So you're self diagnosed,
nobody's diagnosed you with misophonia correct?
Correct.
You've just self diagnosed.
Well there was,
you had had a show on in the past.
All right where it is,
I often talk about
the guests on the show
as teaching tools and several years ago Emery's mother saw
an episode on extreme sensitivities.
And told her that she had all the symptoms
of a certain disease,
a condition known as misophonia.
This is just a little piece of it.
Anytime I hear natural human sounds
like chewing, smacking,
it just makes me angry.
Sydney hates to hear the sound of clipping nails,
eating if I clear my throat like
ah hem,
she gets pretty upset.
I can't stand the sound that Michael makes when he eats.
What does he do that bugs you the most?
Chewing, swallowing.
You said eating, chewing,
swallowing, smacking, chewing gum,
snoring loud, breathing, whispering,
coughing, yawning.
He could be using perfectly good manners
but I can hear the food in his mouth
like moving around as he's chewing.
And it just disgusts me.
Do you know what misophonia is?
Hatred of sound.
It's an abnormally strong,
negative reaction of the autonomic
and the limbic system to specific soft sounds.
Do you get that it's not normal?
Very much,
it's completely illogical.
I want to change it more than anything.
Yep it's exactly it.
If this is neurological
which means your brain
and portions of your brain are causing you
to have a reflexive reaction to it
and that means it's involuntary.
How do you explain the fact
that it's situation specific?
Situation specific,
I don't know that it's situation,
it's sound specific.
No.
That's how I hear it. It doesn't bother you
when the pigs make the noise.
Well maybe we could say it's human specific.
Not animal specific. That would be situation.
Okay.
If it's in the yard of the pigs
that bothers you.
You would argue with a fence post wouldn't you.
I should have been a lawyer, right? (laughing)
No because lawyers work to resolve things.
Okay.
The person that you love
and are committed to
and want to spend the rets of your life with
you don't make allowances for him.
But you do make allowances for the pigs.
Same noises.
No, no different noises.
Their jaws don't crack.
They don't cut their fingernails,
they don't pick,
they don't do things and I know
that the reactions that I have or the sounds
that trigger me to react are all done by humans
and that's every day living.
But it's the reaction that I have to those sounds
and triggers that I need to get under control.
So you figured this all out?
So why are you here?
No I don't have it all figured out.
Well but no,
but you're telling me
that you have this al figured out.
You're saying no, no,
no it's not that it's this.
There're specific things,
and I've got these and I've got
to get those figured out and it's that,
you're wrong about this,
you're wrong about that,
you're wrong about this.
I've got this all figured out
so just tell me what I need to hear,
and what I want to hear and then we'll all go home.
And please get right to it
'cause I'm hurt in a hurry.
I'm hurting that's for sure.
He says the pigs don't make the exact same noise,
it's the exact same noise.
Pigs crunch food,
I crunch food.
Humans crunch food.
It's a different sound to me,
I hear it differently than,
I hear it differently coming
from a human than I hear it
from an animal.
Let me ask you,
is there any possibility
just go down hypothetical highway
with me for minute.
Surely.
Is there any possibility
that my observation
that this could be situation specific
where a certain guttural sound
or a chewing sound in one scenario bothers you
but in another scenario doesn't.
Suggests that you have some control
over it other than just
a neurological reflex?
Yeah sure.
So actually the observation of entitlement
might actually have some role here.
I feel entitled to express it
with people I'm close to but not
with people I'm not.
I don't know well entitlement yes.
Okay or feel more
that I can get away with.