In this video, we're going to talk about how to tell if your ex has moved on. But first,
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So the first way you can tell if your ex has moved on is if they are no longer emotionally
reacting to you, but they can genuinely respond to you in a calm and rational sort of way.
And you want to be careful about this because oftentimes, your ex may try and fake this
sort of disinvested, calm, neutral, a have it all under control kind of vibe. But if
it's just sort of plastered on, if you can tell that they're faking it, that's definitely
one thing versus if they genuinely have this disinvested kind of vibe to them when it comes
to you coming up in conversation, maybe between them and mutual friends, or you presenting
yourself in their life through calling them or texting them or something like that. If
they just seem kind of disinvested and it's not just them trying to posture and pretend
like they couldn't care less, but really you kind of know that they do because maybe some
other activities that they have been doing recently or something like that, that lets
you know that they've moved on.
The second way you can tell if your ex has moved on is if they have a new intentional
direction in their life that is not about going back to something old or about deliberately
pushing away something that they had with you or something else in their life and/or
to get into something that's the polar opposite of it. But they're sort of intentionally choosing
it. They're sort of rationally thinking this out, rationally using their emotions and saying,
"Hey, what I really want right now in my life is this." And yeah, it's totally possible
to use previous experience, previous relationships to inform choices that you're going to make
in the future. But if they're not over you, they're going to be making these on a really
impulsive, emotional way where it's almost this pushing or chasing energy that's going
after it.
Whereas if it's intentional, they're really just deliberately choosing and taking one
methodical step after another. Okay. The third way you can tell if your ex has moved on is
if they genuinely seem to love their life. And I want to make a distinction here because
oftentimes after someone breaks up with you, they may seem really happy. Right? And that's
because obviously if they broke up with you, there were issues that they were having with
the relationship. And as the breakup is sort of initially unfolding, they might feel a
sense of happiness in their life because whatever those issues were are removed. Right? So there's
no more arguing, there's no more trust issues, there's no more miscommunication, there's
no more whatever it was that was causing them to not be happy with you. And so they might
initially feel a sense of happiness. But oftentimes, that will kind of fade away as they kind of
get back into normal day to day life.
And they might miss you a lot. They might be heartbroken, they might feel all sorts
of different things, but that's a topic for another time. But if they genuinely do start
to love their life with or without you in it, then that shows that they have emotionally
moved on. And it's not a bad thing if they've moved on, by the way. Asterix here. You want
your ex to actually move on if you want to create a new relationship with them. Because
that way, they're not just panicking and getting back together with you because they miss you.
They're actually intentionally choosing to be in a relationship with you. Point number
two I just went over a few minutes ago is that they're intentionally choosing things
in their lives. And if they've moved on, they can intentionally choose to get back together
with you.
Not out of fear, not out of scarcity, not out of lack, but because they genuinely want
to have a relationship with you. That's actually a good thing. So in that respect, you do want
your ex to move on. Now before we go ahead, I do want to let you know that we have this
whole series on what your ex is thinking, what they're going through, what their experience
is. You can check that out up there in a video card, which I'll put up there while I'm using
my very savvy and sophisticated video editing skills.
But with that being said, let's go ahead and get back into point number four that you can
tell that your ex has moved on. And that is if your ex is getting into a new relationship
that is not a reaction to the past, but seems to be based on a genuine connection with someone
else and is paced at a reasonable rate. Now we've talked about rebound relationships in
the past. And oftentimes, your ex may get into a rebound relationship with someone who
is very similar to you. That's a red flag right there. Or someone who is the exact polar
opposite to you in some capacity. That is also a red flag. It means that either one
of those relationship situations is based on the relationship that they had with you.
It's really weird, but they are in effect still in a relationship with you, but without
you being in it.
Very weird, very strange, but I've seen it happen many, many, many times. If on the other
hand they're not doing that, but they are just creating a new relationship with someone
else that's just a normal relationship, somebody who may have some aspects of them that are
similar to you, some aspects that are different, nothing is, "Okay. I was dating a nice guy,
now I'm going to date a bad boy." But it's, "Okay. Now I'm going to date someone who,"
whatever they are. That could definitely be a sign that they are moving on. And it also
needs to be paced at a reasonable sort of rate. Oftentimes with rebound relationships,
there's a certain thing called psychological displacement where the relationship is kind
of fast forwarded up to approximately the same level of commitment that they had with
you.
So if you and your ex were talking about, I don't know, maybe getting engaged or something.
And suddenly with their rebound relationship, they're suddenly talking about getting engaged
after only a couple of weeks or months or something. Very, very clear rebound relationship
sign right there. But if the relationship is sort of evolving and progressing at kind
of a reasonable pace for however long they've been together for whatever is reasonable for
your ex and their situation and all that, then that could also be a sign that this is
not just a rebound relationship, but it could be them emotionally moving on. Okay. And that
brings us to the fifth sign that your ex has moved on. And that is if they do not seem
emotionally invested in whether you succeed or fail in a life. They might wish you well,
but they're not going to go out of their way to be your cheerleader.
Okay. There's a lot of strange emotional things that people can do in terms of how they relate
to their ex after a breakup. They might try and prop that person up. They might try and
talk them up. I've talked about that in, I think, it was yesterday's video. They also
might try and put that person down. They might also try and talk poorly about that person
or put them down in some sort of way so that they can start to feel superior or they can
start to feel righteous in their decision to break up or something like that. But if
that is not happening and they're just kind of like, "Yeah. Our relationship didn't work
out and I wish them well, but I'm not going to go out of my way to cheerlead them on.
I'm not going to go out of my way to kick them down when they start to climb, pull themselves
up or anything like that."
That can really show that they're starting to move on and that they're able to actually
relate to you in a more reasonable and rational sort of way. And again, like I mentioned earlier,
if you do want to get back together with your ex, the best place to do this is from a point
of both you and your ex having had moved on from the breakup. Because then, both of you
are able to actually relate to one another in a calm, rational, and normal way, not just
bouncing back into the old dynamic, or trying to relive the past, or using fumes of nostalgia
to keep the relationship strong. But you're actually able to do something that would legitimately
aid intentional creation both of you are co-creating together.
Maybe that sounds a little bit woo-woo, but I don't know. Maybe I'm a little bit woo-woo.
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