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>>> APRIL
>>> APRIL IS NATIONAL STRESS AWARENESS MONTH.
AWARENESS MONTH. WHILE STRESS IS UNAVOIDABLE,
THE VAST MAJORITY OF
US, I THINK ALL OF US, LET'S
FACE IT, THERE ARE MANY
WAYS TO HELP PREVENT AND MANAGE
IT.
IT.
IT. HERE
IT. HERE WITH SOME HELPFUL TIPS IS
OUR STRESS THERAPIST,
CHERI FLAKE.
CHERI FLAKE. HI, HONEY.
HI, HONEY. >> HI.
>> HI.
>> HI. >>
>> HI. >> I AM SO EXCITED.
ALWAYS HERE OF COURSE IN REAL
TALK.
TALK.
TALK. TODAY WE'RE DIVING IN DEEP.
>> A RECENT STUDY FOUND 33% OF
PEOPLE ARE LIVING
WITH EXTREME STRESS.
FORTY-EIGHT PERCENT BLAME
STRESS FOR NEGATIVELY
IMPACTING THEIR PERSONAL OR
PROFESSIONAL LIVES.
PROFESSIONAL LIVES. YOU MUST SEE THIS ALL THE TIME
>> I DO.
>> I DO.
>> I DO. YES, I SEE IT IN MY PRACTICE.
WE KIND OF SEE IT EVEN IN OUR
PERSONAL LIVES.
PERSONAL LIVES. THAT ALONE, THAT ONE ROLE CAN
BE STRESSFUL.
BE STRESSFUL. A COUPLE OF THE THINGS THAT WE
DO IN OUR LIVES, WE
KIND OF, AS EMERGENCIES, WE
KIND OF VALUE WEIRD,
STRESSFUL THINGS, LIKE BEING
BUSY AND BEING
PRODUCTIVE, AND NO SLEEP.
WE HAVE TO KIND OF CHANGE THAT,
TOO.
TOO.
TOO. JUST
TOO. JUST COMPASSER BATES IT.
>> JUST RALLY DOES.
I LOVE THAT -- WE'RE GOING TO
TALK ABOUT THINGS WE
CAN DO TO ELIMINATE THE STRESS.
I KNOW SOME OF US ARE SO USED
TO FEELING LIKE I
ACTUALLY THRIVE ON IT.
I DO BEST ON IT, BUT IT DOESN'T
HAVE TO BE THAT WAY.
HOW TUESDAY IT IMPACT OUR
OVERALL HEALTH?
OVERALL HEALTH? >> THIS IS SUPER COOL.
THERE'S A STUDY OUT OF THE
UNIVERSITY OF WISCONSIN,
AND THEY TOOK 29,000 PEOPLE.
THAT'S SO MANY PEOPLE.
OKAY.
OKAY.
OKAY. AND
OKAY. AND THEY ASKED THEM TWO
QUESTIONS.
QUESTIONS. I'LL ASK YOU.
IN THE LAST YEAR, DID YOU HAVE
LITTLE STRESS, A
MODERATE AMOUNT OF STRESS OR A
LOT OF STRESS?
>> THE LAST YEAR, A LOT OF
DRESS.
DRESS.
DRESS. >>
DRESS. >> DO YOU THINK STRESS AFFECTS
YOUR HEALTH IN A
NEGATIVE WAY?
NEGATIVE WAY? >> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. >> OKAY.
>> OKAY.
>> OKAY. I'M HERE TO SAVE YOU.
>> OKAY.
>> OKAY.
>> OKAY. >> I'M HERE TO SAVE YOU.
READY?
READY?
READY? THIS IS SO COOL.
WHAT THEY FOUND IS THEY HOOKED
AT ALL THE RECORDS
JUST TO FIND OUT.
THAT'S HOW WE FIGURE OUT THING.
DON'T BE ALARMED.
WHAT THEY FOUND WAS THAT THE
PEOPLE THAT REPORTED A
LOT OF STRESS IN THE LAST YEAR
AND ALSO THOUGHT THAT
STRESS AFFECTED THEIR HEALTH IN
A NEGATIVE WAY FOR
MORE THAN 42% LIKELY TO BE DEAD
EIGHT YEARS LATER.
THAT'S NOT THAT SURPRISING.
>> IT'S REALLY NOT.
>> BUT LISTEN TO THIS.
THIS IS GOING TO SHOCK YOU.
ARE YOU READY?
THE PEOPLE WHO REPORTED A HIGH
LEVEL OF STRESS BUT
DID NOT THINK THAT STRESS
AFFECTED THEIR HEALTH IN A
NEGATIVE WAY WAS THE LEAST
LIKELY TO BE DEAD EIGHT
YEARS LATER OUT OF ALL THE
OTHER APARTMENTS IN THE
STUDY.
