- Why men begin to be disconnected
is because the woman prevent him
to express his masculine energy.
And the masculine energy want to pursue,
go after the prize.
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So today I am with wonderful Jean
and we'll let Jean to introduce himself.
And he will share three tips
that turns guys off in women.
- Okay hello, I'm Jean, and I'm here today
to provide you with like tips and advices
to better yourself and things especially what to avoid
when you are in a relationship, or a date with a guy.
- So the tip number one is.
- Tip number one is, I think that Greta will agree with me,
it's number one things that turn guys off is insecurity.
It's big no, no, no, no.
Is like for man when the woman is insecure,
she emitted energy and vibrations that are contrary
to what attract man.
So when someone is insecure, you feel that you have
some deficiency in value, in worth,
and what guys are attracted to is something which is prizey.
You need to feel like the prize.
Therefore, a prize is something worth value.
So if you don't feel like you have internal value,
inside of you, the guy will feel it, and pick it up,
and he will not be attracted to you as much
as if you were not.
- Ladies you have to love yourself.
It's really, really important to love yourself.
'Cause when you love yourself a guy feels it too.
And this is when he loves you too.
So yeah it's true.
- Absolutely.
You know self-love and self-abundance,
the flow inside of you will transpire outside as well.
Therefore, whenever you give love and care,
and when you have high value and opinion of yourself,
rightful opinion of yourself,
but high value opinion of yourself,
it will exude a certain energy that will attract
other people and man like a magnet.
- And for this ladies, I have a video which is called,
How Does Loving Yourself Will Make Him Love You Even More.
And you can find that video,
just by following the link right here.
And I will also drop it down in the description box.
So now the second thing that turns you off in girls.
- The second thing that me,
and I think for guys in general,
turn off is hyper neediness.
Neediness is very, very bad, because neediness
is like set off the wrong signal.
It send a signal that you are not confident with yourself
and you try to take the time of the other person
and take where the other person is.
You are basically like a vampire,
instead of to be in a relationship,
where you multiply the energy when you are in resonance
with each other, you become an energy vampire.
And it's very unattractive for anyone
and especially in a relationship to be with a man.
- Do you have a couple of examples of needy women?
- Needy woman.
- What's the most common one?
- There's a lot of example of needy woman.
When a guy, for example, you agree to see each other,
like for one week for example, you are together,
and he say text you and he say,
like okay we need to see each other,
maybe you know on Sunday, et cetera,
and he will tell you when, what you will do, et cetera.
Not even sometime two minute, or two hours pass,
and girls is already texting him,
but in certain ways that just feel like
really that is insecure and needy.
It's like you don't let him the time
to have time for himself.
Maybe he's busy.
Maybe he's doin' something important.
Maybe he's prepare a surprise for you, who knows.
But you don't let him the time to react.
You don't let him the time to get in connection with you.
And therefore is very disruptive for the relationship,
is very negative, is a negative indicator for the man.
- Yeah it all still comes down to insecurities,
'cause you're texting him first out of fear,
that he might get, actually get a lot of girls saying,
I'm texting a guy a lot because I'm in the fear
that he might find someone else to entertain him.
And I'm like, this is not the way to go.
'Cause you want a guy to like you for you.
You're the special one.
So why would you, yeah, why would you compete
with other woman, if he's not that into you,
he's not that into you.
He needs to have a free right to go for someone else
if he wants to.
But you cannot be there entertaining him,
so he wouldn't go to someone else.
- Absolutely.
The thing is like you need to understand,
from what point you are doing something.
- It's insecurity, yeah.
- So if you do it in a fear mode, it set off the signal
that there is, you know yourself that there is something
that is deficient in you.
And therefore, the guy will begin to think so.
Or actually, maybe actually there is something wrong.
And maybe it is actually not a right relationship for me.
You want the contrary.
You want to put off positive signals.
Positive energy.
Positive resonance.
You need to attract someone.
You don't control people, but you put out positive energy,
the right signals that will be attractive
for the person to want to be with you.
You use magnetism, you don't use force and violence.
You will not cage a man.
At the contrary, you are like you know, sweet.
You need to be someone who is desirable
and you need to feel desirable.
And to be feeling desirable, you need to be confident.
- Ladies if you are sweet, right, if you're let's say
a box of delicious ice cream, if you gonna put yourself
every single day, he's gonna get sick of the same ice cream.
You know like stay special.
Give it in bits and pieces,
not attention every single minute, every single day.
- Yeah, because actually, something when you are needy,
it is like you require attention for him,
so you are like a leech.
Attention is not something negative when it is shared,
when it is mutually wanted.
But the problem is, like now you become like a leech,
like an energy vampire.
And it's come from the fact that you know
that you feel self-deficient,
maybe sometimes self-love deficient.
And the reason why you have this neediness reflex
is because you are not too secure in yourself.
And it's what you don't want to put out.
You want to put out an image that you are confident
and that you love yourself.
Therefore that you are something prizey,
that you know that you have value,
and it what drives a man in instead of out.
- Okay so now, the tip number three.
Not the tip, reason.
- Yeah tip.
- The tip, the tip number three, what turns, okay.
So now ladies the tip number three,
what turns guys off.
- So is like what to avoid to not turn a man off.
So number three I would say,
is not lettin' him take the lead.
Not lettin' him to be a man.
Basically, what happen often,
is that when you are in a first phase of a date,
the man it is in full-pursuit mode after you.
And a lot of times why men begin to be disconnected
is because the woman prevent him
to express his masculine energy.
And the masculine energy want to pursue,
go after the prize.
And if you don't set yourself as to be something of prize,
of value, he will lose interest.
- Yeah ladies, if you will chase him, he can't chase you.
'Cause like, it's like the game of chase.
If I'm running after you, you're running away.
Like you can't chase me back.
If you want a guy to pursue, don't chase him.
Just do your thing.
Put yourself first, love yourself, go for your goals,
go for your dreams, and let him be a man.
Let him charm you, let him seduce you.
- Yes, because man love to take initiative.
It's not bad to want to connect with him,
but what often ladies do,
when they're not let him takin' the lead,
then after they go to full neediness,
and after he is overwhelmed
because he cannot express his masculinity.
He want to do for example, like a decision on a date,
et cetera, he didn't,
he say like we gonna go there and there.
If he ask you, what do you think, you can give your opinion
and your idea, but if you try for example,
to already define everything that you want to do,
not lettin' him be in charge,
is kind of unattractive,
because a man as well love to be in charge, he love to do.
The man love to lead.
And you need to let him take the lead as well,
when you're on a date, as well when you propose something,
is good to let him take the lead and feel, let him feel
that you validate what he have to propose.
And not show which is desperate to get something
out of him as well.
- Exactly.
Ladies please also watch my video,
why you should not pursue men.
That you can find it
just by following the link right here.
And I will also drop it down in the description box.
So thank you so much Jean for coming
and sharing the tips.
- Thank you for having me here.
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Kisses from London.
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