- If you are longing to find love,
you can actually take control of your romantic destiny
by rewiring your mind to be super attractive,
magnetically attractive.
Keep listening, and I'm going to show you how.
People believe that love is something beyond your control.
If you want a job, you will go out
and look for the right job.
If you want a house, you'll start searching
for the home of your dreams.
Yet when it comes to love and finding our person,
we actually don't do anything proactive.
We think that they're just going to turn up,
like in the movies on a white charger and complete us.
So there's some things you need to know to find love.
First of all, you are not looking for your other half
because you're not a half.
You don't need another person to complete you.
When you come at it like "I'm only half a person,
"I need my person, where are they?
"I'm not fulfilled without them,"
that's not working in your favor.
You need to come at it from, "I am worthy.
"I am a whole, I'm amazing.
"And I'm going to find someone equally amazing.
"We're going to have an amazing life."
But please don't believe that you're incomplete
till you find the person who completes you,
Mr. or Miss. Right?
You have to believe you are complete now.
So if you want to find love,
there's one thing you need to do, only one.
It has nothing to do with going to the gym, going on a diet,
changing your weight, your shape, your size.
It's nothing to do with that.
The only thing you need
in order to find the most amazing love
is to believe you are worth it,
to believe that you are lovable.
And people say, "Well, I don't even know how to do that."
Well, let me give you some advice.
First of all, you were born knowing you were lovable.
When babies demand attention,
it's because they have a feeling,
"Hey, it's 5:00 a.m.
"I'm a bit bored.
"Let me wake up the whole house.
"I need a change."
And they don't think, "Gee, my mom works nights.
"My dad's exhausted."
No, a baby thinks, "I want it.
"I'm worthy of it.
"Give it to me."
And that's very good news
because it means you're going to reactivate, re-manifest,
and recreate something that was in you once upon a time.
It may be in a long time ago.
It doesn't matter.
It's still there.
So how do you believe you're lovable?
Well, you have to believe you are lovable
just the way you are.
You have to say, I am lovable,
not "Well, I'm lovable when I've got thinner legs,
"when I have a flatter stomach, when I've got nicer clothes,
"when I've got my hair done, when I've got some money,
"when I've got a nice home to bring someone home to,
"when I can hold my head up and say,
"'hey, I've got a great job.'"
Don't wait.
You see, this is what people do
when they're denying themselves love.
They wait.
I'm going to wait until I look right, feel right.
I'm going to wait.
I'm going to wait till I'm perfect,
and then I'm going to look for someone who's perfect.
I'm going to tell you the truth.
You will never, ever, ever be perfect, ever,
no matter how hard you try because nature doesn't like that.
There are no perfect people.
You are flawed.
I'm flawed.
The best you can ever hope to be is a flawed person
in a relationship with another flawed person
having a flawed relationship.
I'm flawed.
My lovely husband is flawed.
We have a beautiful, flawed relationship.
That's it.
I don't have to be perfect for him.
He doesn't have to be perfect.
We don't have a perfect relationship.
It's too much to live up to.
"We've never had a cross word in our entire life."
Who does that?
"Oh, he's perfect," or "I'm perfect."
That's not true.
If you believe that,
you know what you're setting yourself up for?
Not perfection, disappointment.
All my clients who try to be perfect
are the unhappiest clients I have.
You know what else they are?
They are the loneliest.
They can't find anyone because they're so perfect.
I have met supermodels who tell me this,
"I can't find a guy.
"They're intimidated by me.
"They believe I'm so perfect,
"they start to put me down and diminished me.
"They feel inadequate."
The amount of movie stars, rock stars,
and supermodels I've met, both men and women,
who are alone is extraordinary
because people find them too perfect.
They're intimidated.
You and I can be happily flawed
and find someone else who's happily flawed
and grow an amazing relationship.
So please don't wait until you're ready
because you'll never be ready.
It's like saying "I'll have a baby when I'm ready,"
but really, that time never comes.
Don't wait till you are ready.
Be ready now.
Please don't look for someone who is perfect.
They don't exist.
And if you could find someone who's perfect,
you would feel inadequate actually
because they'd be almost too perfect.