STUDY.
STUDY. WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?
OKAY.
OKAY.
OKAY. A,
OKAY. A, STRESS MAY BE ASSOCIATED
WITH LONGEVITY.
WITH LONGEVITY. WHO KNEW?
WHO KNEW?
WHO KNEW? >> YOU'RE SAYING THERE IS SUCH
A THING AS POSITIVE
STRESS.
STRESS.
STRESS. >> YES.
>> YES.
>> YES. BUT WAIT.
BUT WAIT.
BUT WAIT. HERE'S THE THING.
THAT MINDS WE HAVE TO THINK
ABOUT HOW WE THINK ABOUT
STRESS.
STRESS.
STRESS. >> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT. >> JUST THE THOUGHT THAT STRESS
AFFECTS YOUR HEALTH
IN A NEGATIVE WAY IS KILLING
YOU.
YOU.
YOU. THAT
YOU. THAT WILL MAKE IT THE 1th
LEADING CAUSE OF DEATH
LAST YEAR.
LAST YEAR. IT KILLS 182,000 PEOPLE IN THE
UNITED STATES.
UNITED STATES. SIMPLY HAVING THOUGHTS.
BUT THERE IS POSITIVE STRESS.
I MOON, COMING IN HERE THIS
MORNING, I CAN HAVE BEEN
LIKE, "OH."
LIKE, "OH." THESE GUYS MAKE IT LOOK REALLY
EASY.
EASY.
EASY. IT'
EASY. IT' NOT THAT EASY.
BUT YOU'VE GOT TO BE LIKE, "I
GOT THIS," WHICH
EVOKES A CHALLENGE RESPONSE.
IT HOPES YOU RISE TO THE
OCCASION.
OCCASION.
OCCASION. >> I LIKE THAT.
SO IT'S A CHALLENGE.
IT'S ABOUT FLIPING THE SWITCH
IN YOUR BRAIN, KIND OF
RENAMING IT.
RENAMING IT. YOU'RE RENAILING IT.
>> TOTALLY.
>> TOTALLY. IT'S STRESS, BUT IT AUTO A
CHALLENGE RESPONSE.
CHALLENGE RESPONSE. IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BE SO SCARY.
>> IF MY NEXT QUESTION WAS HOW
ARE WE GOING TO
PREVENT IT, MAYBE IT'S NOT
ABOUT PREVENTING IT.
MAYBE IT'S ABOUT MANAGING IT
MORE.
MORE.
MORE. >>
MORE. >> THERE WOULD BE SOME TIPS.
FIRST OF ALL YOU HAVE TO CHANGE
THE WAY WE THINK
ABOUT STRESS.
ABOUT STRESS. WE HAVE TO.
PEOPLE THAT REPORT LOW STRESS
REPORT LOW HAPPINESS.
IF YOU DON'T HAVE STRESS YOU
AIN'T LIVING.
AIN'T LIVING. >> TRUE.
>> TRUE.
>> TRUE. >> YOU WERE PREGNANT, YOU
GRADUATED.
GRADUATED. ARE THOSE BAD THINGS?
>> NO.
>> NO.
>> NO. >>
>> NO. >> YOU'VE GOT TO THINK OF IT
THAT WAY.
THAT WAY.
THAT WAY. >> I LOVE THAT.
OKAY.
OKAY.
OKAY. SO
OKAY. SO WHAT ELSE DO WE NEED TO
KNOW?
KNOW?
KNOW? WHAT ELSE CAN WE DO TO CHANGE
THE WAY THAT WE --
>> STOP THINKING ABOUT YOU AND
HOW BUSY YOU ARE.
STOP SAYING, "CON YOU BELIEVE
IT'S SUMMER?
IT'S SUMMER? CAN YOU BELIEVE IT'S SUMMER?"
YES, I CAN BELIEVE
IT.
IT.
IT. YOU'VE BEEN THERE, AND I
BELIEVE IT.
BELIEVE IT. >> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT.
>> RIGHT. >> BUT YOU CAN ALSO TAKE THE
FOCUS OFF OF YOU.
PEOPLE THAT HAVE A REALLY
STRESSFUL INCIDENT IN
THEIR LIFE ARE 30% MORE LOCALLY
TO BE DEAD FIVE
YEARS LATER, BUT IF THEY WERE
ASSISTING SOMEONE OR
HELPING SOMEONE DURING THAT
TIME, IF THEY REPORTED
THEY WERE CARE GIVING IN SOME
WAY, EVEN IF THAT CARE
GIVING ADDED MORE STRESS, THAT
COMPLETELY ERASED IT.
IT'S GONE.
IT'S GONE. >> WOW.
>> WOW.
>> WOW. >> THE SOCIAL WORKERS, THE
TEACHERS, FOR MOTHERS,
PEOPLE THAT ARE CARING FOR
OTHER PEOPLE.
