Hey there, I'm Stephanie Kwong, transformational life coach, hypnotherapist and self-love junkie.
And I'm so happy to be doing Mindset Monday videos with Fitlife and to be here with you right now.
Now, I want to know, do you ever feel stuck, stressed out, or overwhelmed and you wish you could have some help?
But you're either too afraid to ask or you don't know how to ask?
Well, I get how hard it can be to ask for support and to feel comfortable with receiving it.
Now I was a total lone wolf for the longest time.
I never asked for help and I said no when people offered it.
No, asking for help is not something that many of us have been taught to do.
Instead, most of us were taught to be strong or independent.
And if we needed support, it meant we weren't smart enough, good enough or worthy enough.
I want you to take a moment and ask yourself, why is it so hard for you?
You know, are you afraid of being rejected or being told no?
Or do you think that asking for support means that you're weak or incapable?
Maybe you don't want to owe anyone any favors?
Someday, and that day may never come, I will call upon you to do a service for me.
You're afraid that if you ask someone for help, that you might be imposing or burdening them.
Or this is a big one - maybe you're afraid of being vulnerable,
and you don't want anyone to see that you don't have it altogether.
Now, I totally get that asking for help and receiving can be hard.
But I know that not asking or receiving makes life even harder.
And if you want to experience higher levels of success,
if you want to achieve your goals with less stress and be happier and healthier on all levels,
take a deep breath 'cause I got your back and I've got some tips for you to make asking for help easier too.
Now the first tip to make it easier to ask for help is to not underestimate the willingness of others to help.
Most people are willing and when you ask for help ,
you're creating opportunities for them to share their gifts and talents.
And you're also letting other people experience the happiness and fulfilment that comes from giving.
Okay, now tip number two is to know what to ask.
Now I know this may seem silly,
but when it boils down to it, a lot of people struggle knowing exactly what to ask for.
If you don't know what you need help with, then of course you won't ask, and people can't read your mind.
So you want to figure out specifically what do you need help with.
Okay now the third tip to get comfy with asking for support is to be okay with a no.
Now I know a lot of people fear rejection or they take the no personally.
So they avoid the no by not asking, but if you don't ask, you're actually saying no to yourself.
And is that what you want?
Just know that when people say no, they are not saying no to you.
They are saying no to the thing that you're asking them to do, and there's a big difference.
So ask, and if you get a no, just go and ask another person until you get your yes.
And you will get your yes, because remember tip number one, people are willing to help.
Alight, now the fourth and final tip to make asking for support and receiving easier is to love yourself
by knowing that you are deserving of the support and believe that you are worthy of receiving it,
because you are and I'm going to say it again, you are worthy and deserving of love and support.
So ask and keep your heart open to receive.
And the most amazing moments of human connection happen when we take down our walls
and let others in to be a part of our life.
So if asking for help is a tough one for you, I encourage you to start practicing now.
And to make it a little easier, you can start off with smaller requests if asking for the big ones freak you out.
But the more you practice, the easier it gets.
It's in our nature to give and receive help .
We're meant to experience community and connection and to lean on each other.
Okay, so if you like this video, please share it and tell me what support you're going to ask for today.
Choose something and then go ask for it and let me know how it goes by leaving a comment.
And remember, you're worth it.
I'm Stephanie Kwong,
I'm still grateful to be doing these Mindset Monday videos of Fitlife
and to have the opportunity to be with you .
Remember, we are in this together.