditation constantly bring
yourself back to the center like your
mind wanders okay come back your mind
wanders okay come back as with most
things in life this really is like a
muscle you can work carving the neural
pathways in our brain the first few
times you do it's kind of strange
because you're like oh my god i've never
done this before where am i going but
then the more you do it the deeper the
neural pathways become and the more
second nature it becomes and the more
natural it'll come to make this more
actionable you can put it on your
calendar to revisit your mindset reframe
every single week when you're planning
for the week this is also something you
look at like okay if this happens and i
think this here's how i can reframe it
you can also put up a post-it note of
the reframe either on your mirror or put
it on your computer so that it's
something that you see throughout the
day so that when something happens if
something happens you'll be like oh yes
i should refrain from fix to growth you
can also keep a journal so whether it's
a daily journal a weekly journal or a
monthly check-in where you sit down and
you kind of reflect on okay the past day
or the past week or the past month this
scenario played out my default response
was this it was more fix oriented but
here's how i tried to refrain into
growth so
final words from carol dweck when you
catch yourself passing up a chance for
learning believing you're a failure or
getting discouraged when something
requires effort you can try switching
into the growth mindset to take a
challenge learn from quote-unquote
failure and continue
to try so the main takeaway for me is
truly enjoying the journey progress over
perfection enjoying the journey versus
being fixated on the destination having
the courage to keep trying having the
courage to keep practicing having the
courage to keep showing up even though
you may not be the best but we all start
off not being the best i hope you guys
have a much better understanding of what
it means to have a good mindset at the
core of all mindsets the mother of all
mindsets really is being able to
differentiate between growth and fixed
every single mindset video i've made is
taking something and reframing it into a
growth mindset anything can happen to us
it's how we react to it through more of
a growth mindset that allows us to
live a much lighter grounded happy
existence and with that thank you guys
for watching this video and thank you
again to notion for sponsoring this
video if you guys were inspired by how
the worksheets work how the worksheets
work how the worksheets work and you
want to try them out everything will be
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channel contents coming real soon a new
voice hugs podcast episode have been up
so make sure to check that out and
yes we'll see you guys next week to talk
about goals values and goals
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