OTHER PEOPLE. IT'S NOT NECESSARILY RUINING
YOUR LIFE.
YOUR LIFE. I'S NOT SO BAD.
>> HOW WOULD WE KNOW IF WE ARE
BEYOND NORMAL, AND
THAT WE REALLY DO NEED TO GET
SOME HELP?
SOME HELP? >> IN MY BUSINESS -- THINK
ABOUT PREVENTION.
ABOUT PREVENTION. IF YOU START TO FEEL BAD, I'M
HERE FOR YOU.
YOU CAN GO TO MY WEB SITE.
I HAVE MEDITATION CLASSES.
YOU CAN COME BY.
I'M WRITING A BOOK ON HOW TO DO
IT FOR REAL PEOPLE.
AND WHAT YOU REALLY WANT TO DO
IS, IF I COULD GIVE
YOU ONE PIECE OF ADVICE, ONE
THING TO HELP YOURSELF,
PLEASE TAKE UP A MEDITATION
PRACTICE.
PRACTICE.
PRACTICE. IT'S NOT THAT BIG OF A DEAL.
>> YOU TELL ME THAT ALL THE
TIME.
TIME.
TIME. I
TIME. I CAN NEVER MAKE THE TIME FOR
IT.
IT.
IT. >>
IT. >> THAT'S THE ONLY REASON WHY I
IT WILL YOU, BECAUSE
I CARE ABOUT YOU.
. YOU'RE LOOKING AT SOMEONE WHO
WANT IN FROM NEW
JERSEY YESTERDAY ON FACEBOOK.
YOU'VE GOT TIME.
>> YOU'RE RIGHT.
I WAS READING ALL MY BIRTHDAY
WISHES.
WISHES.
WISHES. I
WISHES. I HAVE TIME REAL QUICK, BEFORE
WE WRAP, HOW DO WE
MEDITATE?
MEDITATE?
MEDITATE? >> OKAY.
>> OKAY.
>> OKAY. THIS IS THE SIMPLEST THING.
YOU CAN DO THIS.
THIS IS SO SIMPLE.
YOUR JOB IS TO SIT IN A
COMFORTABLE SPACE FOR THREE
MINUTES, FIVE MINUTES.
NOT THAT MANY MINUTES.
>> I GOT THAT.
>> JUST THREE, TO FIVE MINUTES.
SET AND ALARM.
THREE TO FIVE MINUTES, AND
REMAIN COMPLETELY STILL.
AND YOUR JOB IS TO REMAIN
STILL, FOCUS ON YOUR
BREATHING.
BREATHING. YOU'VE BEEN BREATHING ALL DAY
WITHOUT THINKING ABOUT
IT.
IT.
IT. JUST
IT. JUST NOTICE THAT YOU'RE
BREATHING.
BREATHING. YOU'RE AN OBSERVER OF BREATH.
AND THE THIRD THING IS WHEN YOU
SPACE OUT, BECAUSE
YOUR BRAIN IS GOING TO FIND IT
REAL BORING IN SECOND
QUARTERS, YOU BRING IT BACK TO
THE BREATH, AND THAT
PART IF YOUR BRAIN -- EVER TIME
YOU REDIRECT YOUR
THOUGHTS BACK TO YOUR BREATH,
YOU STRENGTHEN HAS TO
LITTLE FIBERS IN YOUR BRAIN.
THEY GET STRONGER AND STRONGER,
AND THEY SOOTHE THE
PART OF YOUR BRAIN THAT'S
GOING, "I'M SUPPOSED TO GO
ON "ATLANTA AND COMPANY" TODAY.
>> OR THIS MORNING I WAS
CLEANING KATE.
CLEANING KATE. MY MOM WAS EVEN LIKE,
"SQUEEZE."
"SQUEEZE." I HEARD HER SAY, "SQUEEZE."
I PUT KATE'S FOLDER IN
CAROLINE'S.
CAROLINE'S. IT WAS MY FAULT.
>> IT KIND OF SPILLS OVER.
>> MIMI, I'M SO SORRY.
>> OKAY.
>> OKAY.
>> OKAY. I'M GOING TO APOLOGIZE, AND I'M
GOING TO MEDITATE
WHEN I GET HOME.
I LOVE YOU SO MUCH.
>> YOU GOT THIS.
I LOVE YOU.
>> I LOVE IT, CHERI.
THANK YOU.
THANK YOU. >>> FROM STRESS TO CONFIDENCE,
COMING UP NEXT IN
REAL TALK, WE'RE DISCUSSING THE
FIVE THINGS PARENTS
SHOULD DO TO HELP THEIR KIDS
FIND THAT HAPPY BALANCE
OF CONFIDENCE IN ALL THAT THEY