Hi, I'm Paul Friedman founder of The Marriage Foundation and you want to know
"How To Make Your Wife Fall in Love with You Again" and I'm going to draw some
real lines here because I want you to know the truth. Many men over the
years have come to me and said, "My wife is gone. She left a month ago, two months
about three months ago and they're coming to me now. I don't understand why."
Yes, I do understand why. We wait so long because there's always that hope thing
going but look, if she's gone and it's been that long. If it's been a week but
she's like really gone, she's gone. In my experience, she doesn't come back.
If she's already found someone else many women use another man as a vehicle to
leave their marriage -- it's done and I just want you to know that no matter
what you do that I'm aware of it isn't going to bring her back. But, if your
marriage is just starting to like turn sour and you're feeling like, "Whoa, what's
going on here?" Then there is hope, you can get her to fall in love with you again
but not the you that you have become. You got to go back to the you that you were
and then some. So the you that you were when she decided to love you, when she
decided to marry you was complementary, never critical, always loving, always
smiling, never grumpy, didn't watch TV, watched her, asked her about her day
asked her about her stuff -- you did everything right and you thought, "Well married now."
It's not like that, marriage is supposed to be perpetually increasingly
better for both of you, and what does that mean? That means you
have to provide that for her and you might say, "Well, she didn't do that for me."
Okay, if that's where you're coming from then you should stop watching the video
now -- you're done. It's an individual thing, it's not like a
contract they present it that way in the world but it's not. It's an individual
spiritual path for you to learn how to love unconditionally and you haven't
done your part so you haven't opened the door for her
to be able to express that love, and her love is what you want. Men -- we
don't have that natural connection to our heart the way women do because
biologically, it's just not set up that way. Women have that because they have
the children and we want that. We want that unconditional love and we get it
through them but then we set up all of these barriers unknowingly
and it makes it very difficult. So here's what's going on
there's several stages here, one stage she's gone. Nothing is going to work, in
my experience I've never seen anything work only been doing this for decades
but that's what I've seen so try to act like a man and learn how to part in a
positive way. Always keeping the door open for a miracle. Another is that
you're on the verge of a divorce, you got to get going. You got to use the course
for men because it'll give you step-by-step how to control your mind so
that you can manifest these other qualities more easily and actually do it
most men cannot without this. And then the third is you're just pretty
intuitive and you're feeling like she's falling out of love, one of the books
will work either Breaking the Cycle or Lessons for a Happy Marriage but a video
isn't going to do the trick. Hopefully I've given you enough information so you
could see you got some work to do. Hopefully, she's not gone.
It's a tragedy for the family, for the children if that's the case and I
haven't seen anything that works, that's just me. Maybe down the road someone will
come up with something but there's even this old expression that I heard a woman
convinced against her will is of the same opinion still, and I've tried. Trust
me, I've tried and I'm not telling you all this so you're discouraged but I
want you to know what my experience was. So keep searching if she's already left
don't stop with me, maybe there is someone out there who knows what to do
I don't know. That's the best I have to offer guys. If you have some questions
write into our counselors, they're right there for you. They'll get back to you
otherwise my prayers, blessings to you, blessings to your wife and
blessings to your family. God bless!