Hi everyone Agnes here. In this video I'm going to go through 5 ways your neediness shows up. Then
I'm going to go through 5 ways to stop doing this so that you become more emotionally, energetically
attractive. And then I'm going to share one of the most powerful questions I have ever heard.
Now, 5 ways your neediness shows up - are you doing any of these? 1) Over texting.
2) Fishing for information, such as: Who are you with? Who are you talking to on WhatsApp?
And Number 3) Giving up plans with friends or family when your
love interest suddenly shows up out of the blue or contacts you at the last minute.
Number 4) Do you check their social media to see who they're connecting with or who they're
doing any liaising with? Number 5) Are you too available between midnight and 5am? So when you
get those late night last minute texts for say a late night rendezvous, are you available instead
of sleeping and having some respect and not allowing someone to contact you at that time? So
those are the 5 ways your neediness shows up. Now I'm going to give you how to deal with it and
how to make yourself more emotionally attractive. So, Number 1) With over texting you just do 50% -
you've got to wean yourself off doing more than that okay. So it's putting your full attention
elsewhere, as in get off your phone, stop checking to see if people have replied and when they don't
reply for a period of time whether it's a few hours, a few days, don't get on there and text
again, as in 'hey look at me look at me you didn't reply to me, give me some attention.'
So you got to give up that behaviour okay. Number 2) Fishing for information - you keep your lips
sealed okay. Thoughts don't have to turn into dialogue, so learn to relax, learn to be silent,
learn to hold your dignity and your self-respect and get really good at just..
..wait, wait, wait, okay. You don't need to know those sorts of things,
so practice saying to yourself 'really that's none of my business.'
Okay, Number 3) Giving up plans with friends of family - now this one is I think really important
because when you drop your friends and family to then go and see that person it really comes
from a place of 'I really need to get love from them' and you abandon your friends and family
which really when and if they find out it's not great because it makes you look desperate
and it makes them feel 2nd best okay. And you don't want to do that to people that you love
okay. Number 4) Checking social media - remind yourself that this is the 2nd best person's
activity because often when we go and check a certain person's social media it's to find
something out - who they're talking to, have they got anyone else in their life, is there someone
that they're flirting with and you're trying to find that stuff out. So it puts you in a not very
good position so give that up. If you want a good relationship you got to act like a person that is
secure, confident and doesn't engage in 2nd best person activities okay. Number 5) In terms of the
being texted and contacted between between 12am and 5am you know if someone's contacting you at
that time that's all well and good if they want to do that, but if you respond at that time you make
yourself really much too available and often let's be honest it can be for a booty call.
Do you really want to be contacted at the last minute and do you want to be contacted for that?
And if it is for that and you want more than just sex don't make yourself available and
you can contact them and reply the next day - go to sleep, switch your phone off
and act like someone who respects themselves by getting some sleep and not being on there ready
24/7 okay. How you treat yourself is how others will treat you, so this one is one I see a lot
where people disrespect themselves and make themselves available at any time. So this is
one you can change fairly quickly. Now in terms of that amazingly powerful question that I told you
at the beginning of this video, my good friend Sal whom I've known for about 25 years in Australia,
her question that she does on a regular basis in the morning at 5am when she does
her meditations - because she's a morning person - she asks god, source, or infinite intelligence
whichever you prefer: 'What is it that you would have me know today?' A beautiful question, a
question that is a receiving question, a listening question and it is stopping long enough to stop
saying to source 'I want this, I want this, give me this, give me this.' So have a think about
practicing this: 'God what is it you would have me know today?' And see what comes as an answer.
This is a beautiful question, a powerful question and something that I think is life-changing if you
can practice it on a regular basis. Try it for a month or two, it doesn't have to be at 5 in the
in the morning like my friend does but try it, see what comes, see what you can uncover and see
what beautiful, amazing messages can be delivered to you once you're receptive. So that's it for
today, lots of love and I will look forward to reading your comments down below about
how your neediness shows up. Do you have any of these 5 things?
Have you been working on correcting this and changing this in your self and becoming
someone who's secure, loved, wanted and good enough? And these are some of the ways that
you can do so. Lots of love everyone and I'll see you in the next YouTube.