ORGANIZATIONS -- TRYING TO GET
>>>
>>> GIVE
>>> GIVE TO THE MAX, IT'S A DAY NONPROFITS AND SCHOOLS LOOK
FORWARD TO ALL YEAR.
THERE ARE MORE THAN 5,000
ORGANIZES TRYING TO GET YOUR
ATTENTION AND IN TURN, YOUR
MONEY TO HELP THEM CONTINUE TO
DO WHAT THEY DO.
THIS IDEA FOR AN EXTREME DAY OF
GIVING IN MINNESOTA STARTED IN
2009 AND BACK THEN THEY RAISED
$14.5 MILLION IN ONE DAY.
TODAY GIVEMIN.ORG SAW THAT MET
BY 4:30 THIS AFTERNOON.
RIGHT NOW THEY'RE AT ABOUT
$15.5 MILLION WITH A LITTLE
LESS THAN SIX HOURS LEFT IN THE
DAY.
DAY.
DAY. IN
DAY. IN THE SPIRIT OF THOSE
ORGANIZATIONS DOING GOOD WORK,
I WANTED TO SHED LIGHT ON ONE
THAT DOES DIFFICULT AND
IMPORTANT WORK FOR OUR KIDS.
FAIRVIEW YOUTH GRIEF SERVICES,
THE PEOPLE THERE HELP OUR
CHILDREN WHO HAVE HAD A FAMILY
MEMBER DIE IN THE LAST YEAR.
IT'S AN ORGANIZATION IN FULL
TRANSPARENCY I VOLUNTEER WITH.
SOME OF THE KIDS WHO USE THAT
PROGRAM WERE SO KIND TO SIT
WITH ME LAST NIGHT TO TALK
ABOUT WHAT THEY TALK ABOUT AT
YGS, GRIEF AND HOW IT AFFECTS
THEM.
>>
>> Reporter: YOU ALL KNOW WHY WE'RE HERE, RIGHT?
>> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. >> SURE.
>>
>> MY
>> MY DAD, HIS NAME WAS ROBERT.
>>
>> MY
>> MY DAD, HIS NAME WAS DAVID.
>>
>> MY
>> MY MOM. >> Reporter: WHAT WAS HER
NAME?
NAME?
NAME? >>
NAME? >> HER NAME WAS KATHERINE.
>> MY MOM, HER NAME WAS STACY.
>>
>> Reporter: WHAT WAS STACY LIKE?
LIKE?
LIKE? >>
LIKE? >> SHE LIKED TO GIVE HUGS A
LOT.
LOT.
LOT. >>
LOT. >> HE WOULD GIVE AIR HUGS AND
SQUEEZE YOUR REALLY TIGHT.
>> HE LOVES HUGS.
>> Reporter: YEAH, LOT OF
HUGS.
HUGS.
HUGS. >>
HUGS. >> KIND OF A NORMAL PARENT
THING.
>>
>> Reporter: WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT THIS, HOW DOES IT MAKE
YOU FEEL?
>>
>> KIND
>> KIND OF TENSE LIKE SAD.
IT'S
IT'S HARD
IT'S HARD THINKING ABOUT THEM. >> HAPPY AND SAD BECAUSE IT'S
HAPPY THAT YOU GET TO KNOW THEM
AND HAVE TIME WITH THEM AND
THEN IT'S SAD THAT THEY GO AWAY
WHEN YOU'RE YOUNG.
>>
>> Reporter: HAVE YOU NOTICED PEOPLE TREAT YOU DIFFERENTLY
AFTER YOUR MOM OR DAD DIED?
>> SOMETIMES LIKE THEY'RE SO
WORRIED ABOUT ME THEY ASK ABOUT
MY PARENTS AND I'M MAD ABOUT
THAT, BUT SOMETIMES THEY'RE
JUST COMFORTING AND THEN
THEY'RE KIND.
THEY'RE KIND. >> I FEEL LIKE SOMETIMES LIKE
AT FIRST THEY LIKE REALLY WERE
LIKE REALLY NICE TO ME AND
CONSIDERATE AND THEN I FEEL
LIKE IT KIND OF WASHED AWAY.
>> Reporter: DO YOU WANT THEM
TO SAY I'M SORRY?
>> NOT REALLY BECAUSE IT JUST
MAKES ME FEEL EVEN WORSE
BECAUSE THEN I FEEL LIKE
THEY'RE APOLOGIZING FOR NOTHING
BECAUSE IT WASN'T THEIR FAULT.
>>
>> IT
>> IT MAKES ME FEEL UNCOMFORTABLE, BUT I'D PREFER
THEM TO SAY I'M SORRY FOR LIKE
YOUR LOSS OR SOMETHING LIKE
THAT.
THAT.
THAT. >>
THAT. >> Reporter: DO YOU THINK THAT
WE TREAT KIDS DIFFERENTLY WHEN
THEY'RE GRIEVING OR WE JUST
DON'T KNOW WHAT TO SAY TO YOU?
>> MOST ADULTS DON'T KNOW WHAT
TO SAY.
TO SAY.
TO SAY. >> MOST OF THEM DON'T TALK
ABOUT IT AND THEY'RE MORE LIKE
IN DIFFERENT SUBJECTS RATHER
THAN TALKING ABOUT THAT
SUBJECT.
SUBJECT.
SUBJECT. >> Reporter: SOMETIMES DO YOU
THINK LIKE WHEN ADULTS ARE
TRYING SO HARD TO NOT TALK
ABOUT IT, YOU CAN TELL?
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH. >> DEFINITELY.
>> DEFINITELY. >> YEAH.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH. >> Reporter: YOU CAN FEEL IT?
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH. >> LIKE WHEN MY DAD JUST IS
LIKE TRYING TO AVOID IT, I CAN
TELL.
>>
>> Reporter: WHAT DO YOU WISH GROWN-UPS KNEW ABOUT WHAT
YOU'RE GOING THROUGH?
>>
>> WELL,
>> WELL, I KIND OF WISH THAT THEY WOULD LIKE HELP ME MORE
BECAUSE THEY JUST LIKE EXPECT
THE BEST OUT OF ME, BUT IT'S
KIND OF HARD TO DO THAT ALL THE
TIME.
TIME.
TIME. >>
TIME. >> THEY SHOULD LEARN HOW TO
RECOGNIZE WHEN I FEEL LIKE I
NEED MORE SPACE OR WHEN I NEED
TO BE COMFORTED.
>> Reporter: IT'S OKAY TO TALK
ABOUT THIS STUFF OR NOT TALK
ABOUT IT, RIGHT?
>> UH-HUH.
>> UH-HUH. >> Reporter: MAYBE JUST WE'LL
TAKE YOUR LEAD?
YOU'RE
YOU'RE PEOPLE, TOO. YOU GET TO DECIDE WHEN YOU WANT
TO TALK ABOUT IT?
SOUND LIKE A DEAL?
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH. >> YEAH.
>> YEAH.
>> YEAH. >> Reporter: THANKS FOR
TALKING TO ME.
>>
>> FAIRVIEW'S YOUTH GRIEF SERVICES RUNS A CAMP A COUPLE
TIMES A YEAR CALLED CAMP AARON.
A LOT OF THE KIDS YOU JUST
HEARD FROM WENT TO THAT CAMP
AND THERE THEY HAVE A SPACE
JUST LIKE THAT TO SHARE
TOGETHER TO TALK ABOUT LOSING
THEIR PARENTS AND JUST TALKING
ABOUT WHO THEY ARE AS KIDS
EXPERIENCING LOSS.
EXPERIENCING LOSS. IF YOU WANT TO HELP THAT
MISSION ON THIS GIVING NIGHT,
HERE'S A LINK TO DONATE TO YGS.
IT'S ALSO ON THE