You know how I know that?
I work with children of movie stars
and supermodels who say, "I feel so inadequate.
"My mom is so beautiful.
"My dad is such a God, and I can't live up to that.
"And I feel forever a disappointment."
If you had a perfect partner,
it would just make you feel bad about yourself.
Their flaws allow you to have flaws,
and that's a wonderful thing.
So decide today you are lovable,
you are worthy of love,
and think about the reasons you love people.
You know, I used to love my cat.
It had a wonky ear, a lopsided grin.
It had a missing tail.
I loved it more because of its flaws.
I loved my baby's big toothless grin
and her little fat triple knees.
And I used to grab them and squish them.
I didn't go, "Oh, you need to have skinny legs.
"And you'd be better when you've got some teeth,
"maybe some hair."
We love little babies with all their flaws,
our pets, our children, our friends.
If you think of how you love your friends,
including their flaws,
then understand that they love you back,
including your flaws.
So remember, when you know you're lovable,
you won't do this thing that women especially do.
"Am I good enough for him?
"Am I okay for him?
"Is he too good for me?"
Don't ask yourself, are you too good for him?
Do the opposite.
"Hey, I'm amazing.
"I'm wonderful.
"I'm lovable.
"I'm smart.
"I'm kind, I'm funny.
"I'm a great person.
"Is he or she good enough for me?"
You see, asking yourself, "Am I good enough for them,"
is making you second.
You're elevating them and diminishing you.
But when you decide, "I am lovable, and I'm going on a date,
"gosh, I hope they're enough for me.
"I hope they're as enough as I am.
"I'm lovable, and I'm going to meet someone who's lovable.
"We're going to have a lovable relationship together."
You see, that thought, "I'm lovable,"
going out into the world,
going, "Hey world, here I am, lovable me,
"and I'm going to attract lovable you,"
is so much better than, "Ah, going on a date,
"I hope they don't notice that I'm five pounds heavier.
"I hope they don't think that my job is not good enough.
"I hope they're not too good for me.
"Should I big up myself
"and pretend I'm more than I am to make them like me?"
No, go out there
knowing you are deeply, deeply, deeply lovable.
And if you do that,
you will find someone who believes what you believe
because your thoughts radiate out from you
and back to you like a boomerang,
people that match your thinking.
Your thoughts resonate out.
Other people pick them up.
Never go on a date going, "Oh, please like me.
"I better impress you or impress upon you."
Go on a date with, "Hey, I like me.
"I'm so lovable, I also like you.
"And let's have a great lovable relationship."
Don't try too hard.
Don't wait.
Don't become a people-pleaser.
My daughter once said,
"Mommy, how'd you make a boy like you?"
I said, "Disagree with everything they say.
"If they say, 'Do you want to smoke,' go, 'Uh smoking's so lame.'
"Don't go, 'Oh yeah, I want to smoke.
"'Oh, I smoke.
"'Yeah, you smoke Marlboro.
"'I like Marlboro.'
"Disagree with everything.
"Have an opinion.
"Be a bit feisty.
"Boys like that.
"They like working for something that's worth having.
"Don't be a people-pleaser."
I think I actually overdid it with her
because she became very feisty especially with me,
but I'm glad she has her own mind.
So remember, love is available to you.
You came onto the planet lovable.
If your parents had died, you went up for adoption,
500 people at least would have wanted you on the spot.
You are lovable.
You're worthy of love.
You're enough.
As long as you know you are worthy of love,
you will find it.
My Gran used to say to me, "Every pan has its lid."
I went to a wedding with her of a distant relative,
the girl, the bride was very fat,
and the groom was very thin.
And she said, "I'm so glad she's found her lid."
And I thought that was lovely.
You can find your lid.
I found my lid, but don't wait for a perfect one.
Find love by knowing you're worth it.
So I can hear you saying, "But how do I do that?
"How do I rewire my mind?
"How do I put in good thoughts and erase negative thoughts?"
Well, if you want to do that,
click the link below, and I'll do it for you.
I'll rewire your mind to know, to resonate,
to emanate your lovability.
You will recognize it, attract it, and return it.
Click the link below because love is available
to you sooner than you think.