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in today's video we're going to talk about when the relationship is considered a rebound
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today's video we're going to talk about when the relationship is considered a rebound now there are
a lot of coaches that have their opinion on this i'm going to give you my take on what i feel is a
rebound relationship and of course i'm going to say when a person hasn't taken the time to heal
so if you are with someone and they monkey branch to someone else i don't care what the
circumstances were i don't care if it was an ex-boyfriend i don't care if his ex-girlfriend
if they haven't taken that time to be alone to be with themself i would say for at least two
to three months then it's most likely a rebound if you see someone jumping into a relationship
two three weeks after uh sometimes it happens within two to three days and it's it's kind of
it's kind of sad when you see that because you want that person to uh if you're the ex i know
you want that person to kind of feel the breakup kind of sit with that that emotion that they have
because you're sitting with it and you're trying to figure out why is this person so
cold and why they're going to someone else right away but you know that's really not your concern
um so it is healthy for a person to take the time to re-establish who they are as a person
because what it shows in a nutshell is it kind of shows a sense of codependency
and when a person is codependent those relationships will always turn toxic they
will turn uh unhealthy what i mean by toxic is you know unhealthy communication skills
there may be cheating going on in that relationship verbal abuse mental abuse
dismissive behavior just all around non-functional ways to show up in a relationship so when you are
someone that is struggling to get over that breakup you want to know if the person goes
out and meets someone right away um and i can tell you that sometimes those relationships do work
out because that person has gotten to the point where they were just unhappy in a relationship
and they checked out of this relationship a really long time ago but for the majority
of people who get hit with this this breakup they're confused they're wondering when how
when did you decide to break up with me how long have you been emotionally checked out
and for the majority of those people it usually has happened weeks months days ahead before they
even decided to come to you with a discussion so in their mind already they're mentally
um they're mentally single and they're going to most likely think about moving on with the rest
of their life which means it doesn't matter to you it's none of your business if they decide
to get into a relationship with someone else so if you see a person get into a relationship
like i said before days a couple weeks it usually takes months from from what i've learned about
breakups and in order to heal yourself especially if you're doing it the right way which means
you're re-centering yourself hanging out with your friends and your family again establishing a good
workout routine again focusing on your business focus focusing on your life and your purpose
a good rule of thumb is two to three months for every year that you were in a serious relationship
with that person now it can be expedited if you are doing the right things which means
if you are actually being active in healing yourself but if you're passively healing
yourself where you're just pretty much bitter and you're not really processing a breakup with anyone
you're not seeing the counselor therapist you're not talking about it with friends most likely
you're just repressing it and you can't heal it's going to take you much longer to heal i've seen
situations where people get into relationships years down the line after their divorce
and then they end up uh in a mentally weird state once that relationship starts to turn very serious
and then they get hit with the revelation like hey i never healed from my ex-wife or never
healed from my ex-husband and people are confused like wow you've been out of relationship for three
four years why aren't you healed it's because they haven't taken the time to process that breakup so
if you're someone that is thinking about getting into another relationship and you're going through
a breakup i advise you not to do what most people do which is the very next day or the very next
hour because usually when a person rebounds it's usually someone they already know it may
be someone you know is someone that was around it was just a friend someone that they formed
this connection with already because they had already been thinking that the grasp is greener
so if you're someone that is thinking about going and getting into another relationship right away
i was i would say that you take that time to take space for yourself heal yourself don't go jumping
on the dayton ass because i believe that a high percentage of those people that are on dating apps
they are doing exactly what i just talked about they are hopping out of relationship and they're
trying to replace their level of intimacy and they just don't want to be alone and i understand no
one wants to be alone but you have to do it in the correct way otherwise you'll end up
breaking the next person's heart because you're not totally healed
you're going to get past that honeymoon at a limited stage in the relationship
and then you're going to start to realize that this thing that i got myself into was rushed so
if you found this video of any value go ahead and click the next video i talked a little bit more
in depth about this in a live session that i did you can also follow me on my other social media
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