Do you self-sabotage?
Do you know what self-sabotage is and what causes it?
How do you stop self-sabotage?
We'll go over seven signs of self-sabotage, and by the end of this video, you'll know
if you're doing it and how to deal with it.
We'll go over seven signs of self-sabotage, and by the end of this podcast, you'll know
if you're doing it and how to deal with it.
It's my experience that self-sabotage is an unrealized belief that you're not good enough
or not worthy enough.
Self-sabotage affects your relationships, career, health, finances, personal development,
and ultimately your goals in life.
Every time you attempt to do something and fail, you're proving to yourself that you
can't or shouldn't do it, and self-sabotage hurts your self-esteem and confidence.
Welcome, friends; if you're new here, I'm Mike, a certified life coach, writer, and
creator of Positive Thinking Mind.com, where I dive deep into topics such as self-esteem,
anxiety, self-confidence, and so much more.
In my courses, I show you ways to make a shift to move forward instead of being held back,
stuck, and frustrated.
I love helping people figure out what's holding them back, teaching them to live their lives
with intention and purpose, and building their self-esteem, so they have confidence in themselves.
And self-sabotage can hold you back, it's how we hurt ourselves either unconsciously
or consciously, and it keeps us from achieving our goals and dreams.
The good news is we can overcome our self-sabotaging behaviors by being self-aware and intentional.
There are so many ways you can be self-sabotaging yourself, and here are seven signs of self-sabotage.
As we go through these, please put in the comments the ones you connect with most, or
if you've had an aha moment, I'd love to hear what you have to say and think.
The first is:
You're Too Hard On Yourself
Self-sabotage is often driven by negative self-talk, where you constantly put yourself
down or tell yourself you're unworthy or inadequate.
Do you replay everything you did wrong in your mind, or are you constantly thinking
of all your mistakes?
Are you building yourself up or tearing yourself down?
Many of us, including myself, struggle with negative self-talk.
A perfectionistic attitude or belief that you always need to be perfect can often leave
you feeling like you're not good enough.
I've spoken before about perfectionism, and perfectionism is unrealistic.
When you feel that you are not good enough, this hurts your self-esteem and can stop you
from moving forward and being productive.
How To Stop Negative Self-Talk:
Don't be overly critical of yourself because it can hurt your mental health, bringing on
anxiety and depression, and feelings of helplessness.
It's also important to surround yourself with the right people.
Find others that will encourage and build you up.
Pay attention to how you spend your free time as well.
Social media will cause you to compare yourself to others.
Redirect your efforts and focus on meditating, reading, or going for a walk.
Love yourself, be positive and talk to yourself the way you speak to others.
The second is: You Ruin What's Good Around You
We often have good things going on in our lives, but inside we feel we don't deserve
it and think negatively about the situation.
It all happens within our subconscious inherent negative nature.
If you don't feel you're worthy of good things, you don't deserve success; you don't deserve
a healthy relationship worthy of love.
All the good things going on in your life on the outside; if you don't feel good on
the inside, you're going to slowly ruin and destroy the good on the outside to match how
you feel inside.
Third, on our list is:
You Procrastinate
Waiting until the last minute, putting things off, and procrastinating are self-sabotage.
In high school, it may have seemed harmless not to do things right away; putting essential
tasks off during adulthood may be more than just being lazy.
What are you putting off?
Are you avoiding responsibility if you're fresh out of college and putting off applying
for that job?
How To Stop Procrastinating:
Take a deep look into your psyche and understand what's holding you back.
When you are working at something, waiting till the last minute causes anxiety and stress.
Start your day by doing the more complex jobs, and as the day goes on, you can accomplish
the easy things by the afternoon when you're tired.
We don't always want to get started on a project, but it's best to take action and take the
first step to complete your task.
Number four is:
Imposter Syndrome
You've probably felt the effects of imposter syndrome before, and it's when things start
going well in your life.
You have good relationships and career success; people praise you for your work, reaching
your goals, and feeling healthier.
But deep inside, you don't feel you deserve it; you're not worthy.
Harvard Business Review defines imposter syndrome as a collection of feelings of inadequacy
that persists despite evident success.
This might be all too much; you might think, when are people going to see that you're a
fraud, people will realize you don't know what you're doing.
We begin to knock ourselves down because we're scared we'll be found out.
How To Stop Imposter Syndrome:
Take a step back for a minute, grab a pen and paper and write down all your accomplishments,
no matter how big or small.
Don't let that inner critic, that inner negative voice, take over.
You have to be your own cheerleader; you are worthy of success.
Be persistent, be intentional, and with time, you'll be able to break those negative thought
patterns.
Number five is:
Reacting Out Of Anger
There may be times that you feel stressed out at work, overwhelmed in your personal
life, you might feel tired, someone may annoy you, and you react out of anger and exhaustion.
When we react out of anger, it never ends well.
Both sides feel bad and end up getting hurt.
How To Stop Reacting Out Of Anger:
To avoid this self-sabotaging behavior, we need to care for ourselves more through self-care,
get enough sleep, and eat properly.
Being in a good place mentally will help you from being overwhelmed and angry.
Number Six is:
Masking Your Emotions
Masking your emotions through alcohol, drugs, overeating, substance abuse, getting wasted,
or binge-watching - anything you do in excess to avoid your negative emotions is self-sabotaging.
Hiding from anxiety, depression, life's stress, and other negative emotions can lead to addiction.
Your emotions aren't the enemy, it's normal to have good and bad feelings, and it's part
of being human.
Running away from your emotions isn't healthy.
Most of the time, these unhealthy stress relievers set you back and prevent you from reaching
your goals and dreams.
How To Stop Masking Your Emotions:
The best way to stop this self-sabotage is to be self-aware of your behavior.
Notice your feelings and experience and acknowledge them, but don't make it a habit of being down
on yourself and solely focusing on your negative emotions.
Find a healthier alternative like going for a walk, meditation, reading, or writing in
a journal.
Number seven is:
Comparing Yourself To Others
Often when consuming social media, we compare ourselves to others.
They have a bigger house than me, nicer clothes, going and doing things constantly, more friends,
and a nicer body.
If you take a step back and see what's posted on social media, it's only a glimpse of what
their lives are.
They're going through the same things everyone else goes through in life, and these pictures
are usually glammed up to make things look perfect.
Comparing yourself to others only makes you feel bad about yourself and causes you to
lose motivation.
How To Stop Comparing Yourself To Others:
The first thing to do is remember other people are going through the same things you are.
The second is to remind yourself of all the good qualities you possess.
Take a pen and paper and write down all the good about yourself.
Don't let your inner critic start-up with negative self-talk.
If you compare yourself to others, try to find similarities or think of things you have
that the other person doesn't.
After hearing this, you may have realized that you've been self-sabotaging more than
you thought.
Self-sabotaging is unhealthy, but it's very normal.
Challenge and begin to change your thinking and be kind to yourself.
Take small steps, and create small goals, from healing to investing in yourself and
creating a happy, joyous life.
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I believe in you, and I want you to believe in you.
Stay positive, friends.