So today I want to talk about how to use
your feminine energy to get close to a
man hi I'm Jaki Sabourin executive
love coach and CEO I'm engaged in any
age a company that helps women
deliberately date and consciously create
the man of their dreams I met and
married my own soulmate match husband
after being single for eight years and
I'm still on the honeymoon and excited
about helping you get engaged at any age
okay let's get this party started
how do you use your feminine energy to
get close to a man so it's your powerful
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miss an episode okay so I want to make
this easy for you to remember so I'm
going to call it the 3 R's how to use
your feminine energy to get a man close
to you and so let's start with the first
R and so what I want you to do is relax
so I want you to relax and the reason
why I say that it's because we can get
so wound up when we're single we can get
so focused on an outcome and we can
become so driven then in that process
become very serious and it's a turn-off
to men men especially in middle-age men
and older really are looking for someone
to have fun with they've maybe their
kids are going off to college and they
now finally have time in their life to
to devote your relationship and they
certainly don't want to be serious about
it when this isn't anything about you
know dating men that want a committed
relationship this is just about the
energy that you want to show up with if
you want it to get close to a man so you
need to learn to relax and have fun and
be playful because that's the energy
that it tracks men and basically that's
the energy that attracts everyone and so
just lighten up any more playful be more
real and be more of who you really are
and and take the seriousness of out of
all of this if you feel like you're
getting really serious about a date that
means you're detached or you're that
means that you're attached to an outcome
you have already gone to the end
story so to speak and that takes sure of
the moment and it doesn't make you relax
at all because you become very
preoccupied with what's going to happen
next and in that moment of control
trying to control an outcome you go
unconscious and become very serious and
then what happens the worst case
scenario is gonna happen is you're going
to become very disappointed when you
when you attach to an outcome and then
the outcome doesn't happen and maybe he
doesn't call you back or you don't
connect again and then you suffer all
this disappointment and that that energy
of disappointment and discouragement is
really a low vibration because it shows
that you had an attractive to the
outcome do you have to stay in the
unknown so you learn need to learn to
relax so that's the first art the second
R is really learning to be receptive you
have to learn to be receptive I mean as
women we are the receivers and we need
to get back to that place where we we
which is our divine birthright for one
but it's also it's it's the law of least
effort it really is
you just have to train yourself to
receive and how you can do that is you
can just start to say I receive I
receive and so receiving means to allow
so it's a part of part of receiving is
allowing allowing for whatever's going
to happen without the need to know the
need to control they need effort and and
in doing that the beautiful thing is
you'll find out right away what exactly
he is willing to do for you he is
offering you how much he likes you how
much he'll step up how much you'll take
the lead if you step into that doer
energy that's the masculine energy then
you're stepping out of you know your
your role is you need to stay in now
receiving mall if we roll and what
happens is he will get very confused by
that and then you might have this this
connection that's based on you taking on
the action and so another wonderful
thing about being in the receiving mode
is that it gives you the opportunity
like I said just a few minutes ago to
see what it is that he is inspired to do
for you and so that being in that
receiving mode
inspires a man to step up men wanna step
up they want to feel empowered they want
to be in their masculine energy they
want to feel needed and respected and
the way that you can help them do that
is by staying in your feminine receiving
mode because then they're inspired to do
for you and then they can become your
hero in that process so so just allow
things to unfold watch them observe them
get really curious about what they're
doing so that they have the opportunity
to step up and lead well you receive
whatever it is they're offering and then
just show up with gratitude and
sincerity and authenticity and I promise
you you will connect you will create a
closer more intimate connection with the
man right away and so the third and
final part is I want you to be in your
radiance I want you to be in your
radiance and what I mean by that is
there's an energy that we have as women
when we really love and accept ourselves
when we're when we radiate and we're
showing up like a sparkling bright light
it's because of these reasons so it's
because we love and accept ourselves and
I'm not just saying this on surface
level you need to deeply and
unconditionally love and accept yourself
you really need to accept yourself for
exactly who you are
and love your body for exactly the way
it is because when you come into that
deep love and self-acceptance you you
radiate love and you radiate acceptance
and that's what men are looking for it's
acceptance so when you when you learn to
accept yourself on this deep level you
do create this automatic magnet towards
you because you have so much love for
yourself and so much respect for
yourself and so much acceptance for
yourself and with acceptance coz comes
wisdom and a gentleness and an empathy
and compassion all those qualities are
all about the feminine energy and when
you when you embody those qualities you
you really do become irresistible to men
to everyone because everybody is looking
for an unconditional
that's unconditional love everybody's
looking for the compassion that's the
feminine energy is compassion so Joe
step into your radiant thing about you
to just really step into accepting
yourself on a deep level and and loving
yourself and nurturing yourself and
loving your body when you do this you
really invite a man to accept and love
and adore you it's when we don't accept
ourselves so we don't own our own our
beautiful individual radiance that we we
push men away because what we're saying
is you know I don't I don't feel safe
loving you because I don't love myself
and with that desert it kind of a
self-fulfilling prophecy right if you
don't accept yourself how can you expect
a man to accept you because you might
have some unconscious belief that maybe
if he gets to know me he won't like me
you won't accept me or he'll find out
I'm not good enough so all of that forms
of Nanak self-acceptance is all laced
with some kind of negative unconscious
belief that you really want to to
surface and release so that you can heal
it so you can step into a being in a
more radiant way in your life and so I
hope this was helpful and so the 3 R's
relax receive and radiate radiant your
beauty and so I want to share my baby
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you a feminine exercise along with the
frequency of your vibrating up now you
know you know an area you might need to
do some work around so you can raise
your vibration and fast-track your
ability to connect with your math
because it's all energy we're all
sending up vibrations so the sooner you
become more aware of the vibration that
you're sending out the faster you can
propel yourself down this path to get
close to a man so I hope this was
helpful ladies if you're interested in
working with me and
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okay ladies
thanks for being here